What is wrong with being selfish and self-centered?

Question

All my life I've been told my family and friends I'm selfish and self-centered. In all honestly I don't feel or think that there is anything wrong with me being selfish. As far as I'm concerned I am the most interesting person. I am being deadly serious here. I don't understand why it's so bad to be self-centered. Sure I think about my needs and wants first but what's wrong with that? I'm happy this way.
On the plus side of my nature I'm emotionally honest, I'm a bad liar. I dislike hurting people's feelings so I've never been a bully. I would never steal from anyone I knew. I could never work as a con artist, again bad liar. If a friend needed a blood donation or a kidney I would happily give it. I'm a firm believer in being fair whenever possible. I intensely dislike hypocrites. I think marriage is a gift from God and people divorce too easily. All in all I suppose from other's people's view point the only bad thing I have is I'm selfish and self-centered.
Anyone else here selfish?

Answer 1

Wow sounds like one of my friends has that. Once you see yourself who you are and remember other people can't see what you see yourself. They have their own opinion. Most of people hate when people are selfish or self-centered. ITs very annoying, trust me. Everyone likes to share and be loose.

About liar, its not good for your future. What if you met someone and fell in love then bust you that you were lying, you will lose everything. Think about it. I am glad that you already know what your life is like but don't use it too much front of people because they are not like you, they need loose around then if you are alone, go ahead be selfish or self-centered but not with them.

Answer 2

Sooooooooooooo ! Its all about you, and that sweetheart is real
problem. When you are so self absorbed you are emotionally
devoid of anyone else, In the future you may get married have children , and to to have any real relationship you cannot be selfish, self centered, or self absorbed because, god forbid! the truth just may be that some one needs something and you can not find within your selfish self to give it. in other words this must be a serious issue to you
or you would not ask for an opinion or try to justify your actions
so there is hope , to many people saying the same thing denotes a real problem, but only you can solve this one. I wish you the best of luck.

Answer 3

It doesn't sound like your selfish....In my opinion of selfishness, is everything is you, about you, for you etc and from what you've said, your just worried about you first and it's understandable. I'm the complete opposite in that way, not that it's bad but yeah, I mean I can see how some would consider it selfishness if everyone else puts everyone else's needs first. Make sense ?? Like if you and I hung out, I'd totally label you selfish because I'm opposite, I'd feel it's all about you regardless of how it actually is. Now if you talk about yourself and how hot you are and how if you walked into an interview and knew you had the job, you know certain things then whether I'm selfish or not, that's just plain out wrong. That is extreme selfishness and it's annoying and most including women would not deal with that friends or more.

Answer 4

It's okay to be selfish and self centered when it comes to specific aspects of your life. For instance.. you relationships should be yours and your mates and you don't have to share that. Your money... it's yours. But if you hate hurting people's feelings than you have to be aware of them. Being selfish and self centered can hurt those that surround you because you don't care about what they are going through. And it's not that you can't empathize with them you just wont. So that makes people feel like you could honestly care less about them. Sometimes you have to put other people's feelings ahead of your own even though it doesn't make you happy because if all of us lose our compassion for others and focus only on ourselves... this world will go even further to hell than it already is. And if you hate hypocrites than you should change your behavior. You can't be against hurting other people's feelings yet do it constantly. That would make you a hypocrite.

Answer 5

Any relationship you are in will eventually fall apart. Because no relationship is one sided. When you are with someone who is selfish and self centered eventually the other party gets tired of giving and giving and getting nothing back. I know you sound like my wife. She is going to end up alone and you more then likely will end up alone in the long run. You will have your things and possessions. But you will have no one that truely loves you or wants to be with you.

Would you put your needs in front of your childrens needs. If so then you are not selfish you are a a$$hole.

Answer 6

Depends how you define "selfish." If you take care of yourself and treat yourself from time to time to something you like (as long as it's not immoral and doesn't hurt anyone) that's not wrong. That's hardly selfish.
Now if you put yourself above those you "love" and prioritize yourself in the #1 spot, you have to re-analyze whether you really "LOVE" those people (b/c that word gets thrown around a lot erroneously). Love is NOT self-serving, it is self-sacrificing and reciprocal; thus you would want the best for those that you love, and they would sacrifice for you in return, as well. It's a mutual respect.

Answer 7

i think we are all a little selfish. it's perfectly normal.. even if most people like to pretend they are not selfish & that they are so high & selfless. the thing is, there are times when you will realize that the world doesn't revolve around you, for example when you get a family & have children.. you will most likely put them at the same level as yourself, or higher. if you are essentially an honest good person which is what you're trying to say you are, and your selfishness doesn't hurt other people, then there is nothing wrong with it.

Answer 8

i dont think there is anything wrong with that... just so long as you plan on staying single...i assume your male? if so, women WILL NOT deal with that in a relationship.... and yes its a double standard, i pretty much told my husband at the begining of us dating, that, its my way or the highway, and he has lovingly wrapped himself around my finger and wouldnt change a thing, 6 years now. As long as you are a MORAL self centered selfish person its all good. just dont go into the bad moral catagory.

Answer 9

Nothing wrong with being selfish and self-centred, but don't expect to meet anyone and share a life together anytime soon.

Answer 10

sure. egocentric and self-based human beings do a great variety of harm to others. and because they're egocentric and self-based they do no longer care with reference to the wear and tear they do. there's a huge difference between looking after your own desires and walking on others.