My little girl will be two next week, and has been the only child (grandbaby too) for two years. She will have a baby brother or sister in 6 months and I have no problem admitting she is very spoiled. I plan on keeping her involved, she is even going to my first ultrasound next week. Do any of you have any advice on how to get her ready for this new addition to our family?
2007-02-23 03:27:01 · 22 answers · asked by lil momma 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I know how you feel. I have a 26 month old and am also pregant (due sometime this week)
Try taking her to most of your appointments so she can see whats going on. Let her help you get things ready for the baby, eg: buying cloths, putting the cot up, setting up the room. Let her touch your tummy as it getts bigger and try explaining to her that she going to be a big sister soon and mummy is going to need her help with the baby.
When the baby is born try things like when you are breast feeding try reading a book with your daughter, or if you bottle feed let her hold the bottle for the baby (with you there), when you change the baby let her hand you the nappies or the wipes. When you give baby a bath she could hand you the towel or pick out the cloths for it.
Bascially just keep her involed in everyday stuff so she doesnt feel left out.
2007-02-23 20:27:43 · answer #1 · answered by tazziemonster 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did you call her a little girl she is 17 or 18 years old, there are currently 12 year olds having babies. I think she is young yes, but she is not a child she is a young woman, and the Palin family seems to be very capable not only she & her husband but they have a very extended family which is very close. I would say that Palins daughter probably has much more love & support than many other girls much younger than her in the same situation. Many girls do not have a mother or father that gives a crap while their kids are running the streets into drugs, crime and on welfare those are the ones YOU should be worrying about!!
2016-05-24 02:23:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Involve her as much as possible but also start weening her off being spoilt as it will be easier when you have the baby as she will not blame it's arrival on being treated differently. What ever you do never say to her before or after the baby arrives that she can't have this or do that now because of the new baby. She will end up really resenting it. Better to start her on her new adjusted life now before it comes along so that she has no one to resent or blame.
Besides spoiling her is not doing her any help for later in life. Your children will be a much better adjusted and happier people and also will be easier to deal with when they hit being teenagers if you do not spoil them right from the beginning as children.
2007-02-23 03:37:24 · answer #3 · answered by elin1607 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just keep talking to her about it, show her the scans and explain how big the baby is and what it looks like. Little things like that, also, ask her how she is feeling about it and if writing it down helps, then encourage her to do so. I was nine when my mum was pregnant and little things like that helped me 'come to terms' with it so to speak! It meant that I was very excited when he was born and was actually looking forward to him coming into the world, all because mum and dad had kept me involved. Oh, and from a child's point of view, a little present from the new arrival to 'the best big sister in the world' also helps once the baby is born! x
2007-02-23 03:37:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, girls are easier to adapt to this anyway. Buy her her own baby and let her take care of it as you will have to take care of the new baby. Let her help you shop for the new baby. Picking it's clothes etc. When the baby is born, write her a letter/note from the baby telling her that the baby is already so special to her and it hopes that she will help her to learn things. There are 6 years between my children and I had the same problem and by keeping her involved she will adapt to having a new baby. Good luck
2007-02-23 03:37:58 · answer #5 · answered by FiB 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife and I were in the exact situation last year! We just gave little daily reminders that mommy had a baby in her belly. We also went to the book store and got a few "I'm a big sister books" She was excited to be mommy's little helper with the new baby. The only problem we had was confusion of why there were pacifiers back in the house. We caught her trying to use them here and there. Last congrats!
2007-02-23 03:34:48 · answer #6 · answered by navy_hobo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have done a lot already! Try and pretend to her that it will be her baby too. She cand help "choose" prints for the baby's room and toy's aswell. If she is spoiled then she will still feel like the number one girl. To help prepare find her a doll which needs drinking and cries (you can buy them at toy stores) to help demostrate whats happening. There will probably be kids books about it somewhere so you could read her one as a bedtime story.
2007-02-23 11:14:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep her involved in any way and ask her to talk to the baby and give the baby cuddles and kisses, also before our 2nd was born we bought a teddy which we brought home from the hospital and gave to our eldest and said the baby brought it for him. Once the baby is born let her help by getting things for you, wipes, nappies etc. Thats what we did and our oldest was really not jelous and he was around 2 and a half when our 2nd was born.
2007-02-23 04:09:48 · answer #8 · answered by Angie B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like you are already doing a great job in getting her used to having a new baby around, just carry on with what you are already doing by involving her in as much as possible, get her to help you choose the baby clothes and equipment when the time comes and when she has been good buy her little treats and say they are from the new baby, this way she will see having the new baby around will be a good thing, good luck
2007-02-23 06:44:58 · answer #9 · answered by tracy w 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By her a baby doll with the stroller so that she can be a little mommy too. Have her talk to your stomache and say to her , you once lived here in mommy's belly too.So now we are having a new baby in there. Your going to be a big sister and you can feed the baby milk and play with the baby. Ask her to be your big girl helper.
2007-02-23 03:34:52 · answer #10 · answered by Mahogany 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋