please help...i think i fall in love with this girl or just an compassion...she is just 12 years old and I'm 21 yrs old., but i know it's wrong and i wanted to be more close to her...and i don't have any plan on courting her..until the right time comes...what i want to know is that why did i fall in love with this girl for the past 20 years i don't yet have an girlfriend. in short no experience at all... this feeling just begun when the time that the girl cry because of those tears that i seen in her... I decided to helped her to finish her project...this girl was currently high school but right now she enjoy talking with me...and always she stare at me..i just pretend not knowing it..and wherever I am at the place she also go there...every time she buy chocolates, ice cream, she also buy one for me...and for my side also i wanted to see her always..and her cute smile...
2007-02-23 04:10:46 · 10 answers · asked by John de la Cruz 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
By the way i don't want to date her at that age her parents will kill me if that happen..hehe on dating that girl maybe if the time that she is an college. And i can able to close my heart.. control my self there are many girls ask me for date and call me at phone but for 20 years i have survived for not having them as my girlfriend even many of those girls. -sorry for my bad english.
2007-02-23 04:40:15 · update #1
Her affection for you is never physical. She only likes you because she sees you as a good brother figure or a possibly a father figure. And you have a fatal attraction that may have developed because you were not loved by your parents. BUT, that does NOT mean that you can hurt the girl!!!!! I hope you leave her alone. It seems that you cannot control yourself, and if you can't you shouldn't be even near her at all.
2007-02-23 04:24:44 · answer #1 · answered by dansdna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want to date a girl that is 12 years old and you are 21? I am sure you like her in most ways that any man would but you know she is a minor and if the police find out you could be in a lot of trouble maybe spend some time in jail. It is ok to talk to her as a friend or mentor but to date her is out of the question. If her parents found out about you and her then you and her would be in a lot of trouble and the parents would have lots of questions for you like what your intentions were with their daughter. You might want to consider just being a friend to her and nothing more and find a girl more close to your age. This situation seems more like compassion then it is love and you have more experience as an adult then she does she has not had a date yet. You should think about what you are getting into before you pursue this any further.
2007-02-23 12:22:52 · answer #2 · answered by gordonflames242003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your maths doesnt add up. In you question you say why did i fall in love with this girl for the past 20 years. The confusing thing is that she is only 12 you say.That means you knew her before she was born.DONT THINK SO. Get a life and go for more of your same age. I have a son thats 10 i would be disgusted if i thought there was a woman out there that wanted him.You need a doctor BIG TIME.
2007-02-23 12:26:36 · answer #3 · answered by rdm cherubs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have never been in your situation, but i totally discourage it. Maybe it is because you never had experience; therefore you have fallen for the little girl. Love is blind. I suggest you to stay away from her. It seems like she is showing some love to you, but you yourself know it is wrong. You not only harm yourself but also a little girl who is in her maturing stage. You mite be attracted to her outward actions and countenance. I doubt she even reached her period. She has no clue of many things you'd understand. It is the new feeling that you get for falling in love, but this time you just fell in love with a wrong girl. You should settle down and straightening this out. It is totally not healthy or even legal. You will find someone of your own age eventually, and you can always start by dating just not teens. Have faith.
2007-02-23 12:23:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that it's wrong, yes, for her to be 12 and you to be 21. However, I think if you can handle an appropriate friendship with her, it would be alright. However, it seems it could be a fleeting emotion.
It would be one thing if she were 22 and you were 31, or something like that, but she's underage and at the age of 12, it's very difficult to feel an emotion like love, so it would be unlikely that she would love you back..
In respect to her, a lot of her kindness to you is probably that she sees you as more of a father figure.
2007-02-23 12:19:33 · answer #5 · answered by eastbaywhatsername 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are both mentally and math challenged. You can't love a 12 year old for 20 years. You are a stalker.
2007-02-23 12:14:20 · answer #6 · answered by Karrien Sim Peters 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u leik a 12 year old girl!! OMG.. is she in high school? howd u know her???? thats jst wrong!!!do u really LOVE her? ask her on a date.. ! does her parents no that u r with her
2007-02-23 12:17:01 · answer #7 · answered by LiNDSEYR☼CKS!!<3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not pedophile when we say pedophile it the young man, who has been having sex with his girlfriend, whose a month younger on this case this boy i think is not having sex with the kid it just an puppy love yea just wait for the exact time..age does not matter...if love but kindly wait for the exact time before you start dating her..at this time i think she is still an kid...
2007-02-23 12:29:03 · answer #8 · answered by tengoy 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Kill her parents, then adopt her.
Everybody wins!
2007-02-23 12:14:22 · answer #9 · answered by Pirahã 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, you need professional help - you're a pedophile!
2007-02-23 12:13:02 · answer #10 · answered by Tiger by the Tail 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋