I met a lady in Thailand who told me she was finished with her partner (and the father of her daughter), but then I found out she was still living with him, but she said it was only because she couldnt live anywhere else at the time and that she didnt want him. Then I came back home for 2 months and when I went back to Thailand she was pregnant with his baby, but said he forced himself on her and she aborted the baby. She insisted she doesnt love him and now he lives with the daughter in another city. He keeps sending me e-mails telling me how I ruined his family and he hates me. So she obviously told him she doesnt want him and that she loves me. What should I do now? I love her. Did I ruin the family or would she have left anyway?
2007-02-23 05:02:47 · 30 answers · asked by Jimbo 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Dude...yes u made a bad choice but that doesn't necessarily make u a bad person. When a lady is still living with her husband, no matter what she tells you, you need to stay away!!! Let her resolve her own issues first and then figure out if she still seems interesting to you. I'm only saying this cos first, you don't need that kind of drama in your life, second if you did stay away u wouldn't be worrying about what you did wrong and third, a girl who runs from one guy to the next is not really worth all this trouble cos what if she does the same thing to you one day! As far as you being a bad person...well, who really cares these days? u made a bad decision and now YOU have to live with it and hope you can learn from it. As far as his emails go...don't let him get to you cos it's on him that he couldn't make her stay (maybe u helped a little but it is still his shortcomings that lead her to even think of leaving!) Put a smile on your face, ignore his emails and learn from it cos in life stuff like that will keep coming and it is only on you to make the right choice next time!
2007-02-23 05:21:09 · answer #1 · answered by Kat ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really isn't your fault because it was bound to happen sometime down the road since the woman was so unhappy with her husband. He doesn't want to admit that he was wrong and took her for granted and that he didn't embrace her while she loved him. Because of his mistakes it led her to fall out of love if she ever was in the first place. Then she found you, it isn't your fault let alone hers. These feelings aren't something that you can't just demand, they just happen. Relationships go through so many hardships and if it works out then great, but if it doesn't then there isn't much you can do about it. You can always keep it inside of you, but soon you'll just grow insane. I think that what you did helped this woman maintain her sanity. As for the raged husband i think that he just needs time to understand that you had nothing to do with the separation of his family, because the woman was probably there psychically but not mentally. Take this from someone who's seen this happen before. You are not some devil who destroyed some other man's happy family, instead you reached out to this woman and gave her back hope for love.
2007-02-23 05:12:51 · answer #2 · answered by Liliac 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I don't know if you need that kind of drama, dude!!
I know for a fact that women in other countries and specially in Asian countries are put down and looked as property. I would not doubt the fact that the guy did force himself on to her. I think that if you love her and she says she loves you back you should give it a chance but don't marry her too fast because it could be the I want papers and $$$ thing, disguised as I love you strategy!!!
Good luck!!!
2007-02-23 05:14:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She was going to leave him anyway. You're not a bad person and you didn't ruin their family. It was obviously bad when u came into the picture and if it wasn't you it would've been someone else she would've messed around with. You should change your e-mail address tho to stop getting e-mails from her ex, that's gotta be annoying. He's just trying to find someone else to blame for his failed marriage. Don't be so hard on yourself and move on, there's plenty of fish in the sea. Good luck 2 ya! =o)
2007-02-23 05:12:25 · answer #4 · answered by Tuzita 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok first how do u kno that she loves u? or that u love her?
love is not a thing to mess around with, u have to take it seriously.
dude, what if she's just using u to get to america? about her partner emaling you if u want that to stop then the ball is in your hand. You can spam him and never see an email from him. As far as her living with him that shows that she does depend on him.... take time and really think everything threw. and the answer only u know it.
2007-02-23 05:12:50 · answer #5 · answered by orangeduckey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey Man, Unless you met a truly down to honest good Thai woman she is probably playing you. Thats the way it works over there as far as I know. Has she asked you for money? If so run delete her from your life. Trust me you will thank me in the long run. Plenty of fish in the sea. Your not a bad person as it take two to tango.
2007-02-23 05:07:42 · answer #6 · answered by angelesdave 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Crap, that is a situation!
Unfortunately there isn't much you can do in this case, after all, the woman did this because she made the choice to do it. She Love's you and you love her so you should just make the best out of what life has given you.
Good Luck!
and...remember it wasn't your fault, it was her choice.
2007-02-23 05:09:16 · answer #7 · answered by serenity_jem 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it sounds like she was the one who told you that she was not with that person in the first place so you really do not have anything to feel bad about. She wanted to be with you. That guy is obviously hurt, but it really was not your fault.
Good Luck :)
2007-02-23 05:09:40 · answer #8 · answered by Lisa S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems like she really does love you it was just that at the time she was in a bad situation. I say don't open his e-mails ignore him she has just proved who she wants to be with.
2007-02-23 05:09:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a tough one. If she said she was finished with her partner, she lied to you. It's not your fault. You didn't know they were together, and it's not your fault he forced himself on her. You're not a bad person, just an unaware one.
2007-02-23 05:07:26 · answer #10 · answered by Maxie D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋