how long will it take my fiance to get over me losing my engagement ring?

Question

It's been a couple days now since I lost it, I am very devastated about it, so is he. The thing about it is that it wasn't just a ring that he went out and bought, it was his grandmothers ring, she gave it to his mom, and his mom gave it to him. Right now he isnt talking to me, I havent heard from him since the night that I told him. Any Advice? How long do you think it will take him to get over it?

P.S. serious replies only.

Answer 1

honey...i would take out a full page ad in the new york times if that's what it took to find your ring!!!

get a search team together and retrace your every step!
check pawn shops and with the police.
i would even call a few local radio or tv stations and try to get their help...a lot of them will eat this sort of story up.

bottom line...don't give up!
he loves you, so he'll recover, but not if you don't show how much that ring meant to you.

good luck!

Answer 2

Considering that it was a ring that had real sentimental meaning it going to take him a while. The only thing you can do is apologize and tell him that you are really sorry and explain that you have looked for the ring and you just can’t find it. The other thing it could be worth considering is having a replica of the ring made, if you can remember what it looked like. I only say this because it is what my mother in law did when the ring that her father gave her was stolen. I know that it’s not the same as having the ring, but it’s something worth considering and hopefully if you suggest this your fiancé will think that it’s a good idea as well.

The only problem is he is probably considering what his mum and grandmother will think when he tells them that the ring is lost, but once he gets over the shock he will understand that you didn't mean to lose it.

Hopefully it will turn up, good luck

Answer 3

First if you lost it in the house, find it. Tear that house apart until you do. If you have a dog or cat, check through its poop to make sure it wasnt eaten. Check in between the couch crevises, check the vaccuum cleaner bag, leave no stone unturned. Move the refrigerator, check the trap in the dishwasher ect.

If you lost it outside CALL THE POLICE. I know its hard to believe but people will be good and turn it in if they find it. Not many people would keep it, especially a diamond ring, its not just 10 bucks you find laying around, its jewelry. If that doesnt pan out put up signs like Bubbles said, post a reward and everything. If you are proactive about getting it back you have a better chance of finding it.

Good luck.

Answer 4

I understand why he is upset and I know you are upset. but a person can not just "get over it" like that.

You have to allow him his own time, as there is no set time. It could take weeks, months and even years. That meant something to him and greatly to his family and now it is gone.

Your concern should not be how long for him to "get over it". You should be focused on finding it.

To show how you care, you need to keep doing what you can to find it. Trace from where you knew you had it on your finger to the point you realized it was not there. Then, search inbetween. Get fliers out, go to companies/business's with fliers that you went to. Put ad in the paper for reward, search the whole house and car.

I just lost an earing yesterday and I freaked. It is my sapphires my fiance got me for my birthday while he was in Iraq. Very expensive. I had 10 mins to get to work but I didn't care, I was searching til I found them. Back tracked where I went. Something told me to check the passenger side and there it was, near the crack where the door opens!

So, look look and look.

If you can not find it and constantly putting word out over the next few months, I would just hope it turns up one day and that you will get another ring, eventually when the time is right.

Answer 5

Wow, that's so sad and unfortunate. I understand it being a family heirloom but it was a mistake (right?) it's not like you got mad and threw it (right?). Just talk to him (and his mother) tell them how much you regret having lost it, but other than that, you can't do anything but give it time. He'll come around and if he doesn't, and you break up over a lost ring (heirloom or not) then he wasn't the one for you. Thank your stars you found out now because imagine what would happen over a "real" tragedy. Good luck and sorry for your troubles.

Answer 6

He'll eventually start talking to you, but just give him time. Even if it's only a ring, it's really more then that. It was his grandmothers first, so it's obviously sentimental. He trusted you with that, and maybe feels that you disrespected him because you didn't guard it as closely as you should. In addition, he gave it to you as a sign of your commitment and impending marriage. He probably feels that you lack respect for it, again, because you were so careless with the ring.

When he gets over it, I would address that subject. Tell him your sorry. Most likely, you lost it completely by accident. I have lost expensive jewelry in my day and it's the worse feeling. Maybe it'll turn up!!

Answer 7

My best advice to you is to get a search team together, backtrack your every step, and find that ring!

Since it's not just a ring out of a blue box, but his grandmother's, he was hoping you would treasure it and protect it like it was special to you like it is to him. Now that you've lost something so priceless, he's gonna be upset - literally - until it's found.

I'm sorry, but you should really think hard about where it could be. And SEARCH your ♥ out for that ring. Even if you don't find it, having him know that you are hurt over it and trying to recover it may make him think you really cared as much as he does.

My sister-in-law did a similar thing. And she acted nonchalant about the whole thing. That's what made him so mad and upset over it. So don't act like you don't care. Kick and scream and whale and cry until it's found.

Hope this helped, and really wish you find that ring! ♥

Answer 8

Your first mistake is referring to his feelings as something to "just get over". Girl, you lost a family heirloom! Not something he picked up at Wal Mart. It's been 2 days and you want to know how long before he "gets over" losing his family's heirloom?!

No offense, sweety, but you don't deserve his forgiveness or his family's forgiveness with an attitude like that.

This also doesn't bode well for a future with the in-laws. You will NEVER hear the end of this. You know that, right?

For me, personally, it is a material possession. It cannot replace your heart or the love you two may have for each other. So, from my own personal perspective, if he can't forgive you and if his family can't move on for him, at least, than you need to move on.

People put too much stock in material things sometimes. I do understand, though, and you should, too, that something like a ring passed on from generation to generation could have a significant heartfelt meaning. The sooner YOU "get over it", the easier it will be for him to see you really don't care about him or understand what you did.

You may never see this ring again, and that's a tragedy. The bigger tragedy is if he leaves you for a piece of metal and if his family can't forgive you and just be happy he found someone who loves him.

You have to understand where he is coming from and just give him time. If, however, he can't get over it, he doesn't love you. I'd say if he can't cool down about it after about a week (cool down, not forget), then he has some issues he needs to look at within himself.

I don't know how close he and his family are, though the passing of the ring suggests quite a bit. You may be in for a marriage full of dirty looks, nasty words, and spiteful behaviour by the in-laws. If he doesn't stand up for you, he doesn't deserve you.

You made a mistake. Understand what you did, how it hurts him and his family. Then, if he can't come around in the next week or so, and if he can't stand by your side through his family's anger, you need to leave him. This is a direct reflection of how your marriage will be. He is marrying you, not his family. His duty is to you, not his family.

Answer 9

Where did you lost it at?? I would still keep looking for it and do some deep cleaning. I lost a diamond earring luckily in my house and found it after I swept the whole house and search through the dust.

Also if you lost it outside or in an public area- make some signs and post a reward!!

I think if he knows how hard you are looking for it- it'll make a difference.

Answer 10

I feel for both of you. Try your best to find it. Maybe even run a lost and found ad in the local paper. I'm sure if your sincerely sorry it got lost, he'll feel your sincerity and forgive you. He's probably dealing with alot of issues with it. He's got to explain to his family etc. If your close with his mom, tell her what happened. She may be able to help. Good luck, it may still show up!