Teens, can u answer a question for me please?

Question

I'm not a teen, but I'm curious to know if you feel that you aren't really taken seriously on here. I noticed that a lot of people are hard on you about the things you ask. Does it bother you when people put you down? To me, it seems like people have forgotten what it's like to be a teenager!! And for all the teen mom's, or pregnant teen and teens that fear pregnancy, how do you feel about people's opinions toward you? How does it feel when people blame your parents or basically say you are "stupid" and uneducated? I don't think you are, I just think you may have taken a few wrong turns in life, but if u are strong, you'll be fine! I just think that there is a huge lack of understanding about how hard it is to be a teen in today's society. I would like to know how you teens feel about it. What are your opinions?

Wow, I see a few of you are very hurt about responses you get. I really can't say I don't blame you. I like to treat you as equals, because YOU ARE PEOPLE TOO....And just like anyone else you have problems...I just feel bad for you all because people aren't taking u seriously. I notice it when I try to stick up for you all! People love to attack me on it!! But I remember all too well what it is like to be a teen!!

You guys have alot of good answers on here. It is SO hard to pick the best one.
Honestly, this is what I had expected from all of you. You are right, nobody knows what it's like to be a teen today. There are all the drugs, sex, alcohol & peer pressure. Your lives are so full uncertainty. I just wish all the other "adults" on here could see things the way that I do. It really bothers me about how they are, because I remember what it's like to be your age. And how difficult it was. Not to mention I was also a teen mother, so I really feel for you all who went through that. I know how it is for "adults" to put you down and think u can't succeed. But I proved them wrong, & I know more of you have since my time. I guess I just posted this question to give you all the opportunity to speak out about how you feel. Thank you all for answering!!!

Answer 1

I love you. Will you marry me?

But to answer your question, yes it bothers me. It seems like they hold us to these impossible double standards. We've only existed for about 15 years, why is everyone so hard on us? Yeah, I'm a teenager. I'm turning 15 soon. Can't they give me the basic respect of assuming I have some degree of self-control? Why do they assume that every time I'm alone with a boy, we're having sex? Why do they assume I want to?

Also, even though it's not for me, I support the teenagers that want to be parents. Biologically, we're supposed to be having kids now. That's why the hormones are so insane. We're healthier than we'll ever be, we can rebound faster, we're really supposed to be doing this. So if a 16 year old wants to have a kid, why do they assume it was rape or the kid will be messed up?

I think it's tougher to be a teenagers today than when my parents were teenagers. I'm not denying that they had problems, but it's not like it's easy for me. For one thing, if nothing else, drugs are a lot stronger today and it's more dangerous. Both my parents smoked pot in college; now marijuana is something like five times stronger. Drugs are easier to get at, it's easier to get stalked, and now everyone says that you have to go to college for eight years to do anything with yourself. Nobody can just leave us alone nowadays. We have school that keeps us occupied from waking up at 6:30 to finishing homework at 8:00, then all sorts of clubs and sports and music lessons. When do we get to be alone and think about stuff? Can't a teenaged girl and boy just be friends? Why do they assume we all just want to have sex.

I think the problem probably comes from the fact that for some reason, a lot of people in their 20s are acting like teenagers are supposed to and we have to make up for them.

Sorry about the rant.

Answer 2

Okay, I'm not a teenager any more but I felt like I have to answer this. I completely agree with you. Everytime I ask a question regarding teen pregnancies, I get slammed. I've had a few people reply that I was the one who didn't know what I was talking about. It seems pretty funny to me,. I think I would know my medical history about my pregnancies a little better than some people on the internet...lol. Most of the time, I don't even ask the questions about me. I ask about teen parents in general. Sometimes I wonder if these women picking on pregnant teens are just jealous. Some women are unable to have children yet see a teenager on here asking pregnancy question and get jealous. I think people can be pretty sad on this forum. I wonder how they would feel if someone talked to their child the way these people talk to teenagers. It's pretty disgusting.

Answer 3

It all boils down to baisness. In the past, our parents were strictly taught about their position in society. However, now, it's pretty obvious that society's law have been changed.However, probably due to this sudden change, I'm pretty sure most parents will be annoyed and find it hard to change to this new set of rules. I come from a very strict tradition family. As a result, I don't get most of the privileges I see most people have.

I feel that nothing much can really work besides talking to them. We have to be able to convince them that this is a new world. I hope that, when we grow up and have our own kids, we will be able to understand for our kids.

Answer 4

People take me seriously, and i personally think that if you want to be taken seriously... maybe you shouldn't mention your a teen.
Teenagers can be quite ignorant, bias...ect.. and even though not every teen is like that, alot of them are. Plus, its not like people have forgotten how it was to be a teen, because they remember. The thing that has changed is their frame of mind.

Oh, and alot of teens DO ask some stupid questions... no offence, but i usually research my question before asking people, that way i wont seem like a complete idiot or uneducated.

Answer 5

Well i think that people just dont take us seriously because we're so young, so when we do get around to asking a question, they just blow it off because we're still "immature". What's crazy about it is that adults choose not to answer a question and then when something like pregnancy comes along they get all hot and bothered when really, all they had to do was pay attention to us in the first place. (not a teen mom by the way, i just know many)

Answer 6

I actually tend to get better responses, but i think that's mostly because I rarely ask a question that involves my age. The one time I did though, it was weird, I know the laws for legal age sex are different in England (16) and America (18) so maybe that had something to do with it. But so many people treated me like a stupid little girl who was going to get herself in serious trouble, and they had to be all patronizing. I'm just like yeah, I pretty much earn all my own money, I'm in higher education, I'm doing well in school and I feel mature enough to make a decision I'm legally entitled to do, so why are you all treating me like a child, that was weird, I didn't like it us you know, like I said, that was the only ever time so I'm over it now. hanks for caring bout us xx

Answer 7

Yes, it does hurt sometimes cause the adults act like we are stupid if we dont know everything they do and critizce every little thing we do, I dont think the remeber being a teen. But sometimes if feels good to get a better answer over the person that say you were stupid

Answer 8

people are dissappointments so it doesnt really matter what they say, if anyone gets hurts by the opinions of what people say then they really shouldnt even be asking a question if you cant handle the truth.
I'm only sixteen and seirously I know how the world work.
you gets plenty of dissappointments in life, and I've had quite a few already, and I know its never going to stop. so people need to stop acting childish if they are actually hurt. I'm really not like b*tchy at all if it sounds liek I am. that just honestly how I think and feel.

Answer 9

I guess it's not all the parent's fault ,sometimes yes ,but teen age is the time that we try everything without known that one time it will build our maturity character ,so I guess sometimes the "overprotective" behaviour that given by our parents in our teenage life is right

Answer 10

i'm a pregnant teen but it doesnt seem to bother me with what others have to say that is negative about me. i mean ya its not a good thing to be pregnant at 15 but everyone makes mistakes and i will be sure to take care and love my child with or without the support of others.