I am 44 years old and i started out late haveing a child I have a boy 4years old and I think all the time that something going to happen to him and get so worry will this every get easer let me know thanks
2007-02-23 02:25:39 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
No.
Im also 44, but started much younger, I have 3 lovely daughters, 22, 19, & 12.
Even when they leave home, you then miss them and worry about them, You just have to learn to live with it, and be proud of them, that way you can feel 'happier' with your worrying.
All the best.
2007-02-23 02:30:23 · answer #1 · answered by Sobchak 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have the right to worry about a 4 year old but don't go over board! If you live in a nice neighborhood, let him ride his bike around when he's older. As long as you're in a safe spot there's not a reason to worry. But right now he is little, so when he goes outside watch him, but let him have fun too, you don't want to spoil your child's life right from the start! Also, think about how you would feel about it if you were a kid, it's really up to the parent to decide. And if you still just can't stop worrying, it's alright, once he grows older and smarter and knows how to watch out for himself and do the right thing you won't feel like something is going to happen every second.
2007-02-23 02:31:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am Mom to 4 children. They are 27, 25, 22, and 9 years old. No, you never stop worrying about your children. As you mature in your life as a parent, you slowly learn how not to "sweat the small stuff". But, things do happen, that is just a part of life. Kids get sick, scrape their knees, bump their heads, get stitches, break bones, have their feelings hurt (sometimes harder to heal than a broken bone), get in car accidents, date the wrong person for them, don't make it home by curfew, and make bad choices. Somehow you and they make it through each situation even though it sometimes seems impossible at the time. You take each situation one at a time, work through it as best you can, and hope everyone learns something from it. You can't let the "what ifs" paralyze you or your son. It's impossible not to worry, it comes with the territory, but try to think pro-actively in situations that worry you. Are you afraid he'll get hurt riding his bike? Make sure he knows to wear a helmet every time he gets on his bike. Are you scared he'll get sick? Help him learn to wash his hands after using the bathroom, before eating, and whenever coming in contact with another child who is sick. Don't obsess, just make it routine. If you are worrited about serious (but, rare) things, such as stranger abduction or getting a life-threatening illness, those are things you can't predict or plan ahead for very well. It is a normal part of being a parent to worry about things like that and it will subside as your child grows, but you will always have something to worry about.
2007-02-23 02:53:16 · answer #3 · answered by sevenofus 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You always worry a little bit, but hopefully as a parent you will raise your child to know the difference between right and wrong At a certain point in their life you need to just let go and hope they make the best choice....you still worry but at least you know you raised them right.
2007-02-23 06:25:25 · answer #4 · answered by deerogre 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you can look at it like this...you'll stop worrying about your child and start worrying about your preteen...then you worry about your teenager...then your young adult...then....it goes on and on. I don't know if it gets easier or if you just start to realize that if you've given them a good foundation they will turn out o.k.
Parenting is the hardest job out there...and once they start going to school and you can't control their entire environment it gets scary...but you get through it (I got my kids involved in lots of activities like soccer and basketball etc. and now they have no time to get into trouble and I know that the kids they are hanging out with all have parents who are willing to put in the time to have them involved)
Take a deep breath...enjoy whatever stage your child is in and look forward to the next "adventure"
2007-02-23 02:33:30 · answer #5 · answered by cookie 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, I am not a parent, but I have to little sisters that are 2 and one not even 1 yet. I take care of them so much that I feel like they are my kids. The worrying hasn't gone away yet, and I don't think it ever will.
2007-02-23 02:29:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My oldest is 18, my youngest is 2 1/2. The worries change, but you will always worry about your child.
2007-02-23 02:28:37 · answer #7 · answered by Renee B 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is not healthy for you or the child for you to worry about him all the time because then you become overprotective. Before you know it, he's a teenager and you're still treating him like a toddler. You need to encourage independence. The more you encourage independence the less worrying you will do.
2007-02-23 04:01:04 · answer #8 · answered by polarbear 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No....it never gets easier....if anything, it gets worse. I'll be 50 next month. My kids will be 26 and 28 (my son is in the military and has been to Iraq, Afghanistan, etc...!), and we just took in a newborn to raise for a little gal in prison, but there IS good news. You will learn to trust you instincts and use your "worry" in productive ways that will protect and guide your child for the rest of his life.... and, trust me, you AND your child WILL be ok....
2007-02-23 02:36:23 · answer #9 · answered by Krtyr 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry it creates stress, but just be concerned. If you have to worry all the time about your son then you need to change something in his life or yours perhaps. Create a safe living environment without constricting his growth. Where you live plays a major role and with whom you associate with.
2007-02-23 02:34:08 · answer #10 · answered by fargone14 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋