How many people do u know that have endured off-and-on relationships (meaning that they're happily married or still together)?
2007-02-23 02:07:00 · 17 answers · asked by teeteewoods69 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
In my own experience and also seeing people I know go through it, most of the time when there is an off and on relationship it does not last in the long run. Obviously there are problems that are unable to be fixed and people wind up getting back together so often because they feel comfortable or use to that person. When in reality it is probably a much better idea to just end the relationship and move on. Finding somebody who is better for you, and where there is not so much drama.
2007-02-23 02:11:24 · answer #1 · answered by jam_psb 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not saying they can't work out occasionally for some people,....but more times then not they haven't worked out for me personally anyways. Life is filled with little moments. I believe every relationship you'll ever have with anyone, will have it's significant ups and downs of course. That's just the natural order in stuff and occurrences between two different peoples minds. No two people are ever gonna think exactly alike. Be happy when you do agree together. Get used to it seriously. Respecting each others point of view without attacking is significant. Finding middle ground together in a very civil minded manner will be one of the keys to any good relationship. State up front that you will both allow each other the ability to agree and to disagree. Misunderstandings only occur without good communication, and it generally will lead to one disaster after the other if you don't. No two people always think alike. Learn to respect this idea in everyone. Satisfaction and dissatisfaction are your own creations,...no one else's really. Learn to have a rational attitude when you disagree. You'll find out most times that you shouldn't sweat the little stuff anyways. Learn what's important to you first. That way you'll be able to find out what's important to someone else. You are allowed the ability to be the judge of your own thoughts and behaviors in a relationship. You're not allowed to be the judge of anyone else's. Most civil minded people attempt to come out of the forest to see the other persons light. When you're stuck in your own forest reasonably,...it will be your forest to come out from. Admit that you're human and that we all make mistakes in our own judgements occasionally. You wouldn't be considered a rational open minded human being if you didn't.
2007-02-23 02:40:42 · answer #2 · answered by scott s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can stay for long if both of you want are like the relationship to be like that. But if it happens that one of you have greater expectation about your on and off relationship and the other one disagrees about that, only after that the trouble will start and you might break up.
2007-02-23 02:16:46 · answer #3 · answered by sheil9 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To answer the first part of your question first. " Only if you get married and stay married. " To answer the second part, numbers are unimportant, if you believe that there is a Christian GOD and believe in him for everything including your relationship; the glue he provides is better than super glue, better than epoxy, better than anything industrial. I know because I now have a happy marriage to the greatest girl in the world for me and we were for on again off again like you wouldn't believe!
2007-02-23 02:24:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the reasons for the on and off. If the reasons were extreme (cheating, lieing, stealing, drugs, incarceration, etc.) then probably not. If the reasons for the off again were instability of either person in the realtionship (not being ready) then yes.
2007-02-23 02:30:19 · answer #5 · answered by questioningchick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was with my ex for 4 years off and on. We thought we would be together for ever but eventually i just realised that he was never going to change and i wasnt about to waste anymore time on him and as much as it hurt to say goodbye to him i had to move on. just think about all the reasons you are together and all the reasons you break up and see if its worth fixing or if you are better off moving on.
2007-02-23 02:11:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have
at first we had a rough time because of his ex and she tried to keep the kids from him if I was here
but we eventually got back together and got married and she still tries to make it hard on us but our love is strong and now she cant do anything about it
so there is hope
2007-02-23 02:11:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know one couple - they have been through a lot and are doing great. I think it's all in the situation of the "off-and-on" Like why were they off and on to begin with....? My friends were off and on cause he was going through a divorce and he didnt want his x to be able to hurt him with anything and he didnt want to put her through the drama of dealing with her until it was over. She understood, so thats why they are good today
2007-02-23 02:10:12 · answer #8 · answered by kizdrop 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
most people have off and on relationships as well as a lot of up and downs in there realtionship its something that the two of you will have to work out
2007-02-23 02:10:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know a few who i didnt think would last and they have but i think the majority dont stay together. if your fighing a lot then you shouldnt be together particlary if you have children.
2007-02-23 02:10:09 · answer #10 · answered by vanessaoz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋