I have been on this site all day,I never thought I could hurt so bad
over a woman who just dosent want me anymore.Her perfect right.
I hate myself rigth now.I am to old for thie feeling ****,The best answer I got today was cut and bleed
2007-02-23 05:35:45 · 12 answers · asked by domani 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Babe, I feel for you; I really do. And I'm sorry. But get your act together!!! Just cos u r 46 and single doesn't mean your world is going to end. And if it does, you'll just build a new one! You are NOT too old for anything do u understand? I know how hard it is to put your heart out there every time and just wait to get burned. and u know you will..cos if you don't break up, one dies sooner or later. But that's not the point, is it now? Think of all the good times you had together and not focus on how you don't have them anymore! Don't think of your breakup as an ending, think of it as the beginning of a new era where you will met new people and learn new things about yourself and the people around you. I know it hurts and I also know how much, but it will get better, I promise. You chose to put your heart on the line (nothing wrong with that) and you also knew what the consequences would be if it didn't work out. So you just have to take your time, focus on yourself and in time you will find yourself thinking of her less and less. But don't expect it to happen overnight! And most of all, DO NOT GIVE UP! DO NOT stop searching!You never expected to find and love her so much, yet she came along...and so will the next one. Patience, my friend, patience. She will come...and if you are not dead, you are certainly NOT too old! There is still time ; don't rush...believe me, when you least expect it, she will come. But first take time, focus on yourself and become comfortable with who you are and even with being alone by yourself until you are ready to go out there again. You know that this pain u r feeling is but a small price to pay for this thing we call love...good luck!
2007-02-23 06:04:51 · answer #1 · answered by Kat ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man, you sound really upset. Please know that things like this happen to the best of us. I've been there. I'm having hard time letting go of someone now. It just takes time. Get out do things with friends or family. Don't sit around thinking about it, because you can't think the situation better. Go out and have drink with someone(you trust) and talk about it. But do not drink the situation better, if you know what I mean. Time just time! A day turns into a week...a week into a month...and one day it will be far behind you.
2007-02-23 13:52:53 · answer #2 · answered by the anomaly23 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well that certainly isn't the answer is it? I think you have to mourn her. It is like losing your love one and you know they can't ever come back. It hurts, tears will come and even anger. It will take a long time but you will get over it. She'll be tucked away in that special place in your heart. Someone will enter your life in due time, when you are able to give your heart completely to them . Grief is one hard emotion to handle. You are grieving now and to end up healthy one has to do do. Best of luck
2007-02-23 13:42:44 · answer #3 · answered by lucyshines49 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
damn man i'm going through the same thing...my ex told me she doesn't want me in her life right now...I thought about giving up on everything and then I realized the reason i felt so bad and lonely is b/c I'd lost myself in her. After we broke up I focused on pleasing ME and learning to love myself and I'm still here. Now I answer to no one and do things on my own schedule and don't have to plan my life around my ex's schedule. I think about her from time to time but it is really an afterthought like if I see something on tv. Just take of Number One and that's You man... good luck.
2007-02-23 13:43:50 · answer #4 · answered by so_sincere 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're much more intelligent than to think about doing such silly stuff. yes! break-ups are difficult & all of us go through it. it's just that some handle it differently. if she does'nt want you then its her loss. as i always say, break-ups just mean that you are getting one step closer to your true love & your lifetime of eternal happiness & everlasting love. so dont be bitter about having to let her go cos its the best thing you could have done for yourself & her. be grateful that you experienced a small part of life & that she made you smile for that moment. now its over! dont let it bring you down. just pick up & move on. theres someone much more special & deserving of your love just waiting for you to find her. you will be all right. good luck man!!!!!!!!!
2007-02-23 13:51:30 · answer #5 · answered by serendipity 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, don't do that, that is silly.
Hurting yourself will only create more pain and blood.
Reverse the effect. Meet someone, and the best way to get over someone else is to transfer some of your old feelings for someone else who you like. It is an easy process to forget an old fling. Don't take it on yourself.
2007-02-23 13:42:38 · answer #6 · answered by freezie 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I agree with the first guy, and then rub it in her face that you've moved on(even if you havent). She'll get jealous and probably want you back. My ex hated me when I kept harrassing her to have me back, but as soon as I moved on and found someone else, she mentioned she still had feelings for me.
2007-02-23 13:42:51 · answer #7 · answered by Jimbo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No girl is worth doing that to yourself, break ups are hard on everything, just try to keep yourself occupied to keep her off your mind. There are plenty of girls out there, just take your pick...good luck
2007-02-23 13:40:28 · answer #8 · answered by Army Boy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yup... agree with the other guy... go to a strip club or pick up a one night stand on the internet... move on man, screw that chick... she'd love it now for you to be all depressed about her... dont be that guy... move on... pain goes away very fast!
2007-02-23 13:40:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
befor asking how to stop thinking of her pleaz think of why she hated you after loving you? dont let you love leaves you easily and if you failed to get her again then do what the others says..... the person can love once
2007-02-23 13:46:59 · answer #10 · answered by diana 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋