My grandma just died of cancer
2007-02-23 04:58:28 · 20 answers · asked by 2 a'da da dorable' 4 u 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
My grandmother passed in october, and my boyfriend's just passed last week.
I think it's about accepting the loss, being happy that you had them in your life, feeling thankful for what they did for you and gave to you. In my case, mine wasn't the sweetest woman in the world, but I loved her just the same and people that I love loved her too. For my boyfriend, his was kind and caring and everything that a grandmother should be, and I think everyone just tried to keep that love for her and her love for them at the heart of everything.
I'm sorry for your loss. Celebrate her life, and give thanks for yours.
2007-02-23 05:04:52 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry for your loss. There is no easy way to get over it and make yourself feel better. It takes time and talking. My mother died 18 years ago and it is still hard. It seems like a long time but I was 10. I will tell you first hand that death is a hard thing to handle. Just make sure you talk about your feeling!!! SORRY
2007-02-23 13:09:56 · answer #2 · answered by ♥ Nikkee D ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With great appreciation for the time that you had with them and with the knowing that all you shared goes with you forever. Nothing can take the love away. When my grandfather died when I was 21, I never felt a deep pain as that in my life. To this day he remains the one person I felt always loved me for who I am and I will be eternally grateful. Nothing could ever take that from me. Sometimes I still wish I could see him but I know that part of him remains with me always. In a sense that death was a lesson to me that all we have is right now and its a reminder that we have to learn to remember and appreciate that. So many other things are trivial and its important to keep that perspective.
2007-02-23 13:07:44 · answer #3 · answered by ineeddonothing 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When my mother was dying of brain cancer, they way I handled it, was when I was with her, I remained strong with a smile, once I left I would break down. As the days went by, I was told by the people caring for her, that my mother kept staring up at the ceiling. The nurse there told me, my mother was seeing her Angels, who were waiting for her. I'm not sure why, but that comforted me and it still does today. That was 10 years ago.
2007-02-23 13:12:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you just keep telling yourself all the good things about the relationship you had with them. My dad died last year in an accident and I asked myself the same question you are asking. I think the only thing you can do is to remember. Don't let yourself forget about that person and what they did. I know people are probably telling you, "Oh, lets go do this so you can get your mind off of it". The fact is, not dealing with it, makes it so much harder eventually.
2007-02-23 13:03:29 · answer #5 · answered by shell 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you don't forget that there is nothing wrong with breaking down every once in a while, you'll be ok. It'll never EVER be easy and you'll always think about her. She's always going to be with you in your heart and your prayers. Remember that just because you lost one person doesn't mean you're alone because you still have other people to live for. Hang in there and I'm so sorry for your loss.
2007-02-23 13:05:14 · answer #6 · answered by oo_m_i_c_h_e_l_l_e_oo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One day at a time. It helps to remember them by talking about it. My granmother died of breast cancer. I did the Susan G. Komen race for a cure and it really makes me feel like I'm doing something in memory of her. I also named my daughter after her. It was by far one of the most traumatic days of my life but it has made me the person I am today.
2007-02-23 13:03:46 · answer #7 · answered by ms know it all 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That happened to me to but it was my great grandma. I would go through some of her stuff maybe even look at her old pictures. Think of some good memories. Just remember she is in a good place now. I bet she wouldn't want you to feel bad the whole time.
2007-02-23 13:03:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly its the hardest thing to handle, my uncle died of cancer and he was like a father to me, i watched him die, all i can say is its gets easier with time, but it will always hurt.
2007-02-23 13:00:45 · answer #9 · answered by lil_luman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mom died of cancer about two years ago.
You just cry when you need to cry
Be angry when you need to be angry
be depressed when you need to be depressed
Death is extremely hard to understand. In the end...its just time. Time will make it easier as it passes. You just stay busy and life your life to the fullest as she would wanted you to.
Honor her
2007-02-23 13:02:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋