2007-02-23 05:00:39 · 13 answers · asked by KB 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have. The first ended when he wanted more. The second ended because I ended up liking him too much and I didn't want to wait for him to break my heart.
I hear they work for some though.
2007-02-23 05:24:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So I'm sure that people will say that when you are in a loving caring relationship you should be truthful and faithful and all that crap. Well I'm young and every now and then.....
Anyway "friends with benefits" are cool if both partners understand that that is what it is. A small percentage for growth into anything more. It's better than a booty call because you can have conversation and discuss things with each other that you can't neccesarily do with someone ya just hittin the sheets with.
But be forewarned women are usually the ones who get sucked into the "feelings" stuff. If you think ya friend with benefits is getting too close let them know. It might end your 3 am romp sessions, but it will also lessen the amount of pain they experience.
As for the second part... I'm still cool with my fwb's we might not do the do anymore.... (new relationships, moved away, etc.) but when we see each other or talk it's all good. I think it is just the best policy to let each other know what you want out of it from the get go so that there are no hard feelings.
2007-02-23 13:11:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. We were best friends for about a year until we started the "friends with benefits" thing. Eventually we ended up dating for a little under 2 years because he had feelings for me and I decided to give him a chance and now we don't talk at all. We were better off as friends and most people are. In my opinion, friends with benefits is never a good idea. If you don't like the person enough to date them before messing around don't risk ruining your friendship. Eventually one of you may start to have feelings that the other person doesn't have and it will destroy your friendship.
2007-02-23 13:08:41 · answer #3 · answered by Mal123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you say benefits what do you mean?
I have/had friends with expectations, high ones, but that didn't turn out to well for some of them (hint the word HAD)!!!
What are your friends benefits? Why? Do they have reasons for such things as they say? Do they think they are good reasons? Why?
Any of these questions you'd like to ask your friend. Don't just leave them hanging with no explanation why you cut the relationship. Then they'll be a pain asking why! Just explain to your friend your benefits and theirs and why there are such things between you. It works trust me.
Hope I helped and I hope you have a good one!
2007-02-23 13:14:47 · answer #4 · answered by ♥ Jess ♥ I dream, I wish, I love 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why, yes, i did. I liked him for about 6 months and was terribly shy so I never said anything...then one day, I realized my chances were slim so I'd better do something now before it was too late! We were both freshmen at the time as well. We got on the topic of sex and somehow arranged for him to come over to my house the next day after school. We only messed around that day cuz I had started my "." that morning unexpectedly, but I lost my virginity to him a couple weeks later.
We would call each other up when we werent in school to plan to 'hang out' and/or he'd plan to 'come over' when we were in school and in between him having a few gf's here and there, I was still the **** buddy all this time! Our 'relations' lasted until our Junior year, when we were both drunk and i asked if he'd ever thought of going out with me (he didnt). I dont think they are relations that are built to last, just to have fun with.
2007-02-23 13:06:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not well I'm afraid. I've had it twice and both times ended the same. For about a year, it was fantastic, but eventually you or they will want more from it.
I have never had it though with someone who was never married. I think that may make a difference. Both times it was with someone who had been married and lived alone for some time so we both had gotten used to sleeping/living alone. Occassional company was nice, but falling asleep in your own bed was also the ultimate goal.
I am still friends with each of them, but not nearly as close as we were before we slept together, and none of us sleep together. Its kinda strange.
Good luck with it though!
2007-02-23 13:05:47 · answer #6 · answered by Tyerant 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea. It was preety fun at the start but it ended up that she wanted more than that. I started talking to another girl and she got pissed at me. So it wasn't really friends with benefits and i stoped doing stuff with her. So its up to you if she i really going to be friends with benefits or want to be in a relationship.
Good luck
2007-02-23 13:06:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to. As time went on I got married to another guy and stopped seeing my friend. We are still friends and we speak to each other when we meet in a public place. Nothing bad ever became of it.
2007-02-23 13:05:00 · answer #8 · answered by I know, I know!!!! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nope...that would suck. I'd rather have a boyfriend than a friend with benefits.
2007-02-23 13:03:34 · answer #9 · answered by Steph 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes I did. I;m now engaged with someone else and not talking to the "friend" anymore
2007-02-23 13:03:07 · answer #10 · answered by B2B2008 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋