My son is a very quiet kid and well behave for his age and has some friends in his pre-school. Lately he started using bathroom words and last nite he mentioned that he wanted to touch my penis, and i asked why- he said these 2 kids who are 5 & 4.5 yrs old - hold him tight and touched his penis in the bathroom; i told him to tell the teacher; but he said they make fun of him when he tells on them.
So i called one of the kids mother on phone- and then when i spoke to him again- he denied the whole incidence.
Do u think he is making up story or is he scared and now denying it further. I am very nervous on how to handle this situation.
My husband spoke to the school and they said they would look into it. I am scared that, the school should not cast him out as tattle tale and not believe in him. Am i being paranoid here. The other parent swears by her son - that her son is a saint.
What should i do? how should i raise a good child who can stand up for himself. PLEASE HELP!
2007-02-23 02:18:18 · 6 answers · asked by curious mom 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
You have to remember that at that age, curiosity is the main objective and not sexual assault.
Kids have been playing doctor and looking at each others private parts for ages and just now people are starting to be overly alarmed by natural childhood behavior.
I don't think you did the wrong thing by telling the teacher, but to ease your own mind, be assured that it's not going to damage or hurt your son to have taken part in this....I would be more upset about another child confining him against his will...
2007-02-23 03:06:56 · answer #1 · answered by Chick-A- Deedle 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think your son would make this up on his own. These other kids have some kind of problems at home, why would a 4 or 5 year old hold another kid down and grab his penis?? Somebody has taught these kids that (sexual abuse) If it happens again, I would go right into the school and get to the bottom of it. Somebody else said it was wrong to tell the school, and it was normal to be curious but does that mean your son should be used as a guinea pig for some disturbed kids??
2007-02-23 03:39:47 · answer #2 · answered by Stuck in the middle of nowhere 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The child that is feeling of your child must have been sexually assaulted by an adult or older child.If they haven't been touched then how would they know to feel of your son. And the one that is fondling your child must use bathroom words. Naturally the parents are going to believe their child. And if the parents are guilty they will deny their child is guilty to hide their wrong. Take it to the head of the school. Let them know if they didn't do anything about it that you are taking action , like going to the police, get a lawyer and tell the media. You may get some action. I am sorry that this happened to your son and that I don't have any more advice.
2007-02-23 03:38:45 · answer #3 · answered by born again 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No parent would want to believe thier child did that so thats why she is acting that way. Of course you should beleive your childs story and it must be stopped. Go to the school and talk with them if no response then move your son to a different school. Some counseling may help him understand so it doesnt scar him mentally. The law is useless as these children are so young you have to beleive the other children were abused at some point so Protective Services should be called but if your child denies it then it will not do much.
2007-02-23 03:56:31 · answer #4 · answered by elaeblue 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your son has been assaulted! It is your responsibility to protect your son. At his age, it is unlikely that he made up the story.
Since you have talked to people at the school and a parent, and nothing has been done, I would DEMAND the school hold these children accountable. I would not be afraid to use the words "assault" and "pressing charges". The children who held down your son are having some serious issues. This is not normal, curious, behavior. Children who display this type of behavior are often victims of sexual abuse. Get to the bottom of it. Your son is counting on you or he wouldn't have told you. Good luck.
2007-02-23 03:11:53 · answer #5 · answered by katydid 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
maybe your son is trying to figure out his sexuality, because at that age i think is when kids first start hearing about sex whether its from the media or school, in your case probably from school. he might be testing you but he might also just be flat out lying i remember when i was in pre school and my mom would ask about my day at school i never had anything exciting so i just made something up, and if i didnt make something up she would think something was up because i wasnt talking. i dont know. it is a possibility that your son likes other boys too. ive talked to my best friend who is a gay male about when he first realised he was gay and he said he always kindof knew but when he was very young about two or three he was in a store with his mom and he would always be in the "girls isle" and he overheard his mom saying to his dad that it was wierd he likes playing with dolls so much over action figures.so maybe your son is just finding this out and slipped. and he will probably hide it from you too so if he denys it i think you dont have an issue but if he brings it up again, then you might want to continue looking into it and talking to him to see what happened. goodluck
2007-02-23 03:37:29 · answer #6 · answered by EVIE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋