My female cat hates my lovely male cat will this ever stop??

Question

I have 2 cats,coco(female),casper(male), about same age 1hlf yrs, coco ive had since she was a kitten and brought casper in as a stray 3/4 months ago had them both done at the vets so no kittens and spraying. Coco just hates casper she is really mean and screams if he comes one bit close to her shes gone really nasty and growls all the time and runs away when she hears him he meows at her being nice, but he is the friendlier cat out of the two she is a bit more wild and is only nice when she wants to be. The growling hissing has been going on ever since we brought him into the house ive tried everything, putting them in the same room and spraying her with water when shes bad doesnt work ive tried tapping her on her nose at other times and she gets worse and even when shes outside she growls and runs off she sits upstairs all day now and doesnt come down unless shes feeling brave i have give up now and ran out of ideas what to do does any1 have any different suggestions?ty 4 the help

just to add coco did like other cats she used to play with other cats and get along fine and has had a litter before being spayed the litter wasnt to casper as soon as i brought casper into the house i had them both done so i dont no if it is just him and she feels threatened he is a much bigger cat and has full long hair shes a bit smaller than him and is a semi long haired cat she is such a cow i just want them to get along but looks like it will never happen

casper does chase her sometimes if she does run but they never attack each other it comes to a stand still and coco just ends up running away and casper looks really worried and walks away slowly but he tries to be nice to her by meowing but she has none of it but sometimes he can provoke her he normally stays downstairs with his food and she is upstairs with her food and bed

Answer 1

When bringing a new cat into your home it's best to introduce the two cats very slowly.
Keep the new cat in a room by itself with food, water, litter box, bed and toys.
Let the new cat out to interact with the other cat for longer periods of time everyday.
First day, 1 hour second day 2 hours and so on.
Get two towels, rub one on Coco and the other one Casper then give them each others towels...that way they'll get used to the scent of each other.

Also a trick my Vet taught me...and it works...is to put a drop of vanilla between each cats shoulder blades and at the base of each cats tail...that way they smell alike.

We have four cats right now and that's the way we've always done things and it's always worked for us.

They may never be best friends, but if introduced slowly they should at least get along and not attack each other on sight.

Good luck

Answer 2

I also have two cats Snowie (female) and Casper (male who I recently took in). Both are fixed, but Snowie hates Casper. Luckily Casper is quite shy and tends to stay away from Snowie for the most part, but sometimes it's unavoidable like at feeding time. I started to introduce something positive when they are both in the same room together - like sharing a slice of chicken or ham between them by giving them small pieces each until the whole slice is gone, or to play a game with one when the other is watching and then swap. They still aren't the best of friends, but Snowie now seems to realise that it's not all bad when Casper is around and is tolerating him a bit better. Hopefully this might help you, good luck!

Answer 3

well coco will just have to get used to Casper being aroundthey should settle down when they realise things are not going to change just make sure they are given the same amount of attention and all that but when coco runs off upstairs dont go after her you have to let her know that if she wants attention she is to come to you. Otherwise she will think she rules you. By the way does casper retaliate? or does he ignore coco? because if he ignores her coco will probably stop hurting him.

Answer 4

I have the same problem with my female cat Nahlaa(nala) and my male cat Benji(ben G) and we have been slowly introducing them but they still ha each other. my dad says they just need quality time so he made them sit next to each other, and even though Nahlaa is about a year old and we don't know how old Benji is, Nahlaa is the more vicious of the two; she attacked Benji's face and scratched both my parents so they let them go. Both cats love me so I used two methods and its starting to work: put one cat next to you on one side and put the other cat on the other side, have their favorite foods sitting on your lap and gently speak calming words to them while stroking both their fur, they WILL pull away at first so have a hold of their collars- its a little bit like holding them against their will so you should only do this once, DON'T do it for more than TEN minutes. the other thing is: after you do the first thing, wait a few days and then stick them in a room with doors. sit outside the room with the door open just a little so you can watch, if ANY hissing is done, firmly say "No Coco" or "No Casper" and if you're lucky they should stop hissing, if not open the door after a few minutes. if they do stop hissing reward them, I couldn't find our cat treats so I moved one of their food bowls and a water bowl in there and they almost ate at the same time. the rewards you give them should be encouraging, every time Nahlaa willingly goes near Benji I reward her, I also try and reward Benji to so they associate good with being near each other. I hope this helps you, good luck. ;)

Answer 5

We have two cats and a White German Shepherd ourselves. Our direct neighbors have a Parrot called Miami that is so loud, you can hear him all the way in our yard. But they also have two great little dogs. One Shih-Tzu and his son, a Shihtwawa ( daddy raped a chihuahua ;) - cutest little stinky dog you'll ever see. Little guy looks like a stuffed animal. Believe it or not - the Shih-Tzuh and our White Shepherd are best friends. They wait by our gate for us to let them play and then chase each other around the yards. Our gardens border the woods and since our doggie smells the forest animals (that often come to visit), she spends a lot of time patrolling the boundaries and barking at stuff only she can see. We make her stop when we can, but luckily our neighbors like her as much as we do and don't mind the barking too much.... When you go to their house, you think you hear my dog bark..... but it's actually Miami, the parrot, imitating her bark - complete with the muffled effect the sound gets inside the house. We had a couple of feral cats on our properties that would even come to the house and look for food. But since they're not too fond of our dog, we don't see them around much anymore. We have an animal hospital on the other side of the street, so we see a lot of different animals come through every day.

Answer 6

I was in the same situation as yourself a few years back I had a female cat for about 6 years before I took in a stray male cat, they did not get on at all, the female wouldn't even stay in the same room as the male but in time she got used to him, and I remember the first time I walked into my bedroom and saw them sleeping on my bed together it was a wonderful sight, unfortunately not long after that he got ill and we had to have him put down, but it can work out if you just give them time and be patient, the female is used to all your love and attention and now there is competition lol, she will come round, and hopefully they will become good friends. good luck hope it works out for you. I wouldn't spray her with water mind or smack her, just let her come round in her own time.

Answer 7

What a difficult problem to solve. I would try feliway, it seems to work well. Also get a copy of Pam Johnson Bennett's book Twisted Whiskers, or Cat vs Cat its good reading and may provide some help. A reintroduction may be necessary.



Cats apparently reach social, maturity at between four to five years, so this may be part of the problem.

Try feliway diffusers, these plug into the wall like an air freshener. I am posting a link to explain how they work and where you can get them.

http://www.feliway.uk.com/feliway_uk.nsf/Page?OpenForm

Also please do try the book Twisted Whiskers.

Answer 8

Cats can be just like people they either like each other or they don't my mother has a Persian female that basically hates every cat she has ever met however the very smelly stray ginger tom that visits my mothers garden is allowed to come and got as he pleases ,she just sits there almost admiring him,she will even let him walk past her into the conservatory and eat her food,must be love!:0)

Answer 9

Cats are naturally solitary animals so it is to be expected that they sometimes don't get along with others.
Punishing the female will only make her hate the male even more, as she will associate being near him with something bad happening, like being sprayed with water and/or a tap on the nose.
The only suggestions i have to help the situation is to make sure they can have totally seperae lives in your house if they like, so have more than one litter tray, and feeding station around the house.
Pet and be nice to her every time she does go near him, especially if she ignors him. This is better than her being evil. Then hopefully eventually she will grow to like him a little bit.
Hope all goes well.

Answer 10

It can take a very long time for a cat to come around and accept another. I had a problem with a male femal combo a while back. It took them close you a year to get along, and there were still scuffles.

Give them time and let them work it out.