He is not teething,sick or anything like that. He is well fed all day and gets cereal right before bedtime. I'm still nursing him and he doesn't want to eat when he wakes up at night he just cries until you pick him up. As soon as i pick him up he stops immediately.He has never slept for more then 5 hours only once. I'm exhausted & he is getting up 6x's a night and barely sleeps for more than 1 hour. I tried cry it out for about a week with him because my doctor said to & it didn't workat all. I did the controled method a few weeks later and let him cry for a 2,4,6 minutes no more than 8 minutes. It seemed to start working right away and he was sleeping longer strecthes but then after a week he started getting up again several times a night so after the second week i gave up from exhaustion. Does anyone know the jist of the No cry sleep solutions I don't have the time nor the energy to read the book. If someone could please just give me the basics so i can try it tonite.Please Help ME
2007-02-23 03:15:54 · 17 answers · asked by mary3127 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
One more thing we have a two and a half year old that sleeps in the next room too. I didn't pick my son up until after a week of the cry it out because the crying became longer and longer and from my personal experience with our first son it only took three days and the crying got shorter and shorter each day not longer.and after two weeks of the controled crying he was getting worse and crying more and i didn't go in and pick him up then either. After he no longer had a voice literally from all the all night crying we gave up.
2007-02-23 03:32:18 · update #1
Listen up everyone I appreciate all the answers here but for everyone saying i need to stop nursing and parenting is difficult and to drink more coffee..I am nursing i don't drink anything with cafeine in it. I realize parenting is not that easy it's a full time job I have a 15 year old & a 2 1/2 yr old. i just never had a baby with a sleeping problem before. He was born not breathing with the cord around his neck and very low apgar score. We did take him to a pediatric nuerolgist when he was two weeks old and he didn't think my son had any physical problems but he did say mentally we won't know anything until he is 3. Once again thanks everyone for all your advice.,
2007-02-23 03:52:08 · update #2
Your doing the right thing :)))
All it takes is consitancy. By giving up your enabling his bad sleeping habits and actually reinforcing them. Just keep doing what your doing. Once you stop and pick him up you've just reinforced his getting up at night. It will take a few weeks to get him adjusted. And, if this is new to him possibly even a month.
My son was the same way and at 10 months we took an overseas trip to India (12 hour time difference) he was really thrown off. He had gotten used to my in laws picking him up at night, rocking him, feeding him, and just not making him sleep. Plus, he fell asleep in someones arms. Even though we had a good sleeper before when we got back we didn't. It took nearly 2 1/2 weeks to get him to sleep through the night again. And, took a month and a half to get his naps down pat.
All it takes is for you to keep on it and not give up. Trust me he will fall into the pattern you set for him. Right now the pattern your setting is to wake up and mommy picks you up. They are smarter than we give them credit for that's for sure :)))
2007-02-23 03:36:32 · answer #1 · answered by Baby #3 due 10/13/09 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm with you on this. I have a 16 month old and she is just starting to sleep through the night. I understand how hard it is to listen to the screaming. Her doctors say to let her cry it out too, but it is very hard when she can go for 2 hours, we have neighbors upstairs and we both get up early for work. I want to keep an eye on this question because I would like some suggestions too. She still gets up once at night, but that's all it takes for her to not go back to sleep! And I tried the controlled method to. All they learn from that is you will eventually go back in and they win!
2007-02-23 03:20:15 · answer #2 · answered by tmac 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The risk for sids is consederably lower at this point and as long as she is comfortable that way and she sleeps well then by all means let her! I have three babies and by that age they were all on thier bellies to sleep. My 9m old has been rolling all the way over since she was 2 days old so she litterally sleeps all over her crib in many different possitions. Just make sure that there isnt anything for her to suffocate on like a pillow or a blanket too close to her face otherwise she should be fine!
2016-05-24 02:18:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to be weened. He needs to learn to quiet himself and hes gone past the time for that. Get him off breast, and you need to let someone else give him the bottle for a while. some kids can nurse till their ten without a problem. Some kids should be weened when their first tooth comes in. But someone has let you down here. You should have had this problem solved by the third month. Now, he has bonded to you, thinks hes a part of you (If you will ) and is not comfortable with out you there. My guess is , people have been telling you for quit sometime that you were starting somthing that needed to be stopped but you didn't listen. Now your baby has to go through about two weeks of hell, because you had to be the be all and end all of your kids life. You knew best, blah blah blah. LISTEN to MOMS you respect. If you think your own Mom was off , then find a mother who has a handle on things. Parenting is hard. Believe me, you will be looking for answers for the next 18 yrs. We all do. Just go for advice a little sooner next time, from someone you respect and know! Some of those breat feeding groups mean well, but can be a little fanatical and unable to get that there way isn't the best way for all. Sorry if I sounded harse, I wanted to get your attention. Best of luck Kiddo
2007-02-23 03:35:35 · answer #4 · answered by LPnerd 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
My 10 month old just started waking up at about 1-2am. He used to sleep all through the night. We discovered that he was getting too many long naps during the day, and we were putting him to bed at night too early. We have now started regulating his daytime naps to 1 1/2 to 2 hours, twice and day, and not putting him down at night until 9:30 or 10:00 pm. This seems to have helped. Good Luck.
2007-02-23 03:24:05 · answer #5 · answered by Society Dweller 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You said it yourself, you pick him up, he stops. He wants you that's all, and you need to break this.
Your baby is ok, but you didn't wait long enough. He's SMART, you eventually picked him up, and know he knows if he cries long enough, you'll eventually cave in.
Unfortunately, if you want to correct this problem, you're going to have to listen to more crying.
My suggestion is to continue to leave him in there crying, and every 5-10 minutes go in there and tell him it's all right, but he needs to go to sleep. DON'T TOUCH HIM OR PICK HIM UP. You can extend the time the more you do it. But please don't cave in, that's why you're not breaking him of this habit. Get some earplugs if you need them, or sleep somewhere else where you won't hear him.
He'll eventually get the picture he's to sleep, and you'll sleep, and it'll all be better.
Oh yeah, don't let him catch up on sleep during the daytime. 2 naps max! Make him tired for bedtime!
2007-02-23 03:22:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Try a nice warm bath before bedtime, after the bath feed him formula with oatmeal baby cereal burp him really good then put him down to sleep also if you can prior to starting this sleep a couple of night with one of his blankets just to get you scent on them this will help reassure him you're nearby.
good luck
2007-02-23 03:51:47 · answer #7 · answered by chellebelle 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hate to tell you this, but welcome to parenthood. I've found that each of my four kids had completely different personalities and sleep patterns as infants. Sometimes one will sleep eight hours at a stretch and other will not sleep more that 90 minutes at a time. I suggest you learn to embrace the necessity of coffee in your life. I can also tell you that your baby will sleep. He may scream his little head off for an hour, but he will eventually wear himself out and sleep. Suck it up, drink coffee for the next week and let him cry it out. When you put him to bed and tell him to go to sleep, he needs to know that it's bedtime and you are not going to go back in his room because he's throwing a fit.
2007-02-23 03:25:46 · answer #8 · answered by scp98k 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Gosh, I feel for you. I can't imagine why he is not sleeping longer. I never had this problem but here is one thing you can try. Put a few safe toys and books in the crib so that when he wakes up, he may be intrigued and play for awhile. I always kept toys in the crib just in case one of my kids woke up early. Good Luck.
2007-02-23 03:33:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
I know they say this is bad, but it works really good....Let him sleep with you. I bet he would probably sleep better feeling, smelling, and hearing you next to him. My son slept with me most of the time until he was about a year. You have to be really careful so that they don't fall off the bed or you roll on them and stuff, but I think it is kinda mom instinct to know not to move. If u are a really heavy sleeper or toss and turn alot then I wouldn't recommend it though. And if you are really scared of him falling then sleep on the floor with him. There really can't be that much harm in it I think....what did mothers do thousands of years ago?
2007-02-23 03:27:58 · answer #10 · answered by Beth C 2 · 3⤊ 2⤋