My boyfriend is standing up in his sisters wedding. There aren't any cousins that are around my age, and I don't know any of her friends. Her and I are the same age, and we talk to each other when we see each other, but it's kind of formal and more like acquaintances than any kind of actual friendship. Where might I expect to be sitting at during the ceremony and the reception?
2007-02-23 06:20:57 · 10 answers · asked by Nicole N 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
You might be at a whole table of dates! Don't worry about where you are sitting. People only stay in their seats during dinner, which lasts all of 20 minutes. And during the ceremony it doesn't matter because its not a social time.
2007-02-23 06:29:24 · answer #1 · answered by Sara K 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Like other's have said, for the ceremony you'll sit on the bride's side. She may ask you to sit in the family pews. If not, sit in the row behind the family.
The reception isn't so easy. If the couple is having a head table with the bridal party, you won't be able to sit with your boyfriend. If they're having a family table you may be able to sit there with his family. There is a possiblility that you may have to sit with strangers. It's ok, your a big girl. Deal with it.
Have a few neutral topics you can talk about with others. This could be current events, pets, intrests, how you know the bride and groom, etc. Stay away from politcs, religion and other hot topics. Complemeting someone is always a great conversation starter. Use the wedding as a way to meet new people.
If possible, see if your boyfriend can ask his sister where you will be sitting during the reception so you'll have an idea of what to expect.
2007-02-24 14:32:58 · answer #2 · answered by Just Jess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
During the ceremony just let the usher seat you. You won't have to worry about conversation with other people since you shouldn't talk during the ceremony anyway. As for the reception, you will most likely not sit with the wedding party like that first guy said. That table is usually reserved for the wedding party and that's it. Ask your bf if she is going to have a seating arangement and who you will be sitting by. If you can just sit wherever you want see if it would be ok to bring another couple along to the reception. If you have a friend or sister who could bring her bf or husband you would have someone else to talk to when your bf is busy with his wedding duties. Ulitmately though it's up to the bride and groom, so don't get upset if they say no. Strike up a conversation with whoever you end up sitting by. It's only one night. You will survive.
2007-02-23 06:34:48 · answer #3 · answered by Steph 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well the usher should seat you in close proximity of the family pews, if the bride doesn't designate that you should be seated in the family pews. I can't understand why she wouldn't.
You don't have to be best of friends with Sis; you are her Brother's Girlfriend. I'd ask.
Depending on whether there is room, you will probably not be sitting at the bride's table, which then places you on-your-own. This can be awkward when you don't know many people. So this is one of those times when you r-e-a-l-l-y need good social skills. If you don't have them, now would be a good time to work on them.
Smile, be friendly. Be up-to-date on current events. Learn a cutesy joke, nothing off-color. Have a couple of conversation openers. Know how to introduce yourself. Shake hands properly, not hard but not like a limp dish rag, either. There's NOTHING worse.
Don't sit & mope because your boyfriend can't spend all evening with you. He doesn't need to have to worry about you, your insecurities. He doesn't want to have to babysit. Show him & the others you are a confident woman. And if you're not, pretend. You'll be just fine.
2007-02-23 06:43:48 · answer #4 · answered by weddrev 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hopefully she will have a seating chart just for this purpose. However, since your boyfriend will be sitting at the wedding/family table, ask her if you can bring a friend along so that you at least have some one to talk to. Or ask her or your bf to introduce you to perhaps a hip aunt or adult family member who's not to old and stuffy you can hang out with. Otherwise you'll end up sitting by yourself in a roomful of strangers for a goo bit of the night. But keep in mind that after dinner, everyone gets up and mingles so you can have your bf back then. Good luck.
2007-02-23 07:30:00 · answer #5 · answered by Brandy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about it...
You should sit near the front at the church...where his parents will be sitting. As long as your bf isn't the Best Man, he can seat you (even if he is, he can still seat you).
At the reception, they will tell you exactly what table to sit at. You sit there. It may be with your bf and the rest of the wedding party, it may be with his parents, it may be with a table full of wedding party dates. Either way, after the meal you can be sitting with your bf the rest of the night.
2007-02-23 06:49:28 · answer #6 · answered by Just tryin' to help 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a guest at the wedding. You can sit anywhere on the bride's side. Your boyfriend will be standing up front.
At the reception, they will probably have seating cards.
2007-02-23 06:30:56 · answer #7 · answered by dragonsong 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
For the ceremony, on the bride's side. For the reception, they may have a seating chart. Otherwise, just find a friendly face and ask if you can join them.
2007-02-23 07:26:11 · answer #8 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well since you are his girlfriend and not his wife, you probably won't be receiving any special treatment when it comes to where you are seated. You shouldn't really worry about it too much.
2007-02-23 08:26:01 · answer #9 · answered by Justyn's Mommy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i would think that you could sit at the wedding partys table . It is only right since your b/f is in the wedding .
2007-02-23 06:25:03 · answer #10 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 2⤊ 4⤋