A Mexican Man, With a White Woman?

Question

My current boyfriend is Mexican,
He was born & raised in Mexico for most of his life.

I am white. . . .

And I have never dated a Mexican before, But he is always so polite, sweet, giving, thoughtful, he makes me happy,
But sometimes It makes me wonder exactly what he expects out of me as a girlfriend...

I'm loyal, honest and caring.
I love him with everything in me,
But I am the type of girl that fends for her own,
I'm independent, I have always been independent......
I like to earn the things I want in life,
Not have them thrown on a silver platter for me.

He hopes that one day in the near future I will settle down & we
could have children together, But he wants that to be sooner than I am ready for.



My questions are,
What do Mexican men actually expect out of their girlfriends?
And would most Mexican men rather have a Mexican girl, than a white girl?

Do Mexicans actually like it when a woman will show independence?

Please answer honestly.!.

Thanks!

I am by no means racist. Not at ALL.
I love my man, And I do see him for who he truly is deep down inside, I feel his soul intertwined with mine, I love him. Not just because he is Mexican, And sorry if I offended any of you out there, But you are surely taking it the wrong way if you think that I am being racist!

Answer 1

I think you'll have to ask him.
It will depend on his educational level, family history, personality...
The important thing is that you both agree in what you want. And you shouldn't hurry if you are not ready. That's with every man, Mexican or not.

Answer 2

First and foremost if you haven't had this conversation with him directly you're not ready for a lifetime commitment. Sure different cultures have different expectations but he has his own personal beliefs as well. There are many Latino people that can list a plethera of expectations, some true and some false based on personal experiences and stereotypes. You would do better by talking to your boyfriend, the person you are considering planning the rest of your life with. If he's made a commitment to you it based on the person who he has gotten to know not who he would like to change you into. If he wanted a Mexican girl he would have chosen a Mexican girl and not you. You're definetly having some issues with race moreso than the inner person. You need to examine that as well. You're having a lot of anxiety about the racial differences, which is absolutely normal but not a very strong foundation to build a relationship on. Communication is the most important thing in a relationship and can make or break it. There should never be anything unspoken if it's on your mind you need to tell or ask him for you what you need it creates intimacy and a stronger sense of security between the both of you. No one is a mind-reader.

Answer 3

Mark Sanchez actually was dating Eva Longoria for a while. They were the first Mexican American power couple. Unfortunately with there schedules it did not work out. I wish it would have because we need more successful Mexican Power couples. It just helps lift the spirt of the community. I am not against interracial relationships but I can understands blacks frustration when they see there successful eligible bachelors like RG3 and Tiger Woods. I know he is Afro Thai but he qualifies as a black man.

Answer 4

I'll gladly respond, I am mexican-american from Texas and they, the mexicans male and female, are raised certain ways, most of the responces you got are true and some of the responces are half true and the rest? well they just dont know, do not change for him stay the way you want to be "independent", if this "mexican" makes you feel let me see how did you put it:
he is always so polite, sweet, giving, thoughtful, he makes me happy, then why change? I hope this helps

Answer 5

Hey what's up? Well I've mostly dated Mexicans and I am Mexican and I am in no form offended by your question. =)

Okay well you first have to understand that men are men no matter what country they are from so I cannot really generalize a race. However, Mexican men are strictly taught that they should respect a woman, they are very sweet and fun but always respectful and great lovers. Well, there is everything in every race but at least the ones I've dated. You can tell how a guy is by how he treats his mother too. It is the same thing as if you were dating any other guy, they expect you to love them back.

About the Mexican girl or white girl, he isn't dating you by your race or the color of your skin. Trust me, in Mexico there are many blonde hair blue eyed Mexicans as there are dark hair dark eyed. After all, it is Mestizo blood. I don't know your man so I wouldn't know how he is, you can't tell your heart who to fall for and like I said, he won't choose between girls because of their race.

Me personally, I do date outside my race but I feel more comfortable dating a Mexican because I'm used to 'living Mexican'. I'm used to eating Mexican food, doing other Mexican customs but neither him nor you can tell your heart who to fall for...Maybe it's the same to you but that doesn't mean I prefer it, I always enjoy learning new things about other people. =)

About the independence, it depends on the guy more than his blood. However they do like it when you show your respect towards yourself. They might test you or say something to see what you say back, just show him you have respect for yourself, teach him your culture but be open to his too. [Im talking about men in general not just Mexicans] It'll be like any other relationship, hopefully even better.

On him moving too fast, talk to him, tell him you're not ready if you are. A relationship is all about communication and don't worry about these things too much, it sounds more like your insecure, if he's with you it's for a reason. He likes you and for you to compliment him like that, you must like him too.

I wish you guys the best of luck!!!

Answer 6

I am white my fiance is Mexican my son is half Mexican i too had never dated a Mexican until him i dont think he prefers Mexican women over white or white over Mexican i think he just prefers me over anything cuz I'm the one he fell in love with i think Mexicans expect out of their girlfriends the same as any man expects out of his girlfriend trust loyalty and all that...to answer your other questions about if Mexicans like when their woman is independent it doesn't really go by if Mexicans like it cuz that would be stereotypical its if your man likes it maybe he does maybe he doesn't they are not all the same just cuz they are all Mexican my fiance would rather me stay home and take care of my kids maybe your boyfriend would prefer different all Mexicans dont feel the same way just like all white people dont feel the same way

Answer 7

I am white and my boyfriend is...I dont know nor do I care. Think of it this way. If he were adopted and has no idea who his birthparents are or what type of people they were, would it b other you as much? I think if you can asnwer that then you will be able to talk to him a little better because it sounds like you are more worried about his heritage than he is. It's like this...they say my bf dad was black n his mother white but he has an italian nose and isn't real hairy like he's indian but has a temper like hes irish....do you see where I am coming from? If hes good to you, be good to him. If your independent and he dont like it do what makes you happy because I'm sure there is another mexican man who can appreciate your qualities.

Answer 8

I never dated a mexican men,but i know there very jelouse about there woman and at the same time they are very nice/polite as u say.its up to u if u want to marry,just be sure its what u really want.some of them don,t really like there own kind of woman(mexican)they rather another culture.there the only ones who can basicly tell u why they rather an american woman over there own kind,lots luck to u in whatever u decide.

Answer 9

Firstly, your use of mexican and white is a teminology mismatch which others could find offensive (not me). In future you might want to consider for instance; mexican and american.

Secondly, ask your boyfriend! Communication is of very high importance in a relationship.

Excelsior: Read the question again, she clearly sees much more than his racial origin.

Answer 10

Your problem is that it is not a white woman with a mexican man. It is a woman with a man!