So I was going out with my now ex-boyfriend for 8 months. He is 19 and I am 18. We got into a big fight one day about one of his ex's that I have been trying to forget about. The thing is I guess I have trust issues but we had been working on that together and it got a whole lot better throughout the relationship. The day after the big fight he told me he needed some time. Well I didn't expect him to isolate himself from me, so I kinda messed up the whole he needed time. After 3 days he said he still needed time, and gave me implied hope that we would get back together. So all together I gave him 2 days of complete isolated space. On the 4th day he told me we were over for good and I begged him to give me another chance. He said he didn't think of me the same way anymore and that he had fallen out of love with me. The thing that is confusing to me is the day before he still liked me. He said he still cares and wants to be my friend but still needs time. I really want him back. Help me!
2007-02-23 05:03:50 · 6 answers · asked by Cali4niadreaming 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
honestly I think he is hurt. there is noway in hell someone can wake up the next day and say "I've fallen out of love" unless they never were to begin with. My best advice to you is to do exactly the OPPOSITE of what you did before and let him have his space...UNINTERRUPTED. You can't make someone love you. Just be there for him if he needs you but don't force it. In the meantime, you need to be taking care of NUMBER ONE and that's you. Maybe you can conquer that trust issue you have.
2007-02-23 05:13:50 · answer #1 · answered by so_sincere 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If after 8 months it didn't work and he told you that it was over for good then it's over for good. When a guy says we can still be friends it means we can get together occassionally and have sex. Forget about him I wouldn't be surprised if before long he is back with his ex girlfriend. Your only 18 in a couple of years someone will say you remember so and so and you will say no because you will have forgotten all about him.
2007-02-23 13:14:28 · answer #2 · answered by Lou 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He was seeing someone else and now that he knows this other person is for real he doesn't need you or want you. Let go of him and find someone who will love you for you. I can't believe the people that fall for that " I need space or time alone thing" Its just an excuse to check out someone while your ( so called single). I am sorry he broke your heart but you really need to let him go and DON"T go backwards move forward. My guess is once this other relationship fails he will come knocking. Your not trash so since he has thrown you away DON"T let him come back and pick you up like trash.
2007-02-23 13:12:41 · answer #3 · answered by kerryjonjon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry. You may not be able to get him back but give him his space and start hanging around with some other boys. You don't have to do anything, just hang out.
Giving him a small dose of jealousy could clarify his thinking. If he sees you doing this he will either decide he wants you or not but at least it'll be quick.
Good luck!
2007-02-23 13:13:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You didn't respect his wishes. He was asking you to do back flips; he asked you to leave him alone to think...and you couldn't do that. Why?
I guess he'd had enough and is being nice about it. Take it as a life-lesson and if he such a great guy, he can always be your friend. Who knows what'll happen in the future?
2007-02-23 13:09:25 · answer #5 · answered by Slimslimmer 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get over it, its over. move on.
2007-02-23 13:18:14 · answer #6 · answered by Angela C 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋