I mean, come on, tell him something! Tell him he's annoying, ugly, or whatever it is that's keeping you from liking him! I really loved this girl once and she would say she didn't like me like that when I would ask her out (we were friends). She never ever could tell me a reason for not liking me or tell me anything she didn't like about me even after she got angry with me and would never talk to me anymore (so far it's been ten months).
I gave her a card a week ago(Valentines Day) letting her know I miss her and I would like to be friends again at least, and I have decided to try and let her go since she hasn't said anything to me yet. The only thing I don't get is why all her friends like me but she still doesn't like me anymore. I feel like I never even got a fair chance to, you know, prove myself worthy of her. Anyway, I've met someone else now and so far we get along great. But I still have feelings for this girl even though we're not talking.
2007-02-23 05:54:34 · 23 answers · asked by Icebox -0: Never Again 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I never pestered her. Close to when she had gotten mad at me I started only calling her once a week. Before that we talked nearly everyday because we never got to talk that much in school. She got mad at me because I told something about her that I shouldn't have to a friend, that she was falling in love with someone else, and she got angry at me and called me to fuss at me then when I would try to talk to her she would ignore me. I stopped trying then tried again 2 months later thinking I needed to give her space. We talked a little then I asked her if she was still mad at me, to which she said no, she just didn't want to talk to me anymore.
2007-02-23 06:20:00 · update #1
Also, 90% of people especially girls told me to get her something and that would be the best thing to do for her on V-Day. I didn't know wether I should have or shouldn't have.
2007-02-23 06:22:08 · update #2
Women don't answer this question because they don't like conflict. They know why they don't like you, but they won't say it. And it's not because they don't want to hurt you. It's because they don't want to feel guilty about hurting you. And the fact that it could help you in the end doesn't matter. Telling you that your breath stinks, or that your clothes are awful, or that one day you mistreated your waitress, whatever... letting you know could be useful for you, because you can change. But it doesn't matter to her. She doesn't care about you anymore enough to give you the benefit of her advice. She would rather not bother with the difficulty of the conflict that has a 1% chance of arising out of telling you her reasons. It's just too risky to tell you the truth and it's too easy to just ignore you.
Move on to a girl worthy of respect and love.
2007-02-23 06:07:10 · answer #1 · answered by SmartAlex 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes we just don't fancy someone. They might fit the bill on paper but the chemistry isn't there. Or we simply don't like them. Even if we know why we don't like or fancy them, we might not want to hurt them by telling them why. There really isn't any point in pushing it. You will just drive that person farther away anyway. Sending a card in these circumstances was a big mistake. It will have made you look clingy and needy and she is probably still running! Just friends? Who are you kidding? It sounds like this woman is being wise. There is nothing worse than an unequal relationship - where one person is smitten and the other not. Ultimately, the one who is smitten will pay the price.
2007-02-23 06:14:33 · answer #2 · answered by pineapple 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you really have to have a reason? Does it matter? Think about it. If it's something she can't or won't name, chances are it's of no importance to you.
There are many times when men and women meet and for one reason or another, one or both of them are just not interested in anything more than friendship - sometimes not even that. We're not all intended to get along. Sometimes the reason is not obvious. That's usually referred to as a lack of chemistry.
If you pestered this person after she already declined to date you, then that is the reason she no longer wants to be friends. Do her and yourself a favor and just leave her alone.
2007-02-23 06:08:06 · answer #3 · answered by J F 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You'll just have to get over her. Giving her things will only push her away further. Give her space. You see, women are weak creatures who would rather lie than be honest and tell you why she doesnt want you. In her mind she thinks she is doing the right thing by not hurting you, but women dont seem to realise that men just want honesty. Shes more likely to give you a lie or say nothing because she doesnt want to hurt you. Thats just how women work.
2007-02-23 06:07:15 · answer #4 · answered by Jimbo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are YOU generlizing? You base your opinion of ALL women on what ONE has done. Besides just because YOU love someone doesn't mean they HAVE to feel the same about you. She didn't NEED a reason to not like you. She wasn't interested in her and yet you continued to bother her. Which then became her REASON for not liking you. MOVE on, GET A LIFE. Quit stalking this poor girl.
Frankly if I were the girl I would have had you arrested for harassment and stalking.
2007-02-23 06:01:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
A lot of guys behave the same way. It's more common for people to not give reasons for rejecting someone and/or breaking up, than it is for them to offer an explanation or provide one when asked.
People have their reasons, but are often uncomfortable expressing them. They will claim that they don't want to hurt the other person's feelings, but the real reason most often is they don't want to put themselves in an uncomfortable or awkward position.
2007-02-23 05:57:36 · answer #6 · answered by . 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Females don't always have a way of expressing how they feel because sometimes there's more than one feeling at the same time, blurring what they really feel.
As for reasons...maybe she can't/won't tell you because she made her choice by gut feeling rather than logic?
Just remember that women are harder to understand than men and they can't tell you why they do what they do, or are how they are.
Focus on your new lady and forget the one that walked away.
2007-02-23 06:01:26 · answer #7 · answered by sheeza_dame 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a nice guy and only she can answer the question "why" that you are asking. I think you have done a great service to yourself by moving on and perhaps soon you will get over her. Best of luck.
2007-02-23 05:59:33 · answer #8 · answered by inquisitive 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey there are millions of oppurtunities in the world, trust me. Plus everything happens for a reason that might lead to something greater.
As for your question she probably wasn't sure, there are a million reasons not to do a thing but that doesnt mean that they shouldnt go for it.
2007-02-23 06:00:02 · answer #9 · answered by Christian G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she doesn't like you because you don't give her much attention compared to some of her female friends.
Be sure your attention is only on her.
Also, sometimes it just doesn't feel right. The electicity is not there for her.
If it is this, then probably let her go gently.
2007-02-23 05:58:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋