My gf has a really stressful job, she comes home with headaches, and is usually really stressed out. She goes to work at seven and gets home at eight. I know she has a long work day so when I get home I cook dinner and put on some soft music. When we go to bed she usually just wants to sleep. we haven't done anything for three months and I need it soon!! I do everything I can, such as back, and foot messages. I don't know what else to do, but I want her, and I would never cheat on her. Does any one have any advice?
2007-02-23 02:24:41 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Everyone offering romance advice needs to stop. This isn't about romance. If he set up all the romantic crap I guarantee she will see it, consider it, enjoy it, but still no sex.
You need to tell her how you feel, and immediately. If she gets mad at you, or tells you to take care of it yourself, tell her that you've tried and tried to patient but you can't wait anymore. To have to rely on masturbation to cope is evil and denegrating. i know what is going through your mind, that if you force her to do something neither of you will enjoy it. I agree, that is true. you have to get her to want it, and if cooking her dinner and massages don't work, the only thing left is talking.
2007-02-23 02:39:07 · answer #1 · answered by Mike 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude you have two options here:
One, talk to your girlfriend about it. You have to be as nice as possible and make sure she knows that you appreciate that she works alot, but if she can't find time for you then you will have to leave. It depends on how important she is to you at that time. She might be more worried about her job right now. If she is then you guys should separate or break up. A relationship between two people can only take place if each of them has or will find time for the other. It's as simple as that. Unless you guys are sweethearts from high school, and plan on marriage then I would just leave it (that is if she cannot find any time for you) However, if she is receptive of your concerns then give her time and see if she does find a way to make that time for you.
Two, cheat on her with any of the following: hookers, ex-girlfriends, dirty bar women, or just try to handle 2 girlfriends (like a day girlfriend you get your jollies off with, and keep the other as your night girlfriend that you sleep with)
2007-02-23 02:34:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its great that you consider her feelings and provide her with what she needs do to her stress and all. Now, it isn't fair to you. If she sees that this job is giving you two less time to be together, something is obviously going wrong. She needs to consider your feelings as well or at least give it some sort of thought. Talk about it ... let her know your needs as well. Remember, its all about the communication, without it, there is no relationship.
2007-02-23 02:46:22 · answer #3 · answered by chepi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing that sort of works for me lately is telling her I want to find another partner, it sometimes gets me a handjob.
Thats all I get lately.
I need more. Even though I would die for my wife, I need some real sex. Often ! She says its all my problem, if it is maybe it will be my solution to it too. I'm looking and realize I might lose a 20 year relationship. I'm ready to risk it too.
2007-02-23 02:30:17 · answer #4 · answered by goodmorningeveryone2007 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just go up to her, give her a hug and start to slowly rub her back. Offer a back rub, and slowly start to kiss her neck. If she is anything like most girls.... The neck kissing is an instant mood reliever. Sometimes turning a girl on is very easy no matter what kind of stress they are under. You just have to be attentitive. Good luck
2007-02-23 02:30:00 · answer #5 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be patient, give her time. Keep doing those nice things you're doing. Also, talk to her, ask her why she's so stressed, and really listen! Don't even make any suggestions, just let her know you're really listening. Don't be impatient or short with her and let her get it all out. Once she's not so stressed out, she'll see your need and reciprocate.
2007-02-23 02:33:36 · answer #6 · answered by kevness 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
greet her in a candle lit bath tub with some champagne chilling in an ice bucket. maybe during the day you can email or text her and tell her you have a suprise for her when she gets home and you miss her. that way she will be more likely to play along with you if you give her the heads up... good luck!!
2007-02-23 02:31:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to take her out on the weekend for a little time to relax, drive to another city, have dinner and spend the whole time doing some sightseeing, take some photos, just get her away from her daily routine.get a nice hotel room.. relaxx!!
2007-02-23 02:30:22 · answer #8 · answered by wongfiehung2003 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why are you even in a relationship if you cant communicate something as simple as your need for sex, and how do you let it get to the point of 3 months!??! you just sound like a weenie, maybe if you try being assertive like a real man instead of playing housewife she would be intersted...
2007-02-23 02:29:21 · answer #9 · answered by Tacyella 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
send flowers to the office, plan a vacation, wine and dine her outside the home, bubble baths, massages, its the same with me and my bf. i work 12-14 hours days and im beat, when he shows affection to the nines it really helps and gets me in the mood.. try it----btw nibbling on the neck helps too. hehe
2007-02-23 02:29:14 · answer #10 · answered by divinemadness 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋