Does spanking really work? Why/why not?
2007-02-23 02:02:55 · 14 answers · asked by Cuteness 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Yes it does.
Look at the 50's and 60's when spanking was allowed and children were children not a parent's adult friend. You would have never caught a child acting the way they do now a days.
A little fear of authority is necessary for a well behaved society.
2007-02-23 02:06:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 4⤋
It really depends on the child. Spanking is not often effective with my son. However, he he is being blatantly defiant or has put himself in serious danger (i.e., trying to touch the burners on the stove), he gets a spanking.
For some kids, a light swat on the bottom is all it takes to get them in line. Others require more, and for some it just plain doesn't work at all.
The idea is that there has to be some sort of effective discipline. Without it, there's no doubt the child will be spoiled.
2007-02-23 10:13:00 · answer #2 · answered by Amanda M 4 · 3⤊ 2⤋
i choose not to spank, it does not work in my household and other forms of discipline work wonderfully. However every child is different and every parent is different, what works for one family does not always work for another, and not one person can say unequivocally that spanking across the board should be banned, just as people should not claim that all parents who choose not to spank are idiots or asking for misbehaved children. My children are very well behaved and a hand has never been laid on their backside.
We are all adults and it seem to be that one of the lessons we should ALL be aware of is that there are always exceptions to the rule, always.
2007-02-23 10:16:22 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
In my opinion spanking works.
I grew up not only respecting my parents, but literally fearing consequences of bad actions. My household was a spanking household.
Several of my friends growing up were not spanked. They were far more unruly than I was and a great many have ended up on the wrong side of the law because they never knew what real punishment was growing up.
Now, I look back and thank the Lord that my parents had the courage and foresight to spank me when I did wrong as a child and delve out severe punishments as I got older.
My children get spanked, and I have noticed now that their behavior is much the same. The are respectful, well-mannered, and far better behaved than that of other neighborhood children whom were not spanked or are not spanked.
2007-02-23 10:07:53 · answer #4 · answered by royalpainshane 3 · 4⤊ 3⤋
Wow, this is such a tough one. I agree with royalpain to a certain degree. I was raised in a spanking household and believe that I turned out just fine and we were way more well behaved than our unspanked friends (my brother and I). I also agree that time outs and firm talking are good alternatives. I don't think that spanking will make me an unfit mother though and will probably spank as needed. I think spanking needs to be done by an adult who is mentally and emotionally stable ofcourse and should never turn into beatings or done in anger!
2007-02-23 10:18:11 · answer #5 · answered by child_n_light 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Yes and No. Yes when used effectively. No when it's used just to be used. I think some parents go overboard on the spanking and then it's just like any other punishment. Kids get use to it. Spanking should be used as a last resort and when nothing else has worked. I think in these situations, it becomes more effective.
2007-02-23 10:08:22 · answer #6 · answered by reandsmom77 6 · 3⤊ 2⤋
The easiest answer is: There is NO magic solution.
Spanking works for some and not for others. Some children respond to it and some don't.
Don't listen to the liberal answer that ALL spanking is abuse. It's NOT. There is a difference between discipline and abuse.
Don't listen to the person who stated that it is NOT Biblical. It is Biblical. Ask your pastor.
Children need discipline! That fact is absent in most homes today.
2007-02-23 12:58:52 · answer #7 · answered by elmar66 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Way i was raised , i think thats whats wrong with a bunch of theses kids today that they never got their @ss whipped for anything so they got no respect. Yes i belive spare the rod spoil the child because it says it in the Bible, lot of parents these days wont whip their kids i say if you love em bust their @ss every once inawhile when they really screwing up this really gets their attention 100% then do you usual punishments. God Bless
2007-02-23 10:16:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
No. Hitting is not a natural consequence. They can't relate the crime to the consequence. It just instills fear. I've had better luck just sitting my one year old down and telling a firm no than I ever did with a spank.
It's hard because they don't comprehend what your saying yet. My son is a year old and no matter what I do he's not going to get what I'm trying to say. But, the modified time outs have been working really well.
2007-02-23 10:07:31 · answer #9 · answered by Baby #3 due 10/13/09 6 · 2⤊ 3⤋
Yes. I was spanked and smacked around as a kid and I turned out fine. My husband and all his siblings were hit by their parents and they learned to respect adults. My brother in laws hit their kids if they don't do well in school or refuse to listen to them and they do well in school now because of it.
2007-02-23 12:46:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋