i told my girlfriend that i love her ...?

Question

but she said she didnt feel the same way , we havent broken up , we still kiss , and are intimate , why does my heart feel so heavy , i cannot get her out of my mind , i think about her from the moment i wake up till the moment i go to sleep , she says we should just take things day by day , i feel as tho she is the one true person and want to spend the rest of my life with her , do you think in time she will feel the same as me ? please help im in turmoil

Answer 1

just because she doesn't love you yet doesn't mean she doesn't still care about you or that she won't ever love you. Generally, when guys finally give in to their emotions they find them hard to control. This usually isn't the case with women, we can hold back until we're sure we're making the right decision. Give her some time, reassure her that you care for her but ease up a little on the 'i love yous'. If you're as good together as you sound she's sure to come round in the end.

Answer 2

She could feel the same in time, depends-How long have you two been together? Did she just come out a another relationship? There could have been something going on before she go with you or there could be something going on in her life right now. If this is not the case, she just needs more time. My Boyfriend and I were together a year before I told him I loved him and when I told him, he seemed kind of shocked. He said that he did not feel the same. My heart sank, I started thinking long and hard about our relationship. In the meantime I made a concious effort to never say those words again until he did. Eventually he tell me he loves me. Months and months later. His reason was that it took him that long to fully appreciate me. I thought his answer was kind of BS, but I love him and we are still together 5 years later.

Answer 3

She probably just needs time. Telling someone that you love them is a big step even though people use to way to often and don't actually mean it. She may just need to be sure how she feels before she tells you. Just do as she wants and take the relationship day by day. When she feels ready she will tell you.

Answer 4

I think that you will be OK.

I do not know your ages but providing you are over the age of consent you keep taking her out but don't go too far sexually with her until she is ready.

Hopefully she is a decent girl & she will make you wait. She is most probably checking that you have the staying power & if that is so you are likely to end up with a good honest partner.

The main thing is to be honest & truthful with each other.

I hope it works out for you both & best wishes

I think that you will be a lucky guy as there are many girls with low esteem & low morals.

Answer 5

You cannot make a person love you no matter how bad you may want it, or how much you love them. If you feel that being with a person who cannot reciprocate your feelings continue your relationship....Since your heart is heavy, I think that you're feeling cheated out of the love and affection you deserve. Remaining in a lopsided relationship could turn out one of two ways: (1) time will tell her that you're the one for her or (2) she will hurt you worse in the end by telling you that she doesn't love you.......

Answer 6

Unrequited love is always miserable.

The good news here is that she is honest with you.

The bad (good?) news here is that you can't force someone to return the same or similar feelings.

Love has to be given willingly, freely. It's the only way and the only kind of love to have.

Give her time and do not pressure, rush, or push her--that's all you can do about HER feelings. About your own, that's much tougher.

The only things that come to mind on handling this are to:

--Tell her simply that you love her without expectation of her returning that love and without expecting that she say "I love you" back.

--Continue to show her that you love her, without going overboard or making a spectacle of yourself or your behavior. Show her in simple, honest ways. No skywriting declarations of your undying love--opening a door, pulling out a chair, caress her face, helping her with her coat,... you get the idea.

--Learn to sit with that feeling that you have without desperately having to say it or prove it or show it.

--Some meditation techniques may help you manage to live with those feelings that make you want to burst.

Good luck.

Answer 7

I have one word for you "Smother" if you smother her, you will lose her. Do not push, let things develop at your own pace, you both will develop emotions at a different level. It sounds to me like she may be a bit of a challenge for you, so she is on your brain non stop, what if I do this, what if she does that, let her have a bit of space, and see what happens. In time you will know how you both truly feel for each other. Don't beat yourself up her not having the same emotions, you sound like a very caring person, she will see that too.

Answer 8

you made a big mistake buddy - with todays women you cannot do that - being soft is more unpopular than ever for a guy - if it has to be one way then it is better comming from them with you not returning the favour or being unclear about it. you cannot trust them or let your guard down for one second in a relationship - sure be nice once in a while make a few gestures - but stay busy enough and unavailable - if you want somewhere to put your ' love ' buy a cat or dog or do volunteer work - don't waste it on them

Answer 9

Wake up. Being a slave to a woman is a lonely path, Ive got the badge. You must accept that feelings have to be mutual and nothing you can ever do is gonna change that. You are on a path to a very lonely road, get off it now and be patient....the right person is out there.

Answer 10

I am not sure. How quickly into the relationship you said you love her. If you went at it too quickly she probably feels pressured. Wait it out a few months and don't tell her that you Love her until then and then after that see where she is at. I wouldn't tell a girl I loved her until I seen her for at least 6 months. Hope that helps you out.