i was with my guy for 7 years..i was in it for life pretty much..i was always there for him through so much..more than anyone would have to go through and yet i stayed by his side....i thought he really loved me..even all my friends would say things like wow hes going to marry you..and then out of the blue behind my back he started seeing someone else and once things started working out for them he dumped me...that was a couple months ago and now their in love and happy and the whole works...i did so much for him and im the one left in the dark....hes making this new girl so happy...where is karma..does it even exist?
2007-02-23 04:37:27 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Colleen: thanks for calling me a cry baby...i feel bad that your a negative person and dont have a heart..ill be praying for you
Lillian: dont be so quick to judge others...im not the same girl as the one your ex left for you....i hope you think out of the box next time..
2007-02-24 14:01:09 · update #1
He's happy because he made you feel like piece of crap, sometimes people feel better, even if only briefly, when they hurt someone else. Stinks, huh? Don't worry baby, Karma is on it's way, just don't worry about it. I'm sure she's not as happy as you think! He will do the same thing to her or her to him, once a cheater almost always a cheater for life. Go out, have fun, meet new people, but if anything, don't internalize this. If you did nothing wrong, just chalk it up to him being an idiot that you are better off without! There are PLENTY of frogs out there to kiss, love, marry and/or hate! In the end it is all about selection and no one's judgement is very good when they feel wrapped up in a love that may last forever. Think outside the box next time you meet someone, it is so easy to trust at times when you should really just be trying to figure someone out and taking your time. I'm not saying don't trust anyone, but be selective and investigative for your own good, it will serve you well.
2007-02-23 04:56:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is happy or at least acting that way now because he think he has won.
I was in the same boat about 5 months ago. I left my bf after he cheated, mentally and emotionally abused me and made me feel low for 2 years. Once we broke up, I realized why I left him. We grew apart! He wasnt on my level at all! He tried to act like he was happy and sooooooo much more better than me, but I saw through it all.
Karma exists and its funny that the people that do people sooooo wrong and are so evil do not believe in it but oh does it come around and faster than you know it. He will get his so dont you worry. The same thing he did to you may happen to him or worse. It's inevitable. You cant let him worry you and you cant let him dictate your feelings and actions. LET IT ALL GO. The more you stay upset, the more power you give him. Dont let others know that you are still thinking about him and that he has hurt you sooooo bad. People talk and if this gets back to him, this will only fuel his menace...
If you belive in God and are a true fasting Christian, I advise you to fast and pray. Some things will only come by fasting and prayer like the fact that you are hurt and upset.
Dont give him anymore power over you! Live your life the way you see fit and I am sure that God will send your true love your way. You have to see the good in this and take it as a learning lesson.
Good luck and God Bless...
2007-02-23 04:57:52 · answer #2 · answered by 100% Woman, yes indeed! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I SO know what you mean! My ex sits on her butt all day, collects from the taxpayers, new child help, her buddies, and her mom. She has accomplished some rather evil stuff yet yet she constantly comes out smelling like a rose. i'm basically waiting and thinking...while is Karma going to take result? that is like the greater incorrect she does, the greater advantageous off she is. perchance Karma is at the back of schedule. Then while each physique has give up hurting and thinks its throughout...BLAM!
2016-09-29 12:44:39 · answer #3 · answered by linnon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Learn from the experience and move on. Even though the relationship failed, you have matured and learned things about yourself and have a good idea what it takes to find a loving relationship.
Try not to get mired in the hurt and move on. Your friends know you and that is all that is necessary. Karma does not always happen overnight, but it does happen.
Good luck.
2007-02-23 05:15:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just think of it this way, she did you a favor and so did he, all the stuff he put you through helped you to learn what you don't want in another relationship... right? So take it as a lesson learned and by the way, for right now they may seem happy, but the day will come when he either does the same thing to her, or she does it to him... then by then, you'll have someone and you'll be happy too...
2007-02-23 04:42:14 · answer #5 · answered by LittleLady 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Time to stand up, dust yourself off, and get some hobbies or something to take your mind off of it. Yes, it is hard, but it's do-able. I was rocked by an affair after a 11 year relationship in which I also had 2 kids. I was devastated, but to tell you the truth, I was over it within a month's time. Why? I did things for myself, and wallowing in self-pity is doing yourself more harm than good. Go out!! Enjoy life. Get a new haircut, get a massage, buy new shoes / dress, buy new make-up, etc, etc, etc. but don't sit around wasting your energy on thought's of him. HE isn't worth you, YOU ARE!!!
2007-02-23 04:46:56 · answer #6 · answered by GirlinNB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen honey i know it hurts but you have to realize that maybe he wasn't happy with you at the end. Now i'm not taking up for him that just explains why he can do you like that and still be happy. You have to make your self happy first and i guess he knows that. So, if i were you quit sweating him and get started on finding someone who will love you and who will wanna be with you cuz there is always someone better than the last guy.
2007-02-23 04:45:22 · answer #7 · answered by K@t 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
And the reason he maybe so happy is perhaps she does things differently than you. Perhaps you smothered him, or were insecure. He is making the new girl happy, because maybe she makes him happy. Ever thought of that? See I was where the new girlfriend is. I make my man happy sorry he left his ex to be with me, but I just did things differently. I gave him space, don't hound him about petty stuff. It could also be that he is older now and he was looking for something differently.
If he did you dirty he will get whats coming to him n time. Everyone gets to deal with karma. I did. The guy did as well as his little ex. It just happens that way.
2007-02-23 04:46:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Is true that their happy relation wont last longer ! Often the one who is good is left to get stronger & the bad people does bad & in return Late or Soon they get Failure in their life ! SO dont get deppressed just be happy n chill ! LIFE IS TO MOVE ON ! Good Luck !
2007-02-23 04:45:08 · answer #9 · answered by C@t 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reason he is happy is because he isn't wallowing in his feelings like you are, he has moved on...you are still whining about how he did you wrong, you haven't moved on. Until you pick yourself up and stop being a crybaby you're never going to be happy.
2007-02-23 04:41:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋