2007-02-23 05:00:31 · 7 answers · asked by Dina B 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I don't happen to know what a wishing well gift is, however it is very tacky to ask for any gift on an invitation
2007-02-23 05:12:03 · answer #1 · answered by wellaem 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
What is a wishing well gift? I have seen something where guests anonymously put some well wishes on a paper and put it in a basket. The guest of honor is presented with these and then reads them aloud. If THAT is what you are talking about, just enclose a small piece of paper in the invite and instruct the guest to write a fond memory or a special wish for the bride and remember to bring it along to the shower to place in the wishing well. Otherwise, do not tell your guest which gift to bring UNLESS they ask for a suggestion.
For a quote, I found this one:
Like a sudden rain on a garden of flowers
We want to shower _____
With expressions of love and good wishes at a bridal shower.
2007-02-23 05:46:48 · answer #2 · answered by deerogre 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to Karin C.'s advice.
They will bring a bridal shower gift. This is appropriate since bridal showers are designed to help the new couple with possessions to start out with.
Anything past that is greedy, inappropriate, and presumptuous. There are so many trends out now in such poor taste that deal with gift grabbing-and I mean gift grabbing and not giving. Couples dictating what their guests should bring ('money only please-to put toward a mortgage downpayment' or 'for our honeymoon trip') Gifts are not de rigueur, they are a gracious statement from a well-wisher and as such are up to their discretion. Birthday people, anniversary people, and wedding people may assume that they will be receiving some presents, but all that is really required are the guest's best wishes. Time to squash this sense of entitlement and dicatorialship in gift receiving.
2007-02-23 05:25:13 · answer #3 · answered by superscrounger 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you have to keep the invites with a beach theme already on them, why not try to use your pc to make a small insert using a picture of a wishing well and listing the categories of gifts that the bride needs. There are some great bridal shower ideas in books at your local library and online. Understand that any type of invitation for a bridal shower automatically means to the addressee that a gift is warranted, unless it is stated "no gifts please". As the hostess, you should speak with the bride, make a list of items she would like to receive, and then, if people call you for advice if they think they need it, you will have something to give them. Otherwise, the gift is up to the attendee.
If, on the other hand, you are trying to get people to bring gifts with a beach theme, you must make that clear in the invite. Hope this helps.
PS - Don't forget to have some types of "thank you" gifts for your guests: either a trinket to remember the shower by - small gifts to award if games are played - it could be something as simple as name badges in the shape of beach umbrellas or wishing wells.
You know, the word "shower" is used for a reason - to "shower" the honoree with gifts...this does not mean that anyone should draft a list of "approved by the bride-to-be's" somewhat extravagant wishes. It is, ok, however, for people to call the shower hostess and ask for ideas for gifts. It is ok to include in the invites a theme of gifts suggested. Any gift list should not be extravagant, but made of items that are affordable, i.e., $25 and under...pricier gifts are usually only given by Mom's & relatives. It is not "OK" for invited guests to show up without a gift, but merely to grace the bride with their presence & to take advantage of free food and entertainment! For those who truly cannot afford a gift, then something you can make would be welcome.
Invitations should only be sent to those who are considered friends & family of the bride. Or, if you are in a club together, to the members. Co-workders can also throw a shower....it is not unheard of to have various themed showers from different aspects of the bride's friends.
2007-02-23 05:20:32 · answer #4 · answered by WhoKnows 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
No no no no no no no no no, there is no proper way to dun guests for an "admission price" to a party or event without coming off as greedy.
People who are invited to a bridal shower will de facto probably bring a gift, which should be sufficient for any bride-to-be who does not perceive her nuptials as a "gimme-fest." Telling guests that they have to bring a "wishing well" contribution as well does not look good.
If you want to verbally spread the word that there will be a "wishing well" that guests can contribute to if they want, as in "We're going to have wine, hors d' ouveres, and some other activities, and there will be a wishing well for the bride," you scrape by, etiquette-wise, though barely. Putting anything on the invitations you commit an etiquette felony.
2007-02-23 05:17:10 · answer #5 · answered by Karin C 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
The most wonderful of all things in life, I believe, is the discovery of another human being with whom one's relationship has a glowing depth, beauty, and joy as the years increase. This inner progressiveness of love between two human beings is a most marvelous thing, it cannot be found by looking for it or by passionately wishing for it. It is sort of a Divine accident.- Horace Walpole
2007-02-23 05:16:37 · answer #6 · answered by Danni S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Karin C. and Super are dead-on. Listen to them.
2007-02-23 06:24:28 · answer #7 · answered by Lyn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋