Why is this so hard even when I surrendered this to God?

Question

I had an incident where I was hurt and blasted by someone in an e-mail and this was in regard to my high school renuion.

How can I forget the past even though I fully given it to God? What are good godly ways not to take people and things not so personal and to heart? When does one get true deliverance from the past?

Answer 1

You just have to let go. You have to be aware that some people out there are mean spirited and WANT to hurt you...and you are giving them exactly what they want! (Does that perspective change your mind at all??)

I get mean emails all the time, many personally blasting me. I simply dont allow it to bother me. I know I'm above acting in that fashion, so I dont allow others to bother me. You're above these people as well - so dont let them bring you down! Email is completely IMPERSONAL - so dont take it personally!

Answer 2

One gets true deliverance formt he past , when they are ready to give it up completely. Ask God for a forgiving nature that things will happen to you and yes they may hurt but it won't affect the love from God to others. You can only get this through a new heart, from God. He literally have to give you a new heart, because our old carnal ways are from the old heart. The old heart is stained from sin, and needs to be replaced. That's why Davis says creat in me a clean, new heart, and renew the right spirit within me. So when situations come into play there wouldn't be any doubt in his mind that he wouldn't overcome, because the new heart can't harbor evil. Not forgiving someone leaves you in a state of not being forgiven. Pray and ask God to just create a new heart i you, and tell Him I don't want to feel the hurt form this certain thing, and believe He'll do it. He's a healer and deliverer.

Answer 3

Maybe you need to look into your own question to find the answer.

"What are good godly ways not to take people and things not so personal and to heart?" You can do this by not taking people and things so personal and to heart ...

Most people on Earth are just trying to get by in some form or another. The sooner you realize this, the better. Nothing here matters after you bury them (bodies and memories). Those statements about how big someone is, what their mother used to do, how their boss doesn't seem to like them, even the e-mail regarding your high school reunion ... These things affect everybody. The people who are happiest realize 'It's nothing personal' - just the way that person is.

Example:

Lady was in front of me at the Wal-mart self-check out lines. She was obviously upset about something. I stood behind her as she put everything in an individual bag and tried to slow down the line ... for what reason I don't know. Stood there waiting to stat ringing up my things for about 5 minutes. I was growing impatient. Then one of the Wal-mart employees told me another line opened up. I said, "Thank you." and went to check out.

Moral? She was pissed off. I could've told her to hurry the hell up ... but what would it have accomplished? Would I remember her if I saw her tomorrow. Probably considering it was just a week ago. Would I acoust her? No, why should I?

Here's what I said and would say if I saw her again ... "Whatever." and laugh.

My venting period might be a little longer if I knew the person, but eventually you should be able to laugh about it without it bringing up disdainful feelings ...

Your life here on Earth is too short to worry about such trivial things, yet that doesn't mean that you can't get upset about them. Be upset, vent, apologize to God, go to work, go to the store, go to bed and move on. You get true deliverence from the past when you realize it didn't affect you as much as you thought and you laugh afterwards.

If you can't laugh afterwards, it's still affecting you.

Answer 4

You will never truly forget. Things that hurt us in life will be with us forever. We can give it to the Lord and he can comfort us. Remember we will be persecuted for our beliefs. Even if this is not a belief oriented remark we must forgive that person. Does that person realize what he or she has said to hurt you? They are a slave to sin. We are not perfect either just forgiven. Forgive and forget. We are here on earth for such a short time dont let this get you down. Not everyone is going to like you. People say things because they have low self esteem and try to make themselves look good by making you feel bad. Remember the only one who we really care about pleasing is our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. Amen and Peace out.........

Answer 5

The answer to this lies both in your heart and in Scripture. Remember that people quite often know not what they do, and don't listen to the words of negativity about what is your personal life and no one else's business. Our deliverance from the past is in our assurance of the future. Talk to somebody you know to be an accountable person and put a name on the unkind acts of others toward you. Then, I think, the bite of their words will be seen by you for what they are and no longer tug at your heart.

Answer 6

If you have not forgiven...you have not fully given it to God.

If you fully surrend to God...there would not be much of a self left to take things personally and to heart.

You get true deliverance for the past when you let it go and fully give it to God (which by your words you have not).

First you need to own the past/pain and dwell in it (the only way out is through)...and then cease holding onto it. It will go of its own accord. Like gravity taking hold of the (emotional) baggage when you drop it and it falling to the floor.

It will go when you let go.

~ Eric Putkonen

Answer 7

Forgiving must be done, but forgetting is what we must ask God to do for us. God can put it out of our mind.

Love is the answer to the last three. Separate the person from the sin. Love the person and hate the sin. Do not take or give offense. Don't let anyone offend you. And don't offend anyone.
Stick and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me. If they try to hurt you forgive them, pray for them and love them. It takes a lot of practice, but eventually it works. If they say something ugly to you - reply - BLESS YOU. Not easily accomplished, but it can be done because it is God's WAY.

Answer 8

I know what you feel, I tend to take things personally as well. I know this will sound cheesy but it WORKS. I'll give an example, if you're angry, command that spirit of anger to go away in Jesus name. It really works. Imagine putting all your hurt on that cross then imagine how He'd comfort you. Focus on the present because if you allow your past to keep haunting you, it affects your future. Remember that God is Love so think of how much He loves you and wants this pain to go away.:) You can do it!

Answer 9

It takes practice. It is human nature to look back, or hold grudges. It is not a sin to be tempted, only to follow through on the temptation. When the thoughts creep up, put them out of your head. Pray over your concerns instead of dwelling on them. Don't let these things of the past keep you from your future.

Answer 10

Once you hand it over to God and take the hurt from your heart. Offer forgiveness and move past you have done your part. If you let the past fester in your heart it will remain. The past is the past