Would a child put you off seeing someone or asking someone out ?
2007-02-23 01:56:08 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
After reading some replys , i would like to add that every single mother out there is not looking for a father for her child as he or she already has a father.
2007-02-23 02:08:55 · update #1
Yes.
2007-02-23 01:58:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
It's a complicated question and then its not, a child should not stop you from dating, however a child should to some degree control it, because it means now you are responsible not only for you future but the future of another, and if the guy is put off by a child then he should consider if he got married to a gal who had no kids, had a family then somehow died, would he want his wife to be companion less and his child deprived of a man who could guide and raise his child as his own?
2007-02-23 04:11:01 · answer #2 · answered by Solitary 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are many people out there who does not want to get involved with single parents. If they don't it is not worth it. Now if the question is from the single mothers point of view, There were several times I didn't go out with someone because I didn't think they were good with my boys. If they didn't like my boys, they can't have me. Than there are the times because you are a single mother they think you are easy. Don't need that kind either, I was not and never have been easy. My sons came from a long term relationship that ended.
2007-02-23 02:03:21 · answer #3 · answered by Virginia C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was a single mum i had a 2 year old little girl and i met a wonderful man that loved my daughter and four years on i have a 6 year old little girl that is still loved by her dad.( this is the relationship they have now dad and daughter) he is going to be my husband in august so my advice to you is if you meet someone and they are put off by you having a child then you should not be with them. There are men out there that will love your child as much as you and will not be put off with you having a child if they are then they are shallow and not worth your time.
2007-02-23 02:04:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesnt just have to be single mothers, the guy that i'm seeing now has got 4 kids and i knew that right from the start but it didnt put me off. You're going out with the parent not the kids!!
2007-02-23 02:32:27 · answer #5 · answered by Nicky D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been a single mother with 2 children and believe me it does not stop me from dating. its all a matter of preference. some men wont mind dating someone with kids but some will. just make sure that you don't rush into anything. you are not looking to replace the father so don't scare them away by bringing them around the kids too quickly. plus you don't want the kids to meet one guy then it doesn't work out then they meet the next guy. that will make you look like you are a tramp and you don't want your kids to think that way of you (even if you are) Lol.
2007-02-23 02:07:23 · answer #6 · answered by Queen of the Nile 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When i was single it was hard to find the right person, I have 2 kids.But i got really lucky and found someone with the same values and morals that i have. My boyfriend now cares about us like a family. U will meet the right guy. Just be picky, if they don't like the kids then move on, u are now a package deal
2007-02-23 02:03:50 · answer #7 · answered by lizzybee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a single mother, the feelings of my children toward ANYONE that I might have entered into my life was always considered. Listen to children, they can see thru alot of things that we can't. If your kids have a problem with someone, look further into it before you decide to bring someone in their lives. Although, there are children out there that will find something wrong with ANYONE that isn't their father, no matter what kind of father he is so you have to know where they stand with your happiness as well as theirs.
2007-02-23 02:01:02 · answer #8 · answered by georgiarose_01 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was a single parent with two children and it never stopped people asking me out!
I have also been out with a single parent father so it works both ways, why should it put you off!!
2007-02-23 02:00:39 · answer #9 · answered by Lisa P 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes.....and this is an honest answer and should not be taken as an insult.... I would be really put off.... and not want the child... and it would eat me up inside that the child wasnt mine.... if we were together.... even if we had a child of our own.... it would be a constant reminder that you slept with another man.....
Hope you can undersatnd where i am coming from as I dont mean any harm....
2007-02-23 03:17:40 · answer #10 · answered by Fox Hunter 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Single mothers were a big no no for me but then the unthinkable happened, which was I fell for one. We dated for about a year but unfortunately it didn't work out. So now I'm back to my old ways of thinking of not dating single mothers. Hey, at least I gave it a try.
2007-02-23 02:10:06 · answer #11 · answered by Gunner For Life! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋