We met a few weeks ago, and I think im in love now. I cant stop thinking about him. We talk on the phone and online everyday. First problem is im in the UK and he's in USA. I am going to nyc with me parents this march and want to meet him, should i? Is this really love or am I just losing me mind? Help!
2007-02-23 02:46:27 · 62 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't meet him.
You are in love with an idea and with words, not a person.If you've already told him you will be in NY, tell him your parents want to meet him. Take advantage of your youth- before he does.
Amazing how many would-be pervs have identified themselves with their answers below!
2007-02-23 02:49:25 · answer #1 · answered by Gaspode 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You are losing your mind for sure because how could you love someone that you never even met. OK , so you talk to him online and on the phone, big deal. He is also 40 years old, which is probably old enough to be your father. I know that age is just a number but this guy is definitely a strange one looking for an 18 year old kid from overseas. He is 40. He's probably a perverted degenerate. Dont meet him. You gotta be nuts. Did you speak to your parents about this guy? If not, then that in itself should tell you something. What are you scared of? Dont do it. Find someone your own age and who lives a bit closer to you.
2007-02-23 02:52:23 · answer #2 · answered by Crash 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My first reaction was to say no, for the distance as well at the age. Ask yourself why a 40 yr old needs to interact with an 18 yr old there are plenty of woman his age in the USA. If you did meet and liked him are you going to move the USA would he move the UK. It's not love, he's looking for a good time and probably just online.
2007-02-23 02:51:36 · answer #3 · answered by c_t_5_2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I doubt that it really is love. I'm sure it's more of a fascination, just curiosity, or even just a longing to fill the hole of loneliness in your life. The problems that would arise in a relationship between an 18 yr old and a 40 yr old would cause serious trouble. As soon as the uniqueness of the relationship were to wear off you would recognize that he's old enough to be your dad and that you don't really fit together. The difference in maturity and life experience will cause problems right off.
So no. Find someone your age. or at least close to it.
2007-02-23 02:52:27 · answer #4 · answered by FakeFrowns 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
honey, has got to be the most stupidest things i have everer heard in my entire life of living on this here planet earth that i have ever heard. I was watching a program on that a little while ago, and these people were talking about how they spoke over the internet for this length of time, and on the phone for this length of time blah...blah....blah... they finaly move in with this man and what seemed like was ok, was a like he would abouse rape and batter... so im not saying that this guy could be bad..or good because i dont know....and neither do you, and you are not going to know until you meet him...he is no going to tell you I AM A KILLER....I KILLED AND RAPPED 4 OTHER GIRLS AND I AM A PSYCHO PATH.. then he wouldnt get what he wanted know would he..?
2016-05-24 02:11:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be careful.. I'd steer clear.. the age difference? Can't he find a woman closer in age and you a guy close to your age? He's had a lot of living and life experience. Something you'll eventually get.. You really know only what he's told you on the Internet.. Could be a stalker.... Find some kids close in age you can hang out with.. I'd seriously question any guy that age wanting to hook up with an 18 year old..
2007-02-23 02:51:28 · answer #6 · answered by xjaz1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO NO and NO. Hunny you have never met this person. You do not know what he is like and what he is about. There are weirdos out there. plus he lives in a totally diff country. I am sorry, but i think you are "fond" of him not in love. I am sorry to say this, but i think that there is something very weird about a 40 year old man talking with an 18 year old. Its not normal. I know my mom and dad would slap me silly if they knew at 18 i was talking to a man who was my dads age. Just got to NYC and have fun and please do not met up with this man,.
2007-02-23 02:52:48 · answer #7 · answered by carriec 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What I think it actually is, is infatuation. And just that, nothing more. I don't think you should meet this person. First reason being, people lie on the Internet. Okay not all people but most. You don't know if this person is telling the truth or not. Second reason age difference. I'm not going by he's 22 years older then you, I'm actually going by experience under your belt. You don't have enough experience in your life to deal with this type of situation (this is only my opinion). I strongly recommend not meeting this person. But if you aren't going to take my advice then please, please go with a friend and go somewhere public and busy with people.
2007-02-23 02:54:05 · answer #8 · answered by B.J. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is well aware of the fact that you are 18yrs old, then he has a problem. You need to stop that relationship, now before it even gets started.
What do you define as being in love?
You haven't seen him?
You have only chatted with him for 2 weeks?
Is can't be love yet....
You could really end up risking your life, by trying to met this guy.
I encourage not to met him and too even discontinue conversation with him.
2007-02-23 02:50:55 · answer #9 · answered by Ms Brown Eyez 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well, hes old enough to be your father, but ya know, if you're into that then whatever. But I don't really think that its a good idea to meet him. And I dobut that you are genuinely in love with him. Does he know how you feel? Because if he does and claims to feel that same way, its just not natural. I think it would be dangerous for you to meet him. But if you end up decidnd to meet him be sure to discuss it with your parents, I know that youre an adult, but it would be best to have someone know where you are. It would probably be samrt to take someone along with you to meet him too. Just please be careful. Girls get raped and killed by nasty perverts that they decided to go see when they met online way too much.
2007-02-23 02:52:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hate to sound like a father figure here but you have know idea what love is yet. Reading some words on a chat line is not enough to make you believe you love someone. You are being naive. think about what your doing your young you have so much life to live yet why ruin it with some sugar daddy thats just wants some young booty. Not smart babe think about it its smells rotten.
This is not love this is a crush for some one who is only saying the things you want to hear to get in your panties.
2007-02-23 02:52:10 · answer #11 · answered by The_Schwarz 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋