I have been kind of dating two girls lately... So I changed one of their names to a male name (gabriela to gabriel) on purpose not to get caught. So once my other girlfriend was digging through my phone and found all the lovely cute messages that came from her, but it looks like they came from a guy named Gabriel. So now she wonders if I am gay... I don't want her to think I am cheating, but I hate the thought of being perceived as gay even more! What should I do?!
2007-02-23 04:21:50 · 51 answers · asked by Rona9 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This will work. Read carefully.
Tell your girl that YOU changed the name because even though you and the other girl are just friends, you thought that she (your girlfriend) would get mad.
Then say, but now, this girl is emailing me all kinds of stuff, and its gotten out of hand.
If not, THEN come clean and tell her you were dating another but it was just to make sure that the feelings you had for your girlfriend were, in fact, true.
You had better pick which one you want. It already sounds like you have. Good luck.
2007-02-23 04:34:14 · answer #1 · answered by Krystoff 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Your an idiot. First of all you shouldn't do that. Second I do not cheat but I do not see why anyone has the right to go through my phone in the first place. You do not deserve either girl because what you are doing is wrong. If you are only dating to I do not see an issue with you dating 10 girls but if you are with one and then dating your a cheater and a liar and you do not have any dignity.
2007-02-23 04:26:42 · answer #2 · answered by Tim VP 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first you should be dating two girls at one time then you would not be in this situation. The one who found the notes already knows you are cheating on her because of the notes she found. So you better just tell the truth otherwise she is going to tell everyone she knows that you are cheating on her with a guy.
2007-02-23 04:26:18 · answer #3 · answered by unknown2u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It probably would have been a good idea to tell both girls that they wern't the only one that you were seeing. If you want to see two girls at the same time, at least have the respect to tell them that.In essence you are cheating on two different girls, just because of the fact that you have not told either one of the other. Take responsibility for not respecting them, and tell both of them abouth the other. You made a mistake in not telling them, and you are going to have to deal with the consequences. I'm not trying to be rude, but you really need to talk to them.
2007-02-23 04:27:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, i am VERY disappointed in you. nobody should really even be helping you, because this is just low....
solution a: if you want to be a liar but get out of it, say you are bi-curious and just exploring different opportunities, but that you want to continue to go out with her. then dump "gabriel" asap and say bisexuality isn't for you. i myself am bisexual and at one point was dating both a boy and a girl at the same time. they knew, of course, and were very open, but if you are as homophobic as you sound, this plan will be no good.
solution b: fess up, be honest, and save your karma from an early death.
if i were you, i would tell the truth flat out.
if you value either of these women as human beings, you will just tell the truth to both of them and move on accordingly. good luck, and please save everyone the trouble, keep your pants on and your karma clean and don't do this again.
2007-02-23 04:31:34 · answer #5 · answered by mica 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You blew it. Either way you are screwed. Either you stick with the "male" friend story, and she dumps you for being gay, or you tell her the truth, and she dumps you for being a liar and a cheat!
Of course, maybe it's both. You are a liar and a cheat, AND you really do have some gay feelings, which is why you really substituted a guy's name for your other girlfriend.
2007-02-23 04:26:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fess up you got caught. If you are calling the one girl your girlfriend, then you are cheating. Sounds like a tough one to talk yourself out of. I have always found that being honest with people goes a long way.
2007-02-23 04:26:22 · answer #7 · answered by hank 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Always delete your messages not all of them that looks suspicious just the ones from chicks named Gabriel and um you are screwed figure out the lesser of two evils and go with that maybe she will be ok with you being bi
2007-02-23 04:26:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ha Ha! That's pretty funny! She'll probably take you on Jerry Springer now, being that not only does she have a bf that's cheating on her, but now it looks like you were cheating with a dude! You deserve it for screwing around in the first place - and besides, any decent player knows better than to give any girl the opportunity to go through his phone! Duh! First answer was right - you dug your own grave, man! Hee hee hee...
2007-02-23 04:27:42 · answer #9 · answered by angelbaby 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that Gabriel was just a guy joking around like guys do. Then break up with one of them and make up your mind about who to date. Have the decensy and respect to treat them like people, not your play things. They deserve your honesty.
2007-02-23 04:25:38 · answer #10 · answered by FakeFrowns 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋