my 14yr old sister has a bigg attitude problem && it started getting worse when our mother was diagnosed with a medical problem..she can be very abusive at times && is constantly yelling at me && my father when she doesn`t get her way..she`s not really a spoiled brat but i think it has something to do with our mom`s condition && i also think part of her is hiding what she feels just b/c she just wants to be strong like her big sis...is there anything i can do to help her?
2007-02-23 04:53:16 · 5 answers · asked by xxgoincrazy313xx 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Part of the problem is hormones, she may have a hard time controlling her behavior when she feels out of sorts. That will improve over time. Some of it is anxiety, she is worried about her mom, and can't yell at her safely, so she takes it out on those she feels she can trust. Really hard on those she trusts!
Talk to your dad about getting her some talk therapy, maybe a school counselor, maybe some short term medical help for the anxiety. Meanwhile, when she becomes abusive, just say " I love you very much, but I will not be spoken to like that" And Walk Away! make sure you phrase it about you, not about her, and get your father to make a similar response when she shouts.
Good luck, and remember This to shall pass!
2007-02-23 05:55:40 · answer #1 · answered by mliz55 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her calmly about how YOU are dealing with it. She probably looks to you for advice if you are older, so even though sometimes she can seem like she has a bad attitude, Im sure she will take your advice or at least try to listen to you. Just remember she's having a tough time, and when you talk to her acknowledge that you DO understand. Let her know that more than anything, you two should lean on one another right now and not fight all of the time. If you all can do that, her attitude will most likely change because she will know she has your support. Good luck!
2007-02-23 12:58:25 · answer #2 · answered by rantfactory 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont know whats wrong with your mother but maybe your sister is mad at your mom for being sick and feels bad about feeling that way? I guess talk to her and support her. You sound like a very wonderful person. Your sister is lucky to have you in her life!
Take care! I hope your mother gets better!
2007-02-23 12:59:29 · answer #3 · answered by My_Two_Centz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
talk to her, ask her why she's acting this way. sounds like your mom's condition definately has something to do with her attitude. if things don't change she will probably be better talking to a conselor.
2007-02-23 12:58:55 · answer #4 · answered by firefly 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She just wants some attention. When she behaves give it to her. When she acts out, ignore her. She'll figure it out.
2007-02-23 12:58:08 · answer #5 · answered by Tiger by the Tail 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋