So my bf and I have been going out for almost 2 years now,I was madly in love with him,but lately he's changed a lot and I cant get through to him...I tried to talk to him and fix things,but it seems that the situation is getting worse...I've got a friend that i had a huge crush on and he's taking such good care of me and I'm afraid that I have feelings for him too.
the situation with my bf has being going on for almost the past year now...and my friend has been talking to me the past 2 months...what shall I do???plz help me,I'm sad :(
I love my bf,but I hate the way he's acting!
2007-02-23 05:24:34 · 12 answers · asked by me 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ok, i know there will be people here who will say just dump him, but having been in that situation myself, that was the one thing people always said that drove me up the wall.
so here's what you should do. i know you love him, so make a pro con list. think about the amount of time that you spend fighting, or disagreeing, and think about the long term. will some of the things he is doing put him in a bad place in the next five years? if so, do you really want to be a part of it?
you are in high school, and even though almost nobody stays together afterwards, give that some thought, too. dating is about trying your options.
but, if you break up with the boyfriend to go out with the friend, and it doesn't work out, then you might not be able to go back to the boyfriend.
so think about it. try the pro/con list. worked for me.
2007-02-23 05:33:03 · answer #1 · answered by resistance fighter1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This can only be answered personally because there are some who would be willing to stick it out with the boyfriend and there are others who wouldn't even be with their boyfriend for a month if they acted differently. Personally, I'd confront the boyfriend and if he doesn't respond in a sense that things get better then you might need to end it with him. As far as the other guy is concerned, focus on the boyfriend issue right now. If it means stay away from boy #2 then so be it but focus on what you really want to work and make it known to both as to what your doing. If your up front about things, those that really care and respect you will be there for you in the end. Good luck !!
2007-02-23 05:36:03 · answer #2 · answered by the_wicked_itch_of_the_west 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes people grow apart, and then sometimes people change in such a way that they are no longer healthy for our lives, and so we have to go our own way in order to be true to our being. simply put, figure out what you want. what makes you happy, is this new friend just a replacement for what's missing from your present relationship? or has the present really been over for some time, and it's time to move on? either way, stay true to yourself, because if you don't no one else will. and finally, finish the 1st relationship before you start a new one. blessed be.
2007-02-23 05:32:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you need to be strong and prepare for the possibility of ending the relationship. Give one more effort into talking to him and tell him of your wishes. If he is not repsonsive, you need to make a decision if you want to remain in that type of information. 2 years is a long time but don't be afraid to make changes and give yourself a life you want and deserve. However, be cautious about your feelings for your friend. You haven't been satified in your relationship and you see a better offer, so make sure you give yourself some time before jumping into another relationship. You don't want to ruin your friendship by making him into the "rebound" guy.
2007-02-23 05:34:14 · answer #4 · answered by MrGin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him know how you are feeling again, but this time give him an altimatum. If he truely loves you he will change, if he doesn't then you should go you seperate ways. Life is short and you only live once so be happy. Maybe your friend feels the same way about you and doesn't know how to approach you with it.
2007-02-23 05:31:18 · answer #5 · answered by mrscarter1977 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't need to have a "friend" that is a single guy who is helping you through your problems. Single guys prey on women like you. Have you ever thought about the fact that the problems with your boyfriend may have actually started when this "friend" started being there for you? If you ever want to have a serious, devoted relationship with anyone, you need to get rid of easy temptations like that.
2007-02-23 05:29:59 · answer #6 · answered by Mel 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are not married to your bf so take a break. You can't change men and you are obvioulsy not happy with him. Maybe you should try another fish in the sea.
2007-02-23 05:32:34 · answer #7 · answered by angie a 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
has anything happened in your boyfriend's family to cause this odd behavior? Sometimes stress gets carried over to the ones we love most. Other than that, if you really love your boyfriend, stick it out and work on it. It only gets more difficult once you're married. Once again, be gentle on him. Please only tell him you dislike his behavior. He might really need you and you don't ever want to make it personal to him.
2007-02-23 05:30:37 · answer #8 · answered by anneboz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he doesn't like you as much anymore!!
or care about you!
or maybe he is just being his self!!
like for the past 2 years he probably acted caring
and all
just so you guys could get together!!
but i say
go on and be with the one that cares about you!! (your friend)!!
2007-02-23 05:32:07 · answer #9 · answered by i tell it how it is! 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ask him about it... tell him if things continue the way they are.. the relationship will be ending soon.
2007-02-23 05:30:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋