I have my "flaws" like smoking, and drinking (not excessively unless it's in a controlled environment), but, I'm in the military, i treat women with respect and courtesy, when it comes to sex, i have an attitude of talking it out with a girl first before making any moves that way she is comfortable, which, to me, is most important, along with honesty, and communication, and dedication (for the good times and the bad). And, though i may have been lied to, i was told i am a handsome guy...i don't know...
2007-02-23 04:59:23 · 16 answers · asked by Sire_D 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are a great guy... and don't change.... the girls that are walking all over you are just young... they will be the ones that want you back... but when they start calling again... don't take them back, they don't deserve you... you will find someone that will know how to appreciate you.... just keep doing what char doing... xoxo
2007-02-23 05:08:38 · answer #1 · answered by ***Girlie Girl*** 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is simple and I'm sure you've heard this already: Women won't walk all over you if you don't let them. By the same token, women that walk all over men that are respectful, courteous, honest, and communicate well probably aren't worth your time. Trust me my friend, there are women out there who want a guy like you. But then there are women out there who SAY they want a guy like you, but really don't. The whole mantra of "women like bad boys" is partially true. Most women are intrigued by bad boys on some level. A small percentage of women even prefer men who are "bad boys." Men that are a little (and sometimes a lot) rough around the edges, is what they want. That's not wrong, or a bad thing, that's just how it is. Those are the women that are walking all over you. However, if you simply show her respectfully, but firmly (in whatever way makes you feel comfortable) that you're not going to take it, she'll stop. If she doesn't, you'll know she's not the woman for you. A lot of times women will test you (some know they're doing it, others do it subconciously) to "see if you have any backbone." To see if you'll....well....be a man. You can be nice, respectful, and courteous without being bullied. Don't be aggressive or passive, be assertive. To be honest with you, whether a woman likes bad boys or not, she's going to want to know that you're not going to be pushed around by her or anyone else. That's very attractive to women. It's a little difficult at first but with practice you'll get it. Good luck with the ladies. You sound like a good guy so I'm sure you'll be fine.
2007-02-23 13:20:31 · answer #2 · answered by Eddie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have half of the equation right. You are a nice guy. You need to work on the other half of the equation. When you are a nice person, people tend to confuse being nice with being a push over. The helf of the equation you need to work on is education. When someone steps out of line you need to address this issue. Not with meaness but with ogic and maturity. A lot of people like probing. Once you let then know that what they are doing is wrong and that if they proceed its not going to turn out as they expect it then they'll back off. I short when someone tries to step over you stand your ground. Then they will stop disrespecting you.
I don't want to get religious because I'm kind of an atheistbut, I think somewhere in the bible says threat others as you would like the to treat you. You treat them nice so they should treat you nice. When they treat you badly it means they want you to treat them abit badly too.
2007-02-23 13:06:59 · answer #3 · answered by mr_gees100_peas 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it sounds like the girls you have been with dont know a good thing when they see it. You sound like an awsome guy and i only wish my man treated me as well as you say you treat your girls....You just have to be patient and the right woman will come along eventually and i know that sucks and you probably want someone now but you cant rush the perfect relaltionship. And if you really think about it do you want to get into something really deep right now? I dont know how old you are but if your young would you want to be tied down for the rest of your life??? We should chat sometime.... : )
2007-02-23 13:04:58 · answer #4 · answered by Amelia M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with nice guys!The proplem is there is not enough nice guys! Men think they always have to be the best,the more women the better man you are.Being hansome is great,but it is not what should count.Woman today have lost touch with reality,they all want to be like most men,better than the rest.Todays world is so much not what it should be.But being a nice guy is what it should be!
2007-02-23 13:13:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You get walked on because people take kindness for weakness. I have the same issue and I used to get upset. But, since God is good, vengeance is his and Karma thrives so strong, I dont worry about how people treat me because being nice and going out of my way for others is my God given talent and what I love to do.
Don't ever let how others treat you change who you are! Ever!
People are gonna be people and treat you mean, nice, etc etc You cant let it bother you. Once that special girl comes and loves you for you and sees you for who you are, you will be content with everything.
Hang in there! I know it can get rough, but you will make it. Remember! DONT CHANGE WHO YOU ARE! YOU ARE A BLESSING TO OTHERS AND YOUR BLESSING IS COMING!
2007-02-23 13:12:11 · answer #6 · answered by 100% Woman, yes indeed! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because women today don't want a nice guy. I am/have been in your same shoes brother. Just play it off pretend like your discouraged in a relationship and they will like you a hell of a lot more. I know its hard bro.
2007-02-23 13:04:20 · answer #7 · answered by angelesdave 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, when people complain about this, what comes to mind is that you are picking the wrong people. if you are wanting a serious long term relationship, don't go looking at a bar (or where ever).
2007-02-23 13:10:14 · answer #8 · answered by tilda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't see why you'd say those are flaws, anyhting you do is part of who you are, and if a person doesn't accept you for who you are, she definitely is not the one for you.
Maybe you are trying too hard? loosen up a little, have fun in the process, don't set a specific goal and when you least expect it you'll find the one for you.
2007-02-23 13:05:40 · answer #9 · answered by dianabarff 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm. Maybe you have been hanging around the wrong people, because you actually sound like a really nice guy. ^_^
2007-02-23 13:03:01 · answer #10 · answered by A chikk. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋