Arguments kills love?

Question

Last night we argued a bit ... he had enough stress at work and was moody. so i decided to leave him ... he realized that he treated me wrong and apologized. I still feel sour though he keeps apologizing until now. How can we preserve love to remian at its same place? Arguments are scary!

Answer 1

Arguments can be scary, stressful, etc but they are normal and allow you both to grow. Nothing runs compeltely smooth. What is most important is how you communicate after the argument and how you can come back together to move forward. Arguments can be a turn-off for sure but do not dismantle love, if it's real. It would be helpful for both of you when feeling overwhelmed to take a step back and think about what you're really mad about before you shout and say something you later regret. For example be probably expressed some anger and you leaving when he had a bad day. His day wasn't your fault but perhaps he needed comfort and just for you to say that he'll be alright but instead you left. It would have been mature of him just to tell you he wanted you to stay. Instead he got angry and it led to a whole sequence of events that he has had to apologize many times for. This could have all been avoided with communicating true feelings. You could have maybe communicated to him as well by asking him did he want you to stay and letting him know that you were maybe feeling uncomfortable or unsure about whether you should stay or give him some space but you wanted to be there for still the same. Think about it.

Answer 2

Oh my can I ever sympathize, I feel the same way. Normally what I do when I can't get by what was said and done in the argument, is tell him that we really need to avoid mistreatment during a fight, it doesn't solve or help anything. To me a fight should be about a certain issue, discussed and resolved. Throwing in insults and drama only makes everything worse. But it is natural as a female to store your feelings, be glad he recognized his wrong doing and accept that for now. However if it becomes his cruch and he continues being unruly during an argument and then believes he can get out of it with an apologize then you are going to have another issue on your hands. As far as preserving love, fights do on occassion make a couple stronger, and love will never remain in the same place but its your job as a couple to keep it on the right path to forever.

Answer 3

Arguments themselves shouldn't have any effect on love, however the topic of the argument might or other words that come out that could be hurtful.

It's normal for people to have differences of opinion. Discussing is preferable to arguing though, because arguing just gets tempers up and often things are said that shouldn't be.

Don't make any hasty decisions just because an argument occured though. Decide if the reason behind the argument was enough to warrant ending the relationship (often, it's not).

If people never disagreed, don't you think things would get pretty boring? Our differences are part of what makes each of us unique, and this word a more interesting place to live.

Answer 4

Arguments are a source of communicating even if the arguing is unpleasant. The idea is to stick to whatever the disagreement is about and not bringing up past issues that were 'settled'. Also no
malicious insults or name calling. Sometimes when people are upset / emotional, there is a tendency to talk at the same time when both parties are trying to get their point across. Obviously, they can not hear each other at that point so someone has to listen which is the best form of communication. Don't let arguing scare you. Actually it can enhance a relationship when handled maturely by two people who care about each other.

Answer 5

Arguments happen and love always changes. The key is to remember that you can't take back things said during an argument. The best thing to do is talk when things are calm in a let's try to fix it kind of way rather than you did this and he did that. Talk about things before they come a problem. When my husband is in a bad mood I know it's best to just let him be and let him talk when he is ready.

Answer 6

All couples argue, if not someone is lying. The trick is making them productive.
If you're arguing just due to a crappy mood, it's not helping. My bf gets moody too. When he's pissing me off I say "My, someones cranky." He realizes he's not mad because of me, just stressed in general. Doesn't mean his mood changes, but he consciously tries not to take it out on me.
Also, hold hands while you fight, hard to do sometimes but it reminds you both that you love each other. Don't go to bed w/o saying I love you, even if you're still pissed. You can be mad but still in love.
Hang in there!

Answer 7

Sometimes arguments can help. I think you should pick your fights, small things are small things, and don't really matter. You have to think about what you're arguing about and realize if its worth the fight or not. If it is worth it, then dont yell and scream, try talking about it before it gets into an all out brawl.

Answer 8

be forgiving if u love him. argument supposed to lead a couple to certain stand of good points but not to endless fights. bear in mind the good things you both have and habour no hard feelings when argument (but normally disagreement) arises. that happens in all relationship not necessary just B & G's. just learn along the way and that preserve all kinds of love.

Answer 9

If it doesn't kill it it will make it stronger!
If you don't argue then you should reconsider your relationship. Arguing is quite the norm. I am happily married for 11 years and we argue all the time, everyone has the right to their own thoughts (right or wrong) open minds keep a relationship everlasting.

Answer 10

Oh don't i know they are! but couple need to argue other wise you don't get things off your chest don't walk out over silly fights everyone has bad days try not to shout at each other and definitely don't hit him that's a no no! If you really love each other you can work things out ... Making up makes it worth it!!!!