Ok. Its like this. My Gf cheated on me. I know this because I caught her. I Love this gurl more than anything in the world. I'd die for her. My problem is I can't let her go. I know I should let her go, but I can't! Please HELP!
2007-02-23 04:22:15 · 29 answers · asked by Nikksta 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just remind yourself that she's a nasty uncaring skank.
2007-02-23 04:26:56 · answer #1 · answered by Creampoof737 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I my girl cheated and I caught her I would be single that moment and my fists would be sore the next day from pounding the guys face in the ground. She is a cheater and a Liar. There is no trust and without trust there cannot be a relationship. You may take her back but you will resent her for hat she did and you two will fight often about it. You will find another love. Let this one go because she is not good.
2007-02-23 12:29:51 · answer #2 · answered by Tim VP 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
....My experience is this...."once a cheater...always a cheater". This kinda b.s. crap has now happened to me twice while I thought this woman was in love with me. Imagine all the silly doormattish type behavior and nonsense that occurred afterwards with me really. What can I say people...I'm a very forgiving person. (nice guy syndrome) ...she was a highly sexually desirable woman for me to boot. The worst part about all of it is, I actually forgave her for doing it to me the first time around....WOW!!!...I'm not doing it this time though. She gets to leave for good this time. She was having an affair for three months with this guy before I even remotely found out about it. (stupid me huh!) Where did she find the time really? I let her go away from me for a year too, to try and go work it out for herself....and then I stupidly allowed her to come back for another shot at me. (stupid me again!) Well shame on me twice anyways. It's now recently happened again back in November. Yikes! That's ok though...now she's gone for good this time, and I'm absolutely much better off these days without her. How shameful I felt at first though. I had to go ask God why this was happening to me reasonably. It wasn't me though...it was her! I've since found out she' cheated on just about every guy she's ever gone out with...including two ex husbands. Damn I'm glad I'm gone now. She's the one that has no happiness. Why the heck would anyone cheat on anybody otherwise? A sick mind is all I can figure. Cheaters to me are the lowest life form to roam the planet. They're all going to hell anyways. Don't go back to her for any reason. She'll only end up doing this devil may care crap to you again eventually. Don't be her victim. Find someone reasonably that has a clean history. There are plenty of people out there that know what the words loyalty respect and honesty mean. The rest of em don't belong with you otherwise. Don't take this kind of crap lying down. Dump the cheater. She ain't worth your time. Let her go dude. She'll only cause you to have more pain. Who needs that kinda crap?
2007-02-23 13:12:18 · answer #3 · answered by scott s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this is going to be very hard for you to do but you need to let her go. I know you love her and I know how much pain you must be in. But think about it like this. How much pain was she in when she was cheating on you? Not much at all I bet. She wasn't thinking about your feelings when she cheated so why should you now think about hers? Its time to let this one go. She has turned her back on you so you need to man up and move on.
I know its going to be extremly hard especially if you guys had a sexual relationship. So here are a few tips to help you make it.
1. Do NOT CALL: What ever you do, do not call. You will only be setting yourself up to get hurt. And when you think you are getting over her, still do not call because some of those feelings may just come back and you need to have some time apart from her. so do NOT contact her. If you have to turn off your cell phone and do not answer any of her calls.
2. KEEP YOURSELF BUSY: This is a very important thing to do. You are very hurt right now and an idle mind will lead to nothing but bad thoughts at this point. So you need to keep yourself busy with other things to keep your mind off her. (Start dating other people, im sure this will help. Which leads to my 3rd and last tip.
3. Start seeing other people: Start seeing and dating other people. When you start dating other people it takes your mind off your ex and it also gets you out there to meet other people.
Look man I have no idea who you are but I do feel your pain. Just know that there is about 160 million single and available women out there. You ex was happy when she was cheating on you with that other guy...so isn't it time for you to have some happiness?
Good luck myfriend.
2007-02-23 12:37:10 · answer #4 · answered by Latavish G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should get some professional help to help you go through this process. I know it's not easy letting someone go. Thing is she lost all respect for you, disregarded your feelings and worse of all broken a trust. You really want to be with someone who will treat you like that? Another thing is, If you say: Hey, I'll stay with you...you're just telling her it was okay and she may do it again. Find a professional or a close frined you can trust in and talk it over. If it was my choice, I'd let them go.
2007-02-23 12:33:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure you love your girlfriend and want to be with her because you would do anything for her and be with whenever, but the problem is that you caught her in the act of cheating on you, if you want to save the relationship then you need to talk to her face to face and let her know how you feel about the situation and ask her why she did it, if she not willing to communicate with you then you need to try again if it does not work the second time then consider leaving her and let her know why even though you don't want to, it is hard to decision to make what you want to do but you know that you have to make it and that there is not way around it. You want to be happy and you need to figure out ways to do that despite who you date and marry.
2007-02-23 12:29:59 · answer #6 · answered by gordonflames242003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look man don't set yourself up for heartache and pain. If you caught her red handed without a doubt then you have to leave. It's your duty to leave her. She has already proven to you the she does not care about you the same way that you care about her. And the fact that you are willing to die for someone that doesn't even care about you is crazy. Of course it's gonna be hard but you will be the one who suffers if you continue to stay with her. Just tell her how you feel about her and that although you are mad you are more dissapointed in her for betraying your trust for her.
2007-02-23 12:30:44 · answer #7 · answered by ltwatkins77 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry this is happening. She is at fault not you. If someone should be worried about loosing someone that should be her. You deserve better. Come on love yourself first! You don't have to die for no one. She will pay for what she did to you. The more you try to hold on to her the more she will avoid you and think you are crazy. Don't put up with this! Can you trully forgive her and accept that she cheated on you???? Is she even showing remorse? I say you should leave her alone. She'll regret it! Love Yourself more!
2007-02-23 12:30:42 · answer #8 · answered by EV 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just think about the fact someone else was in there and I am sure that will do the trick. She is not all that into you and is looking for something better (in her opinion) If you forgive her this time, what is going to make her think you won't forgive her the next and the next and the next? In the end she will leave you anyways. You should have set up the ground rules in the beginning.
2007-02-23 12:29:31 · answer #9 · answered by lily 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
okay similar story.. my b/f cheated on me and i felt the same way. I knew it would be better for me to just move on but i love him and it's just that i can't live with out him. So i know what it's like. My b/f had a reason for cheating and i believe that. If your girl has a reason listen to it and tlak it out. If you guys still want to be together work out some way to be together. if it happens again then you know she's just using you. But you have to remember we are all humans and we all make mistakes.
2007-02-23 12:27:22 · answer #10 · answered by sweetheart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a touchy subject......
Talk to her..don't scream. Listen...don't interrupt.
Are you both on the same track?
Does she want to keep you?
Does she show remorse for cheating?
Is this her "way out?"
Is she not ready for a serious relationship?
How would she feel if she caught you?
I'm not going to ask if she loves you...(don't bother telling)
Communicate with her on the subject, talk to her soul, from yours. (try not showing desperation)
If it all falls through, you'll be ok, just won't feel ok.
I'm not there...I'm not you....find out what you have. (or don't)
I wish you well and I'm soooo sorry for you.
Love Hurts real bad sometimes. Keep that chin up, if you can.
EDIT:
Remember.....if you stay together....you'll have flashbacks of "THEM"..........Do you want to see that every time you're intimate with her?
"Trust"....takes a long time to build that.....may never fully trust again.....Do you want that?
It's your call...not ours.
2007-02-23 12:38:24 · answer #11 · answered by Bonnie Lynn 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋