My boyfriend leaves me at home ( I'm pregnant) while he goes out drinking on friday night. I know that he needs guy time, but once a week? While I sit at home alone? Am I bieng over dramatic?
2007-02-23 04:05:39 · 19 answers · asked by slightlyjayded 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yes you are. once a week is not a big deal. but if you are lonely when he goes out, invite a friend over. make friday nights girl nights at your house.
2007-02-23 04:09:54 · answer #1 · answered by <3 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, you are being 'over dramatic' unless this behavior started only 'after' you got pregnant ... because most guys need 'guy time' with no women around, and they like to be able to 'relax' and even 'get totally drunk and stupid' ... but if this behavior started only after you got pregnant, but he took you 'out' on Fridays before then, you may 'complain' because it's also 'his fault' that you can't 'go drinking' anymore, because drinking can cause 'irreparable harm' to the baby ... so you'd like him to 'stay home' with you, and 'not drink' until you can go out drinking again ... but that probably won't 'work' since most men don't realize that they are 'just as pregnant' as the woman ... which is why WOMEN are the ones who can 'get pregnant' ... men wouldn't be able to 'do everything to take care of that infant inside' the way a woman can. And I'm sorry, but this is only one evening out of seven, and why can't you 'read' or watch a good 'chick flick' or get together with your girlfriends to do something that doesn't require 'drinking' while he's out with his 'guy friends?'
2007-02-23 12:24:09 · answer #2 · answered by Kris L 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why shouldn't he? He is not married to you, he didn't sign any contract. It was your choice to get pregnant (that can be prevented) You two are just playing house. He can walk away at anytime. From reading your other questions it seems like you a "just let anything happen" kind of gal. Maybe you should sit down and actually think what kind of life you want to be living in 10 years. I sure hope you have a supportive family.
2007-02-23 12:13:01 · answer #3 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you mean he goes out once a week to hang around with his friends? I'd say that would be fine. If he leaves you hanging all the time, you gotta talk to him about it. Im sure you can find something to do in those few hours of the day to relax yourself. You are having a baby. Please take care and be less frustrated. It is not good for the baby and yourself.
Congratz! God bless yall!
2007-02-23 12:15:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congrats on the pregnancy. In response to your question; I'd say once a week is fair. As long as he isn't being to crazy out there and not coming home too late. You should go out that day too. Go to a movie or dinner with a friend or something.
2007-02-23 12:11:14 · answer #5 · answered by stardeangeles 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
going out with the guys once a week is not so bad. you mat be pregnant but you can have your friends over/ go out with friends/ etc. you do not have to sit at home being alone.
the main thign is your boyfriend has thematurity to knwo when to make you the #1 priority rather than a routine.
Best of luck with your relationship and congratulations on your pregnancy :)
2007-02-23 12:20:20 · answer #6 · answered by shak2043 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't think you are. He is going to have BIG responsibilities soon! Once the baby comes, he won't be able to do that once a week anymore. I think every now and then is ok. Maybe you need to sit him down and talk to him about how you feel. Good luck!
2007-02-23 12:10:23 · answer #7 · answered by He's my world 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes and no. I agree with the fact that he may need to blow off steam, but can he not do that at home, too?
How about talking to him and have the buddies over at your place? It'd only be one night once in a while.
That said, we don't know if he's at home the rest of the 6 nights; he may feel the need to vent to his buddies about things he can't talk to you about (namely You).
2007-02-23 12:11:56 · answer #8 · answered by Slimslimmer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you arnt.... find a hot guy to stay home with you on those lonely nights.... just wait.... wait until you are not pregnant, and then leave him at home with the baby on friday nights while you go out and party and see how he feels, a taste of his own medicine is FAR better then arguing.... he obviously is a dumbass anyways.. and why do you put up with that.. grow some balls, and tell him to f off and NO no you arnt going, or i dont want anything to do with you... being alone is far greater then being depressed and angry all the time... TRUST ME.
2007-02-23 12:09:46 · answer #9 · answered by ~♥Dominatrix♥~ 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yea you are. Just like women need to be held and cuddled and need to feel loved. Guys like to have time to themselves to just be guys. I have no idea why this is a foreign concept to most women. Its not like he does this 7 days a week. Now granted your pregnant, but does that mean that your boyfriend should stop hanging out with his friends and make you the center of attention in his life?
2007-02-23 12:09:15 · answer #10 · answered by sinkablehail1978 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋