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I have been in a relationship for 10 years, we are not married. He doesn't believe in marriage, I do. Problem is I love him so very much and do not want to break up, however everytime we fight he tells me I am fat, disgusting, fat pig, gross, lazy, worthless, and many other demeaning comments. I tell him it hurts me and gets us off topic from what the original fight was, I do not verbally insult him back because my conscience will not allow it, plus I don't think it helps a situation. What do I do, if in 10 years he has not stopped, nothing I do works, and I am not yet ready to break up.

2007-02-23 01:14:42 · 19 answers · asked by Italia 28 3 in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

19 answers

yes, you are being verbally abused. if you have told him that this hurts you and he hasnt stopped, he obviously doesnt care that much about your feelings. even tho you're not ready to break up, it may be time for that. try talking to him when you're not fighting and see what he says. he may say those things while you're fighting because he knows that it does hurt you. talk to him when you're not fighting and see how it goes. that will help you make up your mind on what to do. good luck!!

2007-02-23 01:19:02 · answer #1 · answered by sasha_miller_2008 2 · 0 1

10 years of verbal abuse and you stay? Get ready for a break up quick. Don't waste any more time with this guy. There is someone out there that will treat you 100 times better than this guy. This guy puts you down to make himself feel better, he's not marriage or even boyfriend material.

2007-02-23 01:18:56 · answer #2 · answered by GLSigma3 6 · 0 0

You must love your self first. I do not know you but I assume you are concerned about your weight to allow him to say those things. You will always be the target of those comments. I am sure that you are a beautiful woman who has given your all for the entire relationship. Even if he does not know it...many men would give their left....well you get the picture...to be blessed with someone such as you. I hope you find that someone even if you are not looking. He deserves to lose you as his punishment for being the low life he truly is. All women are beautiful...and need to have their love returned

2007-02-23 01:27:37 · answer #3 · answered by Wat Da Hell 5 · 0 0

Talk to people you know.
Ask them if this is normal. Its not normal
Don't be scared to start again.
Why let someone like him put you down. Is he perfect is he?
Better still, take a walk past a trashy place near your home town and have a look at how some people & couples talk to each other. Its discusting
Watch how other people shake their heads and call them scum bags.
Thats because its wrong.
Imagine if people were a fly on your wall when he does this. What would they say?
Go with your gut......life is not meant to be this way.
I hope you get through it.
He has the issue, not you.

2007-02-23 01:20:32 · answer #4 · answered by kriskros54 3 · 0 0

Why have you stayed in a relationship so long with someone who treats you so bad? I know you dont want to be lonely, but being with someone who treats you crappy is worse than being alone. Maybe you should just up and leave for a few days and not tell him where you went, when he goes crazy not knowing where you are he will learn to appreciate you when you do come home.

2007-02-23 01:19:11 · answer #5 · answered by BlkBeauty24 3 · 0 0

You're in love with this guy and don't want to end the abuse, oh, excuse me, the relationship? I guess, because of his abuse, you don't think too much of yourself. You're afraid you won't be able to get another guy. I think you'd be better off alone for a while. someone will come along. Dump the SOB and stop him from dumping on you.

2007-02-23 01:20:09 · answer #6 · answered by Hibbler 3 · 0 0

yes...he is verbally abusive!! And, if he has continued it for 10 years...he will continue for another 10 years. Dump him, before the abuse gets worse. Love yourself enough to get out. Respect yourself enough to take a stand. No person deserves this treatment.

2007-02-23 01:19:11 · answer #7 · answered by altes_jan 2 · 1 0

Yes, you're being verbally abused.
Think about this: if you love this kind of man enough to put up with his abuse, what would it be like to be with someone who treated you right? It would be a whole new dimension to your love life.

2007-02-23 01:18:32 · answer #8 · answered by Spud55 5 · 0 0

this should have opened your eyes yrs ago.. he is not only being disrespectful he is being abusive in alot of ways. i say move on and find someone who will treat you with respect and love you for who you are. you need to be ready to move on because i can tell you you has. love is not mean or abusive or disrespectful. look up the meaning of love and rethink staying in a relationship that lacks that meaning.. good luck god bless

2007-02-23 01:21:05 · answer #9 · answered by tlcoufan 3 · 0 0

If nothing works, then you should leave him and move on with your life, which you should have done a long time ago especially with all the verbal abuse that he has given you.

2007-02-23 01:18:31 · answer #10 · answered by Jon 5 · 0 0

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