Argh I'm super stressed. 7 weeks to go! Does anyone else find that weddings really is a girl thing? My man is fabulous... but I ask for his input, and he really doesn't care. Somehow I ended up being in charge of MAKING the invitations as he wouldn't help me pick any and I didn't like anything. To top it off, our roomate is a total slob, he moves out when we get married, but I don't think I can last that long without going postal on him. I spend more time cleaning than planning the wedding. I'm so stressed :-(
2007-02-23 03:47:25 · 10 answers · asked by Jess*21* 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
EDIT: Thanks for the replies. I feel a million times better. I think I'm really stressing because my hubby is Canadian - I'm from New Zealand. So I don't have mum, best friends etc here. Spa day it is!
2007-02-23 03:58:51 · update #1
I'm right their with you except 4 weeks to go! lol! I know what you mean, I adore my fiance, but he has been close to zero help...but he has been working like crazy on our house where i haven't done anything on that since we got engaged! Last weekend I was at my wits end ready to pull the hairs out of my head and we decided we just needed to get out of town for the day, so we drove to a town about an hour away that has different stuff and we had a good day NOT talkin about the wedding or the house or anything, we just enjoyed ourselves like we did before we decided we needed a wedding with 200 guests! We ate at a restaurant we had been wanting too, we went shopping, checked out a really cool flea market and got some cool stuff for our house....It really helped me, I have been a much easier to get along with person this week, maybe you 2 should get away for a day or 2, with a little organization, you can make things still happen and then maybe you won't go tooo crazy! Get away from the roomate and the invites and just enjoy each other for a little bit, I promise it will help!
2007-02-23 05:12:54 · answer #1 · answered by ASH 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tomorrow puts me at 3 weeks away.
Trust me, I know how you feel. Sadly, it only gets worse. The closer you get there are so many fine details to get worked out. If you're lucky you have at least someone who will agree involved in your planning. My mom is really involved & we have totally different taste. Picking flowers was AWFUL. My mother got so pushy the florist actually said, "this is HER wedding" & put her hand in front of my mom's mouth. Sounds pretty bad on the florist part, but she was just making noise at this point. Of course my fiance' stood by & watched, not really giving an opinion other than "that's fine...that's fine, too." I could have picked a dead leaf & he would have said it was fine.
So good news...you're normal! Bad news is, it really sucks. But you'll get through it!
2007-02-23 09:09:11 · answer #2 · answered by layla983 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh its a girl thing most men don't care they might want to be asked about something bigger like the tux for them and the guys or even the music and food but as for colors or favors or table cloths they could careless so realize it now it will be like this about a lot of things like when you do your house they may want to help choose a huge item like a couch but what kind of hand towels are in the bathroom who cares! that's how it has been the last 11 years of my married life my guys is great but if i say what color sheets should we get he like which ever now when i wanted to paint our room then he said something when we bought new carpet then he said something when i decided to do our baby's room in butterfly's he was yeah sound good OK which ever so it will happen again but that's a guy thing go get a message your feet and nails done go out to the movies and dinner with your friends and try to relax and not talk wedding for a little while! good luck!
2007-02-23 04:06:20 · answer #3 · answered by peterpansdate 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just make sure you spend time with your man NOT talking about anything to do with the wedding. Lucky you for marrying a Canadian; we are wonderful! Congrats and good luck!
2007-02-23 07:37:39 · answer #4 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are right. Weddings are definitely geared around women. My guy's great too, but he could care less about the details. I agree with the others, we need a spa day! Good luck!
2007-02-23 04:26:02 · answer #5 · answered by Angela N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's is a girl thing. It's for you...your mom... and your friends. Men just want to show up and be told where to stand.
Sounds like you've taken on WAY more responsibility for this event than necessary. I know you want it to be perfect... but don't be afraid to dole out tasks to friends and family members. And when all else fails... hire a professional!!! Pay someone to stress for you... that's the best way to go.
2007-02-23 03:52:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its definitly a girl thing. we've been married almost a year, and i was sooooooo stressed from the food, to the dj, to the amount of people ect. (we had almost 180 people, because everyone decided they just had to say yes. hahahah) anyway. my husband was almost of little to no help with the planing. everytime i freaked out or got super stressed he would just tell me "everything will work out" ( i hate that line!!!!!) he did however help pick out the invitations, and cake, but i think that was about it. good luck. make sure your bridesmaids help you with stuff. (mine didnt with the exception of my sister). also make sure you have an awesome maid of honor. mine sucked ***, and i dont even talk to her any more!! (long story) enjoy the married life and good luck!!
2007-02-23 04:03:02 · answer #7 · answered by Awesome Rockin Mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need a spa day!!! Make it clear to both of them that you are leaving for the day and give them a list of tasks to get done while your gone...while you are soakin up the spa let them worry about everything!!!!
2007-02-23 03:53:57 · answer #8 · answered by Soon2BMrsCarlson 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-02-23 04:18:09 · answer #9 · answered by cruiser 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Congrats!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!Take a breath and look to the reason you are getting married and not the fuss.
2007-02-23 14:29:50 · answer #10 · answered by Miz Val 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋