Has he changed?

Question

My ex-mother-in-law told me that her son (my ex-husband)had changed. He was abusive, controlling and pushy during our marriage.

I live in another state and came back to take care of our daughter because he moved due to job reasons.

I don't see any change in him because he did the following things:

1. He made me call and cancel the car insurance on my car since he assumed that I will be in this state for some time and not be driving my car. I paid the car insurance not him and its my car.

2. I will be driving his car and he asked me to pay for the registration of it. It was only $31.00 but it bothered me.

3. He asked me to change my cell phone plan to a family plan. I said No.

I see that he is still controlling, pushy and money-minded. Yet, since I am here taking care of my child, my ex-mother-in-law keeps pushing me to call him and be friends with him.

I am not interested and neither is he.

Answer 1

You answered your own question. He hasn't changed, and you can see know where he gets it from, your ex mother inlaw seems to be just as controlling if not more so.

Answer 2

I believe he will Stay the same90% I have a similar problem mine is not as severe probably. My wife of 39 yrs and I are both type A personalities and we solve it by more arguing before compromising. I'm better but I do believe it is a man thing and really is supposed to be........ BUT WE as MEN must be soft and generous in consideration of our wives ideas and share responsibilities.We live on a small farm so SHE is BOSS of the home and has FINAL say about those related decisions. I have that responsibility outside.She is a better money manager and schedule arranger so SHE does the final deciding .
I note sometimes you say he MADE me ...and sometimes.. he ASKED ME.There in lies the only possibilities. Consider if the two of you are willing to work on that . Mom in law cares but you must decide, as you closed .......He nor You are interested.I Because you have a child you both must consider what difficulties will occur if you remarry and YOU probably will choose the same type fellow and the problem for your daughter will be even more severe. Unlike the others Grandma does have a GREAT interest in this situation. I know you believe you are both grown up but you both as well as grandma and.... me at 71 are still MATURING

Answer 3

I don't see anything changing with him. If neither of you are interested, then your ex MIL needs to be told her concern is nice, but there is just nothing there anymore. I hope he is not controlling and pushy with your daughter.

Answer 4

Sounds like he is a control freak and learned it from his mom. Be careful don't let anyone control you but you. Keep your car , car insurance and exsiting cell plan you are not his or anyone elses to control.

Answer 5

I don't think he has changed at all! I think you need to tell your controlling ex mother in law to back off. You are single now you don't have to take her garbage let her know you don't want any either!!!! Go Girl!!!!

Answer 6

If you are not interested, why did you go through with number 1 and number 2?? This troubles me. You should stay as far away from him as possible and try to get sole custody of your daughter, so he isn't like that with her.

Answer 7

Places change people don't . He will be the same your call . Move on

Answer 8

No he hasnt changed and you are still letting him control parts of you. Break the hold he has on you and stop letting him tell you what to do. You are there for your child, not him.

Answer 9

try to be his friend and see whether he has changed or not......if not then don't listen to ur mother in law and continue taking care of ur children but be nice to her because if she wants you'll to patch up then she must be liking you a lot .....

Answer 10

he could have changed if u want him back u will just have to live with it i guess. but i dont think he changed. follow ur heart!!