My husband is wonderful, kind and handsome, great friend and lover...still I tend to fall for guys I meet and have similar interests...
Can anyone tell me why? Any psicologists out there?
2007-02-23 04:20:58 · 21 answers · asked by Kiera B 2 in Politics & Government ➔ Immigration
And this falls into the immigration category how??
2007-02-23 04:24:00 · answer #1 · answered by J S 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋
So the problem is......? " I cheat on my husband and can't stop." " I love my husband, but, we have different interests." " Am I insecure and have to constantly seek the attention of other men and my way to fight the guilt is I tell myself 'I am in love with them'." So what really is going on with you. Does your husband give you the security and confidence to 'explore' other 'venues'? There are relations among adults , other than your spouse' that are similar to love, but, they don't involve sex or sneaking around. Maybe your relationship gives you so much confidence that you enjoy men in general .A "psychologist" ( oh look, spell check) can help you figure out what is really going on with you,but, that would require you being honest with him and yourself. Maybe you have too much free time on your hands. Perhaps you and your husband can share "adventures" together (everyday if possible) so that you can rediscover that "love" or "spark" you once had for him. Marriage is a work in progress and we all have to keep working at it. Just re-invest your mind, body and soul to that guy (husband!) that sits across the table from you , that greets you when he comes home from work. Let him know that you want his attention and he better give it or you'll give him a wedgie! Maybe you just forgot how to have fun with the hubby. It is easy to take for granted the that "Loves" you the most. Just don't let it happen before it's too late! Stop kidding yourself as to what's at stake and stop flirting with a dysfuntial life. You'll just end up hurting and disappointing those around you and yourself. Life is full of choices. Make the ones that count.
2007-02-23 05:01:30 · answer #2 · answered by make room for daddy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some say it's because women need romance and excitement in their lives and things can get ordinary after a while in marriage. Chances are if you were married to someone else and you met your husband, you would fall in love with him. Sounds reasonable. Men also seem to need this excitement but, it's more sexual than romantic. Both men and women need to feel desireable. Go ahead and feel this way but, keep it in your mind. Don't risk losing your wonderful husband by acting on it. Shouldn't this question be in the 'marriage and divorce section'?
2007-02-23 04:33:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
To me this just seems natural...just because you are in love with your husband doesn't mean you won't have crushes/fall in love/become attracted to others during your life. It's natural to find others attractive, particularly those that you have stuff in common with. For instance, just because you have some good girlfriends you hang out with, does that mean you never find any other women interesting enough to make friends with them? Of course not...you continue and will continue to make friends all your life. In the same way, just because you have found a lover, doesn't mean you won't find other guys attractive.
However, what you do about those crushes/loves/people you are attracted to is what is important. You just need to take care to not put yourself situations of temptation to cheat on your husband/put your current relationship in jeopardy.
2007-02-23 04:25:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Lady? I think that with this question you are trying to meet more guys, do you understand the concept of marriage? Do you understand that you posted this under immigration, are you looking for guys to make you an american citizen 'cause that is the only way this question makes sense
Go see a shrink, maybe he's a citizen ;)
2007-02-23 16:43:35 · answer #5 · answered by calkitty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people only want what they think they cannot have....
The "grass always looks greener on the other side"..cliche' yes, but this seems to be you....
You are also trying to fill a void that is missing in your life...you need to look within to disern what it is you're missing... some people use food, drugs, alcohol..you are using the "thrill" of new "love" but you are not really falling "in-love"..you just like the feeling of it...if you are not "in-love" with your husband (which it sounds like you're not) be fair to your husband and yourself, get out of this marriage before embarking on a new relationship....but I think you really need to find someone to talk with that can help you figure out what it is that you need in your life that you aren't getting...
2007-02-23 04:29:20 · answer #6 · answered by Toots 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
if you can't spell psychologist right, then there really is a problem!!. Why did you marry him if you are falling for others, does he know this? Marriage is for life, not after you get bored you start to fall for others.
Your inner soul is searching for something and unless you discover what that is you will truly never be happy, like you said you know it's not your hubby since he is so wonderful. maybe it's work,
2007-02-23 04:31:51 · answer #7 · answered by reene2g 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
LoL, maybe you really dont "love" your husband....I think that when you find the right guy you will NEVER want to even talk to another guy in that way. Don't put yourself in those situations where you might start falling for the guy your talking you...your married...put yourself in your husbands place...
2007-02-23 04:24:35 · answer #8 · answered by ~Jamaica~ 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
tricky factor try searching at yahoo and bing that will can assist
2014-07-18 23:12:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you weren't ready for marriage or maybe even him. just think did you rush into the marriage? why did you marry him?should you seperate b4 something you can't take back happen? just think about these things to start and depending on what kind of man he is talk to him about it GOOD LUCK
2007-02-23 04:32:28 · answer #10 · answered by brown eyes 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You married your husband before you knew what you were really looking for in a man.
2007-02-23 04:26:36 · answer #11 · answered by orderly logic 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋