possibly molested as a child???

Question

I have experienced these kind of problems for a very long time it doesnt get any better. I also suffer from severe anger problems..as well as these

How is your esteem?Low self esteem!
Are you agressive in your behavior?Unfortunately yes
Any substance abuse?Drink alot and smoke..Use to do coke about 5 years ago..
Eating disorders?Suffered from anorexia but am coming up from it i am now 108 and am 5'2
Any depression or anxiety?I have severe depression and axiety attacks.
Trouble with work?Only concentration
I cannot trust men, I hate to be touched, Very uncomfortable when i get stared at by men, I feel like i'm gross, Can't stop thinking about certain times in my childhood, very questionable..
As for my relationships I can't get close to men, I am very tempermental towards them.I always tend to ruine long term relationships and short term ones, I still cannot trust them..
I am now married and I still have a hard time trusting him, I get very moody with him and push him away

Answer 1

I'm not sure about you getting molested because just from a questionair no one can be completely sure but on the issue of trusting your husband,theres nothing wrong with not trusting someone, especially a guy. If you don't trust him, then don't trust him. From the sound of things that happened in your life, trust is a serious problem. But if you feel uncomfortable with your feelings then just seek some help in the medical field.
Don't worry be happy! what happen in the past should stay in the past, look to making your future memories happy.

Answer 2

you married a man that obviously loves you regardless of how crazy you think you are.
you have to think about how if someone can look past all those things you dwell on everyday, you should be able to see you the way he sees you.
being molested as a child is a hard thing to overcome, but you should realize that the problem and the situations were not your fault.
you could get help, but only if you feel like you could really open up to someone--they can help you sort out all the confusion, and it's not embarassing or scary once you get started. and i'm sure your husband would hold your hand or even go with you if you wanted someone you knew there.
the eating and the substances are controllable--your life is controllable--you CAN be better. you are a person that deserves love and happiness and all those things you think have passed you.

Answer 3

I feel really bad for you and how you feel. I am also surprised that people on here haven't had empathy for your situation. Well maybe speaking with someone close to you (perhaps your husband) about things that happened in your childhood will help to draw those things out. It's important to talk about it. Whatever happened wasn't your fault and you shouldn't be ashamed of who you are. I can see why you might not trust a man if you were betrayed by a man at a young age. I'm not sure what your story is, but from what you say, you should really draw these things out.

Answer 4

Girl, Get a grip. You know what you sound to me like you may be a little more of a spoiled brat or something.If you can recognize all your symptoms yourself,know they are bad but don't do anything to change them and know you are treating someone like crap,you are being a fool.Go talk to a counselor or psychologist and start to work on being a better person.Your past is over and cant be changed, but unless you want your future to be just as crappy and regretful you need to stop making it o-k to be the way you are.Trust me, I suffered from depression and Anxiety both really bad and Once I knew it was wrecking my life and those around me I stopped sitting and feeling sorry for myself like a punk and went and got help to be a better person and stop being a burden on everyone else! All the Drama is not commendable and life is much better than you are letting it be.Who cares about your past it isn't going to help change crap,get your head out of your selfish butt and do something good for you and that poor man your married to and pray it isn't wrecked for good all ready.

Answer 5

As many have already written here, you need to see a profesional to help you at the very least ease the depression, and hopefully, help you sort through these issues. Do it soon..if you have medical insurance talk with your primary care dr for a referral. If you dont then there are free mental health services available to you.

Answer 6

This is not necessarily a result of possibly being molested, it can have many other causes. Go see a therapist and get the help you deserve.

Answer 7

My advice would be to talk to a therapist, one you trust and who won't fill your head with false memories, and do it in private. Dumbasses hang out on this thing, answering questions with stupid phrases, because they don't like the world.

Answer 8

Duckie, you need to see a therapist and tell him/her exactly what your sharing here. I admire you for your bravery to tell total strangers of your troubles. Anger is a acid that will destroy ones soul, so please get some help. And if don't find a therapist that you like right away, be patient. I'm a survivor of sexual abuse myself, so I can relate to what your feeling. Please feel free to contact me via my profile. Good luck.

Answer 9

What you need to do is see a therapist and discuss these things with a professional so that you can work on them.

Answer 10

Go, Therapy, Now, Hurry