My boyfriend of 2 1/2 yrs. has a 5 yr. old son which I do know about but he recently told me that he has a two yr. old daughter (she'll be two next month). He stated that he had known she was his biological child for one year since paternity tests were taken. However I feel very hurt and deceived by him hiding this information from me. Not to mention throughout our relationship I have not even gone over to his residence (he lives with his parents) and always swore that I would but we have only "driven" by his house and later found out that the house he showed me was not his but his aunts he was afraid to show me his real house in fear that I just might "pop up". But after 2 1/2 I reserve the right to see my b/f anytime I choose to. The reality of the matter is he's was so secretive in our relationship b/c he was trying to hide his daughter from me, that explains why I've only seen his son no more than 5 times since we've been together. Is it time to move?
2007-02-23 02:36:59 · 5 answers · asked by Brwneydgrl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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If you love him, tell him to come out with EVERY skeleton that he has.
This way it gives YOU the opportunity to make the decision if you choose to continue with the relationship.
Continuously being blind-sided with life changing events will only create a divide that's already there. He's been dishonest and I can't honestly blame you, if you chose to move forward.
Just by concealing where he lived, the child - that's too much for some people.
But, we're grown and you have the responsibility that you only owe to yourself and your happiness.
Secretive is also another word for deceptive.
Misdirection has been his game.
One love....and good luck!
2007-02-23 02:46:30 · answer #1 · answered by HottNikkels 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would wait to dump him. If the only reason he lied about all those things is because he didn't want you to know about his daughter for fear of you leaving, then if you can forgive him for that, things should be pretty smooth. But, if there is more going on than just his daughter that he never told you about, then maybe you should consider leaving him. But more importantly, did you ever wonder why, you guys were together for 2 1/2 half years, but his daughter is just about to turn 2? So that would mean that he had her while you guys were together right? You might wanna ask him about that...
2007-02-23 02:52:23 · answer #2 · answered by GoGetta510 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in a similar situation as you, But my man lives in a different city. And He's been after me for 5 years and I decided gave him a chance. He has two kids, i knew about the first and he claims he told me about the second, but i dont remember..Anyways... Because i care about him A LOT, its hard to break away from that. You may have to look to a higher power for guidance. That's what I'm doing because i cant seem to make up my mind whether or not to leave or stay. You have to look deep down inside yourself and ask, Am i doing whats best for me? Until you have a for sure answer, maybe you need some time to yourself to think. YOU have to be happy before you try and make somebody else happy. Sounds selfish, but why hurt yourself and take yourself thru years worth of pain? Think about your future. And then you may come up with a conclusion.....Good Luck.
2007-02-23 02:48:59 · answer #3 · answered by Mizz Cutie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i'm a christian, and if he is the father of your child you should stay with him work things out and get married, but if he don't seem much intrested maybe u should move on with your life and find someone who is more open and less secretive.a relationship is about trust and committment you need to have that,.. if you love him that much you must reassure him of your love and to trust you no matter the circumstance.
2007-02-23 02:48:21 · answer #4 · answered by ann 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah in a way...but forgive him it will be worth it=)
2007-02-23 02:40:54 · answer #5 · answered by kimberlyann_2008 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋