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Question

my daughter is 2 yrs old and she's very clingy and im worried she wont settle down in nursery she wont even let me go to the toilet on my own i took her to a daycare centre for a hr on her own and all she did was stand by the cupboard and watch out the window waiting for me i worry about her not getting on with no 1 she wont even stay on her own with my auntie she screams the house down till i pick her up she has to bring her bak after half hr

Answer 1

Believe me, she will get over it. I know it is nerve racking ,but from my experience ,it will last a few months ,and then she will be fine.Hang in there I know it is tough. I've been thru it.

Answer 2

The child care providers understand that shes uneasy. Take her to the daycare center and stay for about 30-45 minutes (at first and making it less time every day). Interact with the other children and the teacher. Sneak out of the room when she starts to engage the others. She will cry for a while but will eventually grow tired of it. When you pick her up ask her how her day was and how much fun she had. She will most likely say she hates it. Explain to her that you have to drop her off just for a little while. After about a week she will stop the crying all together.

Answer 3

Your on the right track, but your not leaving her long enough. Leave her for a couple of hours at the day care and with the aunt. Don't pick her up immediately upon your return, but tell her what a big girl she is getting to be. Sometimes I don't know what is harder the baby being left or the parent leaving the baby. Good luck and don't give up.

Answer 4

I think she is too young to push hard if it is not necessary. Try leaving her with people who she trusts first. Go to a family or friends house (better yet, let them come over) and interact together. Then leave for 10 min, 15 the next time, etc... Slowly until she gets used to it. Explain to her that you will be gone for X amount of time, that she will be staying with X who loves to take care of her, and that you will be coming back because you love her. Tell her that she needs to spend time without you, just like Daddy (or whoever else is close in your life that she sees often).

Answer 5

I have five kids and my youngest is five and she still can't stay the night at grandmas. Her grandma lives 100ft.away from us! But the other kids have never had a prob. I think it might be her being the baby. Is your daughter an only child and used to having you there all the time or maybe she's the baby and used to having people she knows treat her special like my daughter. But either way enjoy the time you have of her not wanting to be away from you because believe me she will be a teenager soon enough and won't want to spend any time with you!! I have three at home.

Answer 6

Put your foot down. Make sure she relizes you can't be by her side everytime. Little kids go through that stage but should get over it. Take her to her aunts, and the nursery more often so she gets used to the feeling. Lay some ground rules and you should be able to use the restroom on your own.

Answer 7

You don't want to hover around her because she will grow to be spoiled and won't take rejection well I know no mother wants her daughter rejected but she will in her life she has to learn that she can't always have her way and the two of you need to be apart sometimes when she is a teenager she won't always want to have you hanging around her and you are just to be sure she is okay but remember the more you push the more a person pulls all ages both ways don't worry about your daughter she will grow out of it I hope

Answer 8

You have to let her cry sometimes. Read the book from Nanny 911. For example, you need to explain to her, even though she won't understand, that Mommy is going to the bathroom and you can sit and watch this cartoon. Really, read the book, it's great. Has a big section on this. Good Luck, remember, you are the boss!

Answer 9

I went through this with my daughter, it was tough and no one would watch her for a long time. It gets better it just takes time. Some kids are slower and more unsure of themselves as a seperate entity but trust me, someday she'll be a teenager and the only way you'll know she's home is the music coming out of her bedroom....

Answer 10

Sounds like separation anxiety and its very normal for her age. When you take her to daycare give her something of your to hold on to that way she knows your coming back in time she will see there is nothing to worry about. And will get involved with the other kids. Here's a article that you may relate too.
http://www.babycenter.com/expert/toddler/toddlerbehavior/13522.html

Answer 11

You're going to have to let her cry. I know it sounds cruel, however in order for her to grow out of this you're going to have to teach her that she can't always get what she wants by crying. You'll have to take her to someones house that handle a crying two year old. You'll also have to talk to her about it, she's old enough to understand that you are leaving. So let her know before you take her to drop her off that you're going to do so and that you won't be back for a while. I hope it works out for you.