You love this girl with all your heart and she decides to take a break makes it clear that she wants no one else. She's devoted to making the relationship work but needs to get herself together. The guy completely avoids her.
Yet it seems the ex who ran all over him and slept with God knows how many men gets a second chance.
Why is she avoided? Is that a trust issue?
2007-02-23 02:56:51 · 8 answers · asked by Noree 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
For the record this is a general question not about me.
2007-02-23 11:31:31 · update #1
Well, think about it.
He got burned the first time and in his head, its happening a second time.
He was probably a little jaded. In his head he was being rejected by you (sorry, "the girl") and he doesn't want that to happen again.
We all put up walls when relationships don't work out; some walls go up faster, stay there longer and some never come down.
Sit him down, try to explain a little differently this time. If he still reacts the same way, let him go decide for himself how long he's going to sulk.
2007-02-23 03:03:28 · answer #1 · answered by Slimslimmer 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your wondering why someone you broke up with avoids you?
News flash: men have feelings to, and relationships are not only about your feelings. You told the guy that you don't want him. Why in the world would he hang around like a puppy dog hoping you change your mind?
Frankly, it is highly likely that if he did hang around you trying to "be friends" and "support you" while you find yourself, that you'd be asking why he's hanging around after you told him you were on a break.
2007-02-23 11:02:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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The ex's know WHO they are.
Most guys rely on performance when they begin dating someone.
Therefore, after a while the "newness" wears off and the performance begins to fade. Women start seeing these guys for who they really are.
Then comes the arguments, etc.. all because they were insecure to begin with - of who they are.
So, when they break up, they keep their new interests FAR AWAY because there could be a transfer of knowledge that could sabotage their current relationship..
Enough said...............
2007-02-23 11:06:23 · answer #3 · answered by HottNikkels 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You can't explain love! But remember that his life is moving also. Get him alone and ask to be his friend. If the answer is no, well his life has moved on, and that is life.
2007-02-23 11:04:32 · answer #4 · answered by johnny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are ex's for a reason, that person no longer wants to be with you. Who cares what happened, it's over, let it go, move on.
Tori
2007-02-23 11:01:12 · answer #5 · answered by Incognito 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
because you are on break, you are putting your life together, and he is having as much fun single as possible, bottom line you dont fu ck him anymore thats why he avoids you good luck
2007-02-23 11:00:15 · answer #6 · answered by J from O 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not ready to commit just yet. maybe they are not sure that they have found the right person so they backoff
2007-02-23 11:01:14 · answer #7 · answered by Blink-Monkey-Blink 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they will get new
2007-02-23 11:00:43 · answer #8 · answered by keral 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋