I would like to know men and woma's oppinions. I am on my early 30s, I work full time and study party time. I know studying is important and I want to obtain a degree, I wait for the chance to go to school for a long time (finance and other reasons). I have an unhappy girlfriend because I don't have much time for her. Even that, after school I sneak in my schedule and I see her for a little bit during the week, and it's most likely I spend the entire weekends with her. Then I pay the price of sleeping 3 or 4 hours during the week to catch up because I didn't study during the weekend. I want to change that, and sleep like a normal person, but that's not going to make my relationship better. I would like to know if you have ever been in a situation like this, and how it ended, or what you think about it. Should a person that works full time and wants to go to school forget about having a relationship?. I love her, I don't want to quit.... but she is unhappy because I don't have time.
2007-02-23 04:30:15 · 9 answers · asked by livingthe30s 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well...how long do you have left in school? IMO, Im afraid you'll have to put this relationship on hold simply because it seems as if its not healthy for you or her...Studying and working can be VERY stressful without adding having to spend time with someone...(If she is unhappy now, imagine if something comes up or your schedule changes which causes you to REALLY not be able to see her?) Of course I cant tell you how to spend your weekend but I wouldnt spend my whole weekend 'hanging out' and missing out on sleep or studying (getting 3 or 4 hrs is NOT healthy at all!), because here's one way of lookin at it, ''the sooner the better!'' Meaning, all of these 'interruptions' or 'delays' could possible prevent you from completing this stage of higher learning that you are currently in, the sooner you finish it and get it over with, the more free time you have to work on a relationship, 'Tip-toeing' around this situation and putting your education/work on hold for the relationship may end in losing her AND affecting your education/work situation dearly...If you feel as though you can't 'juggle' these 3 things at the same time, then you probably shouldn't....Trying to juggle them may only lead to utter chaos where she could end up being more hurt in the end...So i say save yourselves the heartache...If it really is love I guess you all wouldn't mind making this sacrifice to make it work later down the road...I suggest you 'sleep on it' or just really sit down for a few minutes and think about how you want this to go! Hope this helps!
Thats my 2 cents...
2007-02-23 04:54:43 · answer #1 · answered by Island-Girl-Bri 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
possible, u just have to know how to properly juggle your time, u just need good communication with your girlfriend, see with us women, as long as we know what's going on and u dont leave us hanging, we are fine with that. There's a big difference between being busy at work and school and being busy with someone else, and the problem starts only when u are paying attention to someone else other than work and school. You dont have to end the relationship just because of lack of time. You can even spend time with her while you study, but if she wants to have more fun time then u have a problem, u have to weigh everything and establish ur priorities. if she loves u enough she will understand that u are doing all these for her.
2007-02-23 04:38:03 · answer #2 · answered by ♦cat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"favor her help for study purposes...ought to stay her buddy" - This makes you sound like a cruel individual. you need to be letting her down the way you pick to because you appreciate her and not at all because you want her help. locate some different person that could also help you, ideally an in intensity buddy or an definitely tutor. "female friend is about 20" - about?!?! you do not comprehend the age of your own female friend! I hate to be so quick to guage, notwithstanding it appears like she must be the only breaking up with you. "She did not tell the reality to me" - until eventually she especially advised you she turned right into a virgin at the same time as no longer below effect than she did not do some thing. women human beings have a suitable to lose their virginity on each occasion they sense tender and decide to. see you later as she did not lose it with him throughout your relationship with her, she became not at all dishonest on you. As for a way you should inform her, you want to discern that out your self. reliable success.
2016-12-04 20:33:59 · answer #3 · answered by plyler 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mate i don't want to sound mean but I'd feel as though it's kind of something she'll have to put up with if she wants to be with you.
Your study is important to you (very, no?) and perhaps she doesn't understand that yet?
If she cares about you she ought to try and support you- you'll only be frustrated if you abandon your studies, and that wont make it any easier to have a relationship with you.
i know that it's hard, i really do, but you want to study to improve yourself and your life and i imagine that you'd like her to be there at the end.She needs to try and appreciate what you're aiming for and hang on for the rough part.
i feel a bit odd answering this one .... mail me if you like- the address is kinda obvious. oh, com not uk.
2007-02-23 04:41:54 · answer #4 · answered by sparkpixie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes,welcome to the world of a college.
just pirotise, organise your time properly and cut down on lazy bad habits like slacking around and doin nothing. Plan schedules ahead productively and follow a strict organized timetable for studying, work and play.
it'll work out fine.
2007-02-23 04:37:41 · answer #5 · answered by astella_interrupted 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's definitely easier to stay out of relationships when you're in college. Girlfriends come and go, but a degree lasts forever. Remember that.
2007-02-23 06:42:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's possible, but very hard to do. You are going to have to ask your gf to allow you this time to finish school. If she really loves you she'll understand.
2007-02-23 04:35:10 · answer #7 · answered by Inez 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah, its possible...but the relationship must just be laidback...it'll be good if you both are busy so the other one is not left expecting too much...
2007-02-23 04:41:40 · answer #8 · answered by vincent m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you like her that much, try moving in together.
2007-02-23 04:35:10 · answer #9 · answered by jason 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋