I babysat this child from August to December 2006. I tried over and over to get the mother to delice the poor child but the woman claimed she couldn't because she was pregnant. I tried calling social services to make her delice her child and home but they don't deal with lice. I still watch the child off and on. I have tried repeatedly to delice the child but there are way too many bugs and at least 6 lice eggs per strand of hair. Clue on how this "woman" is. Her 4 yr old is for one man, her 11 month old is for another man, and she has another child with another man who is about to turn two months old. I don't want to stereotype but she is nasty. Advice. The 11 month old has had lice twice. The father has joint custody of his baby and he is sick of it and so am I. The father is nothing like the mother. She left the father when se found out she was pregnant and told him to have nothing to do with her nor his baby. So he took her o court. I need advice on the lice! Help!
2007-02-23 05:33:41 · 10 answers · asked by stepmom of 1 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I would talk to the father and have him fight for custody. You are not going to be able to get rid of the lice if he continues to go back to a home that is infested with them.
If you know the child's doctor perhaps you or the father could contact them. Lice for that long just can't be good. Honestly, having lice for that long can not be good for the child.
2007-02-23 05:45:13 · answer #1 · answered by nana4dakids 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lice are icky but are not a health hazard. In order to get rid of them you have to sterilize the whole house, she was pregnant and was right not to use the delicing chemicals. With three little ones under five, it is nearly impossible to delice a house without help. I can understand your frustration and concern but if you want to hep the kids, you need to see things from mom's side.
You will need to make sure that none of the kids have any respiratory allergies and find a place for mom and the kids to stay for at least two days. Then the older kids need to be shampooed with lice treatment and have the nits combed out of their hair. The new baby cannot be treated chemically and so if the new baby has lice, none of this will matter until he/she is older. If not, then the family needs to have all their clothes washed and leave the house. Someone else will then need to wash all of the bedding and laundry and treat the mattresses, the upholstery, and the carpets. Two days after the house has been treated mom and the kids can come home. If you and someone else want to volunteer spending the time and energy and probably the money (I don't know any new moms who can afford to spen 2-3 nights in a motel or something)to do this then go for it. If you can't then I hope you realize how impossible this is going to be for her right now. I cannot attest to her parenting, I would have had my family get rid of the lice but she may be overwhelmed and not have any family to do it and not know what to do. Compassion, understanding, and a willingness to see the world from someone else's point of view will help more than a hundred nasty calls to everyone you can think of.
2007-02-23 13:51:55 · answer #2 · answered by Huggles-the-wise 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should call child services again and report neglegt. What she is doing is not right. I think the child is probably immune to the lice shampoo from using so much. I know this sounds weird but use mayonase. It has to be pure mayonase not miracle whip and then put a shower cap on his head and he will need to keep it on over night. this does work when the shampoo is not helping. If you do this though the mother is going to have to clean her house or it will never go away. I think the best thing for all the children involved is to be removed from the home. The only people who will be able to do that is social services and I know they seem to take some cases lightly and say it is not neglegt. I would just keep calling. Good Luck I hope this helps
2007-02-23 14:02:25 · answer #3 · answered by mamaof2 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I really feel bad for her. I really feel badly for the children. I know I'm going to get fussed at but I feel that maybe she needs some support. Firstly, she may have something going with her, because she has had so many children for various different men. as to the lice not familiar with it at all. But social services have so many different reasons why the will not investigate. They are overwhelmed with dead beat parents. I know this sounds stupid but you need to reach out a little further. From experience, don't be a person who just states the problem but don't try to be a part of the solution. I had so many people when I was growing up to say that's a shame how your mother takes care of you all. No one tried to really save us though. It has caused so many other problems now that I am grown then anyone could se back all of those years.
Be a part of the solution, if you don't when those children grow up they will maybe see you and others as a part of the problem. everyone wanted to save us but no one did.
2007-02-23 15:21:44 · answer #4 · answered by Da Queen 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to the father tell him about the situation. That is just Nasty the mother probably has it also. Be careful for your self. Go buy one of the lice kits and wash the kids hair but remember not only that but the whole house has to be cleaned if it is that bad. I watch a friend of mine do that to her girls because she was to cheap to buy the cleaner and with live bugs in your hair isn't right at all.
I will call social services and if she is a bad mother. Tell the Mother how wrong it is make it a point for her to listen.
2007-02-23 13:49:05 · answer #5 · answered by abbs 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would call social services again. They may not "deal with lice", but it sounds to me like its getting to the point of a health issue for this child.
2007-02-23 13:41:42 · answer #6 · answered by mamasquirrel 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There are many things you can do. You can call the police on her. You can call the county health department. You can call the city for having a house that is not fit for living. Obviously it is infested.
Good Luck.
2007-02-23 13:47:29 · answer #7 · answered by besitos2610 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Have the father fight for custody ...
It's not really your fight, you've done what you can...
The father needs to document it and file for custody...she's obviously a ho and she's obviously an unfit mother.
Her children have parasites and she doesn't care?? She has no business having those kids.
2007-02-23 13:39:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Poor kid. That's just nasty!
2007-02-23 14:39:00 · answer #9 · answered by Alison 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that you did all that u could by calling social services.
its her child let her do wutever she wants to do.
i think she is disgusting.
2007-02-23 13:45:33 · answer #10 · answered by the.journey.is.the.reward. C.P. 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋