do you regret not marrying your first true love and spend time now thinking you should have?

Question

Is this just the ramblings of regret or the cursing of missed percieved happiness in a parrallel life?

Confused yeah a little and I wrote this!

Answer 1

Well I can see that people may feel like this. I think it's because there was no finality in the past relationship before the start of the new one. The old one must have come to an end for a reason. Perhaps if the people in this situation have some sort of closure it would sort it out into some sort of perspective.

Answer 2

Hindsight is a folly as it has no practical use. We can all look back and say what if. I also had a wonderful girl friend whom I finished with because I was falling in love with her and frightened that I might not be able to cope with losing her. Knowing I had been foolish, I tried to make amends but she disappeared without trace and to this day I will never know what happened to her. In reality it probably led me to accept less suitable partners there on but we do our best and when we have family they become our main focus. Im 52 now and living alone with my son 16yrs, Its OK to look back but the what ifs are too many and to change what I have now (Louise & James) uncomprehendable. The lesson I have learned is to understand the whys and the wherefores and wait until that special person finds her way into your life again. (hi Bernie :-) )....Make the most of life and never dwell on the past.

Answer 3

Do I regret losing my first love? Well, NO. He was older than me but he did show he had feeling for me many times. He was a good guy as far as i could see but at that age things could only have gone bad. He left town and has never tried to contact me since. If he truely cared why couldn't he wait or even try to contact me now. I believe he was trying to push me into something! I also believe that maybe i was just a time filler while he was loooking for what he really wanted.

Answer 4

Well sometimes first loves aren't meant to work out. Everything happens for a reason and maybe y'all weren't supposed to be married at the moment, maybe sometime down the line or maybe not at all. Whenever the person you're SUPPOSED to marry comes along, you'll have no regrets.

Answer 5

First of all there is already a problem about your relationship that why it is ended. Why do think of marrying him/her just for the sake of FIRST TRUE LOVE. It just so happen that both of your LOVE on that time exist and teach you a lesson. YOu should have no regrets. Love the one you have now. AND that brings back TRUE LOVE your longing for.

Answer 6

confident it does exist even nonetheless that is no longer the fable land love before everything it rather is infactuation yet then it is going to become extra of a bond, have faith variety love than a thrill of being in love that thrill rather do no longer final even nonetheless in case you the two save it going there can nevertheless be some interesting instances however the affection is a compaign a pal somebody you have faith with you reside some which you would be able to continually anticipate no longer all relationships are like your mom is saying before everything it comes ordinary and exciting yet then there is powerful and undesirable as in for extra ideal or worse yet in the process the extra severe once you like that individual then you quite pull mutually and it makes us extra advantageous, think of of the guy you like maximum be it guy or female somebody you are going to adore continuously could be a mom- dad every physique and it kinda will become that kinda love yet you're able to save it alive as for the thrills and interesting park like superb friends each so often you have exciting each so often you want a hug or a shoulder to lean on and you understand that individual is there and you're there for them..human beings say it do no longer exist while you evaluate that they had fake hopes of the exhilaration and infactuation as a replace of watching love for what that is no longer what's could be in there concepts.

Answer 7

yes and I think I always will! We were very young and together very happily for about 2 and a half years, then something happened that I think we were just too young to deal with and it just blew us apart!! I think if we had met 10 years later we'd have made it!

Even 15 years later I still compare boyfriends to him and firmly beleive that he was 'the one' but we messed it up!

What happened with him made me the person I am today and I am sure if we had stayed together I would have been a better person!

I know you shouldn't have regrets for things we cant change, but ........!

Answer 8

I adored my 1st love to the extent that I would of died for him, but as time went by his affairs got so many , he broke my heart a hundred times over but I still took him back. Then 1day we decided to get married, the registrar was booked , wedding rings bought, deposit on a dress, the after wedding buffet and evening do all sorted , our 3yr old son's page boy suit bought , lovely wedding invitations all printed. Then he cheated again , I found out he denied everything as usual, but some thing in my head clicked , did he want me or just a party and a good day, as easy as pie to get a divorce then. So 1 evening I sat there with our son , dressed him in his page boy suit , threw all the wedding invites onto the floor gave our son a few felt pens and said there you are boy draw mammy nice pictures. It was a picture to see my 1st loves face he just was gob smacked, kept asking why why why and I told him he was not the marrying type well not for me , he wanted a wife indoors (me) to be prime and proper and still have his sordid affairs. He went crying to his best mate, he even sent his best mate to plead with me to marry him , but nope I stuck to my guns the marriage never went ahead. I stayed with him for a few more years but the older I got I thought well 2 can play at his game and started an affair myself. He found out and begged me to finish it , after a while I did. We stayed together for ten years in all. Then he met a younger model as the saying goes a stay in the home woman for him , I still had feelings and wanted him back , but no he wanted her. So I was only 25 then and thought right time to start living myself and thats what I did. I always kept in contact with him , I hated him for the 1st few years, he even moved in next door but one to me with his new woman , I laughed as 1 night he tried to put his key in my door by mistake. He still had his affairs with his new woman, I now think well thank god I never married him to this day. We are now good friends, I even talk well with his partner as she is now the stay at home woman he has made her but strange how the table has turned he is 50yrs old now and will not let his partner go out without him, as the twelve year difference between them has now made him paranoid that she may find out what it is like to be out and about flirting etc. But I dont dwell on not marrying him , I call it a lucky escape. Sorry if that was a little long , or boring but you asked lol. bye. D. jones x

Answer 9

I did marry my 1st love and although he turned out to be a LOSER....I dont regret the lessons Iearned from the entire experience.

Answer 10

yes,we met 45yrs. ago and became true friends,we were 14 when we met . we never dated as teens and married others,we met again in our 20s(both had divorced ) started hanging out and eventually became intimate and have been hooking up as time and opportunity allow ( we live in different states) the point is I had the opportunity to marry her and never did and will always wonder what if