I am a grad student about to finish. I am marreid from last 3 years. I met this guy is school, we became friends and everything was fine. I was being helpful to him and I am helpful to all my friends!! And now this guy seems to have some feelings towards me...he said he loved me!!! And it was an "i love you" in a romantic way. he was really serious when he said that!!
I was shattered and dissappointed because all along i thought i had found another good friend! And how could he say something like that despite knowing i am married!! What should i tell him....now i feel so uncomfortable even talking to him!!! Gosh guys always spoil a good friendship.
P.S: I never flirtied with him. I have all along treated him like a good friend and thats it!!!
2007-02-23 06:15:33 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sit him down and be honest with him, and tell him, that he is taking this wrong, that I am happily married, and I intend to stay that way, and as far as you are concerned I thought of you as a great friend, and that is how I would like it to be, say I have never sent you any other messages, other then friendship, so please don't spoil it now. Say can we be friends?
2007-02-23 06:23:35 · answer #1 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it was wrong of him 2 say tht when he knows ur married. however he has obviously fallen 4 u. mayb he feels bad about it but felt he had 2 tell u sum way because he hated keeping it in. u obviously dont feel da same way so u need to tell him, also that ur happily married. if hes a gd friend, hell bak of for a while to try and get ur friendship bak on track. if he takes it the hard way then hes likely to ignor u or make u feel bad. if in any doubt plz dont let him pressure u, if this happens speak 2 someone and dont forget to tell ur husband about this. he needs to no and he will feel good that u trust him.
2007-02-23 06:24:46 · answer #2 · answered by minxi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its hard to say. I have started to have strong feelings for women that had classes and study groups with. I think it has alot to do with a woman being nice. You see you are probably easy to talk to and very accessible when he is feeling down and needs someone to talk to. I think alot of guys would like to date women they have become close friends with. There are a couple of women that I know that if they were to break from their current relationship I would like to date. I would however never tell a married woman I Love her. That's just a little too much, I would be a little careful with him. Those are feelings he needs to keep to himself or tell a psychiatrist.
2007-02-23 06:26:16 · answer #3 · answered by Paul S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll just have to tell him AGAIN you're married, and not about to
ruin that relationship. Tell him in a straight forward way that he
has two choices----1) He accepts you ONLY as a friend and nothing more. Or....2) He leaves you alone completely--there
can NEVER BE a romantic relationship here.
2007-02-23 06:26:27 · answer #4 · answered by SlownEasy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys and Girls can never really be friends, because the guy will always want you romantically. You have to keep your guy friends on a real superficial level.
2007-02-23 06:19:02 · answer #5 · answered by Caleb F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know, the same thing happens to me all the time. It's very frustrating because I have very few long term male friends.
2007-02-23 06:20:09 · answer #6 · answered by passionatemilf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont let this infatuation spoils your blissful marriage.Explain and talk things out to him nicely that this has to stop..You cant accept him.And like it or not he has to accept this fact.just concentrate on your husband.The guy you really are in love with.Good luck in your future endeavours!!
2007-02-23 06:20:41 · answer #7 · answered by Angel_Love 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you should have told him rite then and there that you were married i think he prbly feels like your leading him on
ps guys do ruin everything
2007-02-23 06:20:43 · answer #8 · answered by serena 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋