me and my boy friend have been together for well this is our fourth year together he is 19 and i am 16 and we have an 8 month old baby boy. my mother and dss keep trying to break up our family were trying to find a way out to be together any suggestions?
2007-02-23 03:48:35 · 8 answers · asked by brittany l 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i don't think it's right. i'm 16 and my fiance is 19, so i know what it's like to have your parents try to come between you. my parents were the same way when we got engaged. they kept telling us that we were too young and that we shouldn't be together. but, you have a kid. and it should be your decision if you want to stay with your boyfriend or not. You have to do what you think is right for your child. screw your parents. that baby should come first not them. and if you and your boyfriend are happy and take care of your baby together, and he supports you and the baby, your parents can't blame you guys for being good parents. I think that you should come to some sort of an agreement with your parents. ask them if you could move out, get a job, and start your own life.
2007-02-23 04:19:29 · answer #1 · answered by **Q-T-Pi** 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's good that your relationship has lasted four years, and that you both want to stay together. Raising a child is a tremendous responsibility, and I'm sure you really need your mom' help right now. And she only wants what's best for you and the baby. It would be so much better that you, your bf and son move out with your mother's blessing. I'm guessing that you're all living in your mom's home. Well that's a pretty huge sacrifice for mom to make, giving up her privacy and all. Now that you are a mother yourself, believe me, you will want the same rules in your own home, as what your mom has established. Your situation may not be ideal right now, but being parents is all about sacrificing for your children. Is it possible that you, your bf and your mom can sit down and talk rationally about some compromises that will help you all live in better harmony, keeping in mind that it's for the sake of the baby? Good luck.
2007-02-23 07:41:57 · answer #2 · answered by rozie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yr parent sure want both of you to have a very good life in future. They want you to have a good job, leaving in a good family enviroment. Most parent thinking the sameway as yr parents. They always want the best for their children. Whatever mistake that they did, they dont want you to repeat the same. Coz they been go tru all of the pain and the troublesome. Happy family is not just come with love, its need money, good job give good money, good education will give good job. Thats y they want you to separated and to think about yr own future and for the baby too. Most parents always worried too much abt future then their own feelings.
2007-02-23 04:06:36 · answer #3 · answered by ironlady42 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hope your bf is in college or have his foot in some very good career. At 16 you think life is going to be easy. I'm sure you're struggling to take care of your son. So wait until you have to choose whether to spend last $10 on baby foods, beer case for your bf, gas for car so you can take son to doctor for check up, or new shoes you need so badly.
Your parents know what they are doing. They doesn't want to take care of your son while you and your bf go and goof around in some club or bar then pay for your rent because you and your boyfriend spend moneys like water.
2007-02-23 04:15:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure your Mom is thinking of your best interest, at least I hope she is. Think long & hard about your decisions, you are young & have your whole life ahead of you. What do you see yourself doing in say 10 years? Does it involve your boyfriend? Plan your life - where you are happy & your baby is being taken care of - that's what matters in the end. Good Luck & God Bless.
2007-02-23 03:56:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your mom is trying to help you but is approaching the situation the wrong way. if you and your b/f really love each other...you will still be a family when you turn 18
2007-02-23 04:01:34 · answer #6 · answered by KJ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure your Mom is thinking of your best interest
2007-02-23 04:24:48 · answer #7 · answered by nigarbano1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have no business being parents.....
2007-02-23 03:55:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋