how do i break up with my girlfriend with out out her being upset?

Question

i hav a girlfriend i want 2 break up with b/c i dont even like her friend ask me out for her and now i want 2 break up but i dont want any hur in the process

Answer 1

When you figure it out, write a book about it. It will sell millions.

Answer 2

A couple of days ago, you wanted to know how to tell if a girl liked you, now you want out? Hmmmmmmmmmmmmm......maybe next time you will decide up front whether you want the girl first BEFORE becoming involved and then trying to get out of what you got into alive......yes....the trials and tribulations of unrequitted love can be deadly. First things first....man up my dear! Part of being with someone is BEING HONEST, not just with the good stuff, but with the bad also. I would suggest a public place, in private, so that if she chooses to hit you (and it might happen!) you will have witnesses and hopefully, some help, also, it will keep her in check with the histronics. Look for a coffee house or pancake place and have her MEET YOU THERE, don't pick her up........andwhen she gets there.... tell her "Look, I have been thinking of a nice way to do this, and there isn't a nice way, so I am just going to be honest with you. I just don't feel like seeing you anymore, and I think it would be wrong to continue this relationship, because you deserve better than that. I hope you understand and I wish you well." Get up and LEAVE immediately, before ordering any food. If you haven't managed to do that BEFORE ordering, pay for the food ordered and leave. Do not drive her anywhere, do not let her talk you out of it, just get up and leave as soon as you have said that. She'll know you aren't for her, and she'll not be able to vent a spleen at you, as you have left her sitting there and you'll have said what should have been said without being unkind. Don't call her after to see how she is doing, do not email her, do not do anything to encourage ANY hope of any kind. And next time you get involved with someone, be aware, you may have to do this again, so choose wisely. Good luck! Also, trying to break up with someone and not hurt them, is well, not realistic. Its like trying to operate on someone without anestisia. Just be a man and do what you got to do, face to face and leave.

Answer 3

It's impossible for you not to hurt her by breaking up with her. The trick is to make it as painless as possible. Just tell her that she's a great person but that you don't think it's working out between you two. Tell her you understand if she hates you but you hope that you will be able to remain friends. If she asks you why just tell her that there's just no spark and you've tried but you can't see her as anything more than a friend.

Answer 4

you cant break up with her without hurting her. But you could say something like, "I care about you alot, and I think you're really cool. But I think we'd be better off as friends." If I was a girl and got dumped that way, it would make me feel a BIT better. Then she has a choice, she can cut you out of her life completely in order to move on, or she can remain friends with you, and move on.

Answer 5

That's like asking, "how do I punch a rattlesnake without it attacking me?"

Girls are experts at riling up emotion, even if it's not that big of a deal. They are very talented at creating drama or making something more dramatic.

What you have to do is tell it to her quickly and then, just get the hell out of there as if you just tossed a grenade in room of loons.

If you give her no time to build up the drama, you won't have to endure her whines, tears, and "weapons of mass construction", "construction" meaning drama.

Just tell her, "can we talk briefly?"...."yes, dear?"..."Look, I'm not happy with our relationship. I need out. NOW. I can't talk now, just email me if you have any questions. I don't want to argue about it any more. CASE CLOSED."

Then, turn you back, turn the corner, and run like hell.

Answer 6

You can't! She will be hurt and upset. That is what breakups do. There is no way around it, unless it just happens she doesn't want to be with you either and was pussyfooting around like you are. Be direct. Be polite. Say you are sorry. But DO it. And do it face-to-face, unless you want to be a big wuss. The sooner you do it, the sooner she can move on and find someone who is more compatible with her, and you can do the same. It happens. Time to move on. Good luck!

Answer 7

I'm not sure I understand the phrasing of your question's add-on, but if I'm getting it correctly, here's how I'd phrase my answer:

If you're breaking up with your present girlfriend to date one of her friends, you're not going to have a good break up... it'll be impossible. And, not only will you be at least partially responsible for hurting her (after all, she has the choice to not get mad... but she will), but you'll also be responsible for quite possibly ending your girlfriend's and her friend's friendship. Women are vindictive, and they'll get you when you least expect it.....

But, hey, I've been wrong before. Good luck on this one. You'll need it...

Answer 8

There is no way to do this, unless she actually hates you and is just with you because of pity. I'd say bite the bullet and do it. The longer you wait the harder it becomes. It will be better for the both of you in the long run.

Answer 9

ok let her down easy tell her that she is way cool and you want to stay friends but you are really busy in your life and you need to think about soem things and you dont want to hurt her but you just dont think you can handle being in a relationship right now!

Answer 10

you can't break up with your girlfriend without her getting upset it is next to impossible. but you can do it gently just let her know what is going on if she has any self respect she would want to know instead of being with someone who doesn't really want to be with her anyway