She has everything i have been looking for in a women after my divorce. Yes i see many women do to im in the military meet a lot of women but she just jumps ahead of them all. wat do i do deny the feelings do to family or go with them n not worry bout the family?
2007-02-23 02:46:11 · 17 answers · asked by jon s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
well, is this first cousin or second cousin or what? well if it's second cousin or more, and you feel like she may feel the same way then take a chance. maybe test the waters and something like "what if we ever got together wouldn't that be funny? see how she reacts and if she looks like yeah that would something, then maybe try to get to know her better like call her and court her, and see if she really is the type of woman you would want to be with. Then after a while you can pitch the idea, or you can make a move, and try to go in for a kiss. You can take it from there. If she is your first cousin, then that may not be such a great idea, because you actually have the exact same blood right? Besides the possibility of your children coming out a little messed up, you will be the dirty family secret and do you really want to feel uncomfortable at family get togethers. But i will say if there IS NO FUTURE involved and you guys make it known that you are both just attracted to each other maybe you can hook up on the down low and it will be exciting for a while until you both get tired of the whole thing? what doyou think?
2007-02-23 02:57:47 · answer #1 · answered by Lovely 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take a look at what about your cousin you love. Is it the way she looks? Her personality? Her attitude? Make a list of the attributes you like about her, and that's what you're looking for in a girl. Look for someone like that.
If you think she is 'the one,' think about a few things. Is she worth all the problems you'll have with your family (everything from disgust and disappointment to perhaps estrangement)? Is she worth all the problems you are likely to have with any children you have with her (especially if she is your first cousin)? Children born of close relatives are more likely to have birth defects, mental or physical disorders, and adjustment problems. Any diseases that your family has history of (diabetes, heart problems, etc.) are doubly likely in children you have with a close relative. Is she worth all the problems you will likely have with people all your life, when they find out you're married to your cousin? People are prejudiced against close relative marriage, as you saw from a few of the replies. There are a lot of problems with marriages between close relatives, but if, after thinking about all the problems you are very likely to have and the hard life you will have because of this, you are still set on being with her, go ahead. Just be prepared to hear a LOT from your superior officers, and I'm not sure...but you may even be discharged from the military (not sure about this), and be prepared to hear a LOT from your family and friends...
2007-02-23 11:03:05 · answer #2 · answered by Jewel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In some places marrying a cousin is acceptable, but generally in North America people do not approve. Do you want to live the rest of your life without your families approval it can be draining over time. You also don't mention if she loves you the same way.
2007-02-23 10:56:50 · answer #3 · answered by c_t_5_2 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Forget what them other people have to say. Love is love. But you should know your going to meet ALOT of negative people who dont agree with you and your cousin in a relationship.
But if you really honestly do love each other..dont let anything stop you.
2007-02-23 11:24:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Umm, i know she may be a spectacular person, but she is family, so keep telling yourself she is off limits ( because she is). In the meantime take a closer look at the other women that are around you, that is the pool your suppose to be looking in. You never know one of them may surprise you. Good Luck.
2007-02-23 10:50:54 · answer #5 · answered by fireangel 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is wrong. I hate to say it but it is. You should deny those feelings. It will cause too many problems and I think you will regret it and be embarrassed in the end. You will find someone you love be patient.
2007-02-23 10:50:06 · answer #6 · answered by Miriah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
FIRST OF ALL EWWW U MADE ME PUKE u CAN"T!!! DO THIS TO U OR TO HER u will have big problems inside the familly go take a vaccation and find a really sexy girl and have a relationship with her or get laid to forget this silliness
2007-02-23 11:27:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's a good idea to be in love with your cousin . if you stop looking for love it should come to you . and not inside the family .
2007-02-23 10:56:30 · answer #8 · answered by KOOLAID 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Awww, sweetie. That's just something you don't do, she is family. You need to let go of these feelings and find someone outside your family to have a relationship with. Good luck to you hun. :)
2007-02-23 10:49:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
well what does your cousin feel? if she feels the same go for it. if she doesnt u should just leave it. if ou dont know what she feels only you know the realtionship you have with each other so i couldnt say. lol
2007-02-23 12:56:25 · answer #10 · answered by megakimmy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋