I am having a very small wedding (10-20 people) in Colorado in a few months. My family lives in Washinton state, his family lives in Illinois. This means a lot of friends and family can not attend especially under such short notice. We would like to let every know that we are getting married under no obligation to attend.
He says: Send invitations to everyone even if we know they can not come.
I say: Send invites to only the people we know can attend, and then send wedding announcements after the ceremony.
Is there a proper way to do this?
2007-02-23 05:58:36 · 18 answers · asked by joolushko 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Send invites to all close friends & family members.
2007-02-23 06:01:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wedding these days are such personalized events, there are very few "rules" when it comes to them. However, you've asked the "proper" way so here's what etiquette will dictate: Everyone gets an invitation. Wedding announcements are not a replacement for an invite and some (especially the older generation) will get offended if they are not technically invited. Like I said, this is just what the "rules" will say. If you are tight on space at the reception and don't mind being a little untraditional, then go for it! (And just so you know, everyone that gets an invite "should" send you a gift… so you’ve got that going for you! :) ) Congratulations!
2007-02-23 15:38:22 · answer #2 · answered by katiekomo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi
Congratulations!
Personal Wedding Website is the best solution to your problem. It is a invitation and announcement.
Personal Wedding Websites are becoming a must have for couples getting married in this day and age. There is so much information to circulate:
# Sharing your love story with all your loved ones,
# Sharing your wedding photos,
# Details of your wedding reception or dinner,
# Sharing your wish list on specific wedding gifts
It is a central place where you can store all of the above, imagine how easy it is for you and your family and friends - They can read about your wedding story and wedding details, see your wedding photos, take a look at your wedding wish list, view and sign your guestbook and also rsvp online, even when they are living anywhere around the world and are not able to attend your wedding.
Visit http://www.klikks.com/unique_invitations and read a testimonial from a bride.
Wedding Day is a Big Day, so share the Joy with your loved ones in style.
2007-02-26 11:13:40 · answer #3 · answered by angerina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to send everyone you want to attend an invitation. When they send the reply card saying they can't, call them to let them know you understand. Follow that up with wedding announcements with a picture to make them feel more included. You never know who might be able to attend. And consider that if they are invited and can not attend they might send a gift anyway. That's always good for young couples starting out. Good luck!
2007-02-23 07:00:34 · answer #4 · answered by ktzlilg 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are willing to have a larger wedding if additional friends and family are willing to attend, then I suggest sending out invitations to all. You could even add a quick note saying something regarding your understanding towards those that cannot attend due to the travel. If you want to keep it small, then I would only invite those that will attend and then send out announcements.
2007-02-23 07:44:56 · answer #5 · answered by rockthis102 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
In Mexico we send invitations through mail and we deliver them personally if the person lives close by. If we are SURE they are NOT going to attend the wedding.
We send an "invitation" with no tickets to the party, this means you make them participate of the celebration but you understand they can't come.
2007-02-23 06:11:08 · answer #6 · answered by andee_52950 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have it right. If you are already planning a small wedding and send out invites to everyone then you will not be prepared in the event more show than expected. So send out to close family that you HAVE to have there and send announcements out afterwards. Unless you are prepared for more people proper etiquette says that you invite what you can accomodate.
2007-02-23 06:29:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anne E 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The proper way to do this is to send ALL invitations out and let the invited guests make their own decision if they would like to travel to your wedding.
By you sending out only the invitations that you KNOW will attend, you are making a VERY LARGE assumption and may just alienate certain family members with them thinking you don't have the common decency to invite them! (and you know what they say about assuming!)
2007-02-23 06:10:50 · answer #8 · answered by Nibbles 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congrats on your engagement! But if you are having so few people at your wedding, why bother with invites at all? It sounds like it's going to be very informal, and if they are that close to you, I'm sure you'll be talking to them in person anyway. I'd say just send the announcements after the ceremony.
2007-02-26 17:28:06 · answer #9 · answered by endorable 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why waste the money to make and send the invit if you know most people are not able to come. (wedding invit can cost anywhere from $10-$25 a piece.) just have your and his immediate family come to colorado for the wedding. have someone video tape the wedding, and make CD copies and send them to the rest of the family. additionally if you want, have afterwedding parties in washington state, and in Illinois. you can play the wedding on a big screen in the background.
2007-02-23 07:52:44 · answer #10 · answered by scubagirl 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋