ill try to make it brief because i know people hate long posts....sunday makes 1 year me and my g/f have been together she has been a little down lately but i spent the day with her wed and cheered her up....sent her some flowers this morning....i find sometimes she likes to spend alot of time together but sometimes she doesnt....we have broken up about 4 times already but always get back together.....wed night she said she doesnt think we need to see each other everyday or even every week...it kind of confused me so i called her yesterday to talk about it but she said she had things she gotta get done and she will call me later so she calls me back later last night and said can this wait a while im really tired and dont wanna get into it right now.....i dont wanna push her to talk about it because i know its just gonna drive her away......what to do what to do
2007-02-23 05:21:26 · 9 answers · asked by Revelation X 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i think maybe u should have a serious talk with her and say their cant be no more break ups and that she has to decide whether its over or not because thats worng thats whes pusing u away and then wanting to talk to u. or u could also ask her whats going in her life if its something about family freinds maybe shes sad and wants someone to listen to her and talk to her and help her with her problems.
2007-02-23 05:27:13 · answer #1 · answered by STEPHANIE S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can I ask how old you are?
If you're still in middle or high school, chances are she feels like she doesn't want to be "attached" to anyone, you know? This could even apply if you were in college. I can see how it's frustrating for you, though.
Of course, she could just be going through some emotional changes right now that she needs to come to terms with before involving you. It might be something only her girlfriends can help her through.
Either way, you need to be serious and straight-up tell her that you're concerned, and are always here to help no matter what (as long as you have intentions of being there for her, of course). Just make sure she knows that.
I'm a girl, and I was an awkward teenager emotionally. Women are complex, just give her room to breath when she wants it, and when you guys are having one of your close days, mention your concerns.
Unless there's been drastic changes in her mood, and you think she needs professional help, she's fine. She just needs time/space.
However, if you do have reason for major concern, contact a professional who can help you help her. School guidance couselor, friend, parent, etc.
2007-02-23 05:29:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
...four breakups huh? Sounds like it might be time for some mutual counseling together possibly. Set it up partner...and you make the appointment. If she won't go with you?...end the relationship with her now. You're both too immature to be having a relationship with one another otherwise. One of you is being pushy...and that's never gonna be any good in any relationship. Make your point...step back away from the relationship...and see what her response is gonna be. From that you'll know whether or not to continue this thing further. Some one appears to be needy. Guess which one my money's on? Get busy!
2007-02-23 05:30:15 · answer #3 · answered by scott s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Attaching yourself to some one who doesn't know what they want and is not looking for you to help them find it is a losing situation. I believe in being a samaritan and helping some one find their feet through a relationship (heck, women often pick men based on "potential"), but this girl seems lost and has no interest in finding herself. If not, then she's got an alternative agenda and you're not part of it. Suck it up and move on, she'll only make you miserable.
2007-02-23 05:28:46 · answer #4 · answered by wizbangs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's acting like that, then chances are there's something VERY strange going on. She doesn't seem to be taking your relationship very seriously, so move on, it's not even worth your time. You sound like one of the "good guys" that women are looking for, find one that can appreciate you and want to be with you. You shouldn't have to look very hard or very long. Good luck with whatever you decide to do
2007-02-23 05:29:21 · answer #5 · answered by Steel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like somebody would not act his age! At your age I dont think of text cloth messaging could desire to be your considerable variety of communication...I dont care how bust he's. he will make the time if he needs to talk and/or see you. Being which you have been buddies and then dated you may desire to do one in each of two issues. a million. you may desire to easily decrease your losses and comprehend which you deserve a guy and not a boy or 2. you may desire to be spiteful in view that he ended it like a new child and perchance call his ex (who you the two know) and clarify which you men have been seeing one yet another yet have not heard from him so which you needed make specific each little thing became ok...hehehe just to throw it obtainable which you have been mutually. enable her ask him some "stressful questions" :) the two way sturdy luck.
2016-09-29 12:46:25 · answer #6 · answered by linnon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok. you need to be straight forward. it might get her wanting to leave but that way she won't have to make things up. ask her during the middle of the day when you know she will be home or go to her house or something. jsut try to get in contact wiht her and be persistant if she keeps pushing that fact away. if your getting sick of it. break up. if she really loves you she will want you back.
2007-02-23 05:27:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time to move on... u dont need that crap!
Start out with a few one night stands to keep your mind off it...
2007-02-23 05:25:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it drives her away, so be it, but you need answers and not a runaround!
2007-02-23 05:26:30 · answer #9 · answered by Patricia S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋